is it always wrong to breach someone&#x27;s privacy?

OP

ok. I have good reason that someone is checking my stuff, and lying about it. I am almost certain that a quick look at their inbox will confirm this. However, I'm just sort of grappling with morality here, while I know that ultimately its the wrong thing to do, its proving almost irresistable not to want to. plus, I have the means to do it at anytime, which is making it hard.

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Anonymous #2

i've done it....and i would strongly recomend that you dont do it....your always going to be looking for something that proves you are right,,,,but it may be totally harmless....i read my ex bfs txt messages and found ones to my best mate who hes at uni with saying "are up just got bk from work can i phone u, cant sleep till i hear your voice" once youfind something like that it ruins your trust

Reply 5

if you do it, and he/she finds out you've done it. Then you dont find the evidence or evidence with counters what you suspect. You may as well kiss the relationship or friendship goodbye.

It is the worst thing you can do in a relationship, it destroys any shread of trust you have in each other.

If your not bothered with destroying the relationship and just want to know your right go ahead and do it. But i just hope you can handle the consequences and its the right descision.

Reply 6

OP

the fact is, I know that she has already done it. I will be willing to bet my right hand on that. I'm pretty angry about this, but the problem is, I don't usually think in terms of "an eye for an eye", but I know that if there is to be evidence that she has done it, then it will be in her inbox. Im not sure if "temptation" is the right word to use here, as it denotes negative connotations and I am (I think) doing this for the right reasons, if there are any at all. For a lack of a better word, I am really, really "tempted" to.

Reply 7

what are you aiming to achieve. You know she has done it, why do you need more proof. Are you willing to dump her with or without this evidence? Or your not going to dump her why do you need to pour more salt in the wound.

Reply 8

OP

Glory

what are you aiming to achieve. You know she has done it, why do you need more proof. Are you willing to dump her with or without this evidence? Or your not going to dump her why do you need to pour more salt in the wound.

She's not my gf, she is an ex-gf. We broke up about 2 month ago, but she took it really badly. I don't really know what I'm hoping to achieve, its just really hard for me to figure out what I should do in this situation.

Reply 9

i definately wouldnt do it, its not going to prove whether you should continue seeing this girl. She could also get you in trouble with the police if your found doing it, it would be a form of harassment.

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OP

Glory

i definately wouldnt do it, its not going to prove whether you should continue seeing this girl. She could also get you in trouble with the police if your found doing it, it would be a form of harassment.

It technicaly would not be harrassment, as section 7 of the Harrasment Act 1997 states that it needs to be "a course of conduct on at least two occasions"

/Law geek

But I take your point. Morally, it is not the right thing to do. Thanks for your help.

Reply 11

hitmanuk2k

Anonymous

i've done it....and i would strongly recomend that you dont do it....your always going to be looking for something that proves you are right,,,,but it may be totally harmless....i read my ex bfs txt messages and found ones to my best mate who hes at uni with saying "are up just got bk from work can i phone u, cant sleep till i hear your voice" once youfind something like that it ruins your trust

That sounds rather harmful if you ask me, as opposed to harmless.

Reply 12

Rugar

'By a lie, one anihilates their dignity as a (person)'

Reply 13

username47781

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I would not read anybody's else's msn, anyway she has no right to read yours especially now that she's an ex.

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Carl1982

I would not read anybody's else's msn, anyway she has no right to read yours especially now that she's an ex.

you got it wrong, he wants to read his ex girlfriends inbox, not her reading his.

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amywalters