Can you forgive drunken cheating?Watch
Apparently you can get off with a drink driving ban if you can prove you were SO drunk you had no knowledge what you are doing. So the same must absolutely hold for infidelity.
Also, how much do you have to drink to reach that point, and how on earth do you even figure out how to drive a car in that state?
This is just hypothetical, but if someone was blackout drunk and had absolutely 0 memory of it happening and cheated on their partner, do you think that's forgiveable?
I ask because there have been 2 occasions for me where I do not remember having sex with the guy AT ALL, completely blank, remember absolutely nothing for even the entire night... only ONE of these guys I would have actually slept with had I been less drunk. I'm not in a relationship btw. I was just thinking had this happened while in a relationship, obviously there would be pain and hurt and I'd really regret it and I'd assume there'd be more mental barriers against it happening... but is it excusable? Or at least understandable?
I know people who have done ridiculous things they would never ever do sober when they get this drunk. Maybe the urge is there do do it extremely deep down when sober but the losses weigh out the risks so they don't. People will always find other people attractive and maybe THINK about having sex with another person, especially in a very old relationship, but never actually do it. Alcohol just destroys those barriers?
Ask me whether I would forgive my girlfriend if she did it though... do you know what, I just might. If she was seriously contrite, committed to never getting that drunk again, and gave me time to get over it, I could see myself forgiving her. It would be hard, and upsetting, but I wouldn't walk away from someone I wanted to spend my life with. At least not without a fight.
If, in the hypothetical example, it was someone I was less invested with, then I almost certainly would call time on the relationship.
I also think being drunk is a poor excuse for cheating, you always know what you're doing, unless it's a situation like I described above and in that case you really shouldn't be getting that drunk. But having said that, I would forgive a one night stand once. People **** up, I know I have, and deserve a second chance. If they mess up a second time or it was more serious than a one night stand then there's clearly something wrong.
Alcohol is not an excuse. I've been drunk in relationships but it doesn't change who I am, or bring out darker aspects of my personality. If alcohol was capable of bringing a darker aspect out of someone, that potential was always in them to begin with.
- Study Helper
Personally no because I don't see being drunk as an excuse to cheat. I see it as just giving you the balls to do something you want to do while sober but didn't have the nerve to do.