Chatting and Photos (Be Honest)

If you've been chatting with someone of the opposite sex online for a while, the two of you decide to swap photos, and you get his/her photo and think he/she is very unattractive, how do you behave? Do you find some way to end the conversation or keep talking to them because it's only the internet anyway? What do you do, seriously?

Reply 1

butterfly1452

It's only the internet, but if it bothers you that much slowly phase out talking to them

Reply 2

Happy_Rocker

1

hahahaha the worst thing is, i've been in that situation :rofl:

i just try not to lie too much...i say 'nice hair' or something along those lines.

Reply 3

high priestess fnord

9

erm who cares what they look like?? unless you met this person on a net dating site of course :p:

i mean, would you stop talking to a woman because you found out she was ugly?

Reply 4

suga_fly_77

6

Erm, it really shouldn't make a difference either way. If you weren't hoping to find them attractive, then what's the big deal? And if you WERE looking to take things further and then thought they were unattractive - well, stopping talking to someone solely based on their looks is utterly shallow. For me an attraction goes so much deeper, and I'm really not just saying that!

Reply 5

nettle7

It hasn't happened actually. Photoshop or whatever, nobody I have conversed with has been unattractive, though I have never shown my own photograph and so I don't know if that would scare them away. It would be terribly shallow to end all contact purely for that.

Reply 6

bedbug

14

Depends what you're talking to them for. If it's because you want a relationship then, despite the fact that they could have a great personality, there has to be some physical attraction. If you're just friends it shouldn't matter in the slightest. I'm not friends with people because of how they look.

From my experience with this situation I don't get put off talking to someone when I see what they look like but it makes me feel a bit weird for a while cos they're never how I imagined they would look. But once you get used to who you're talking to it doesn't matter at all.

Reply 7

suga_fly_77

6

squirly

Depends what you're talking to them for. If it's because you want a relationship then, despite the fact that they could have a great personality, there has to be some physical attraction

People always say this but doesn't anyone else find that they can be attracted to someone based purely on their personality?

Reply 8

hapa_girl

7

phase them out

Reply 9

high priestess fnord

9

suga_fly_77

People always say this but doesn't anyone else find that they can be attracted to someone based purely on their personality?

no

Reply 10

billbonesknowswhatimean

the block button finds time for an excuse to made up to follow a sly comment bout disconnecting

Reply 11

Aeris

OP

15

hapa_girl

phase them out

Reply 12

suga_fly_77

6

high priestess fnord

no

Well what about if a guy you were dating was in a car crash and ended up physically deformed or something? Would you automatically "phase him out" then because there's no "physical attraction" anymore?

Reply 13

rosetinted

2

suga_fly_77

Well what about if a guy you were dating was in a car crash and ended up physically deformed or something? Would you automatically "phase him out" then because there's no "physical attraction" anymore?

That's different. Initial attraction/lack of attraction to someone usually has something to do with looks (well it does for me). If you are already dating someone then presumably you have feelings for them which run deeper than how hot they are and you wouldn't be shallow enough to dump them over it.

Don't twist what someone is saying. Just because she truthfully says there has to be some kind of physical attraction doesn't mean you have to start going on about people being in car crashes. Slightly different from what attracts you to someone don't you think?

Reply 14

high priestess fnord

9

suga_fly_77

Well what about if a guy you were dating was in a car crash and ended up physically deformed or something? Would you automatically "phase him out" then because there's no "physical attraction" anymore?

i'll tell you if it happens :p:

tbh not being able to have sex would be an issue for me so he would have to still be in full working order :wink:

but if the relationship was serious then im sure looks wouldnt matter so much as he would know how to turn me on anyway.

Reply 15

Tyler Durden

17

As someone else has said, it depends why you are talking to the person.

If you somehow see it leading to rampant sex followed by a cigarette and a game of Counterstrike then maybe block him. If you're after long chats about a mutual interest (or whatever) then ignore the fact that they look ugly.

Then again, some poor woman had rampant sex with John Prescott and I can't imagine it's because she found him to be some adonis when shirtless. Hmm, maybe it was the sexy accent? Nah... And it wasn't even his wife who is contractually obliged to shag him. Some people!

Anyway, my point is basically: do what you feel is right.

Reply 16

Chumbaniya

17

Unless you've been communicating with them with intent to start a relationship - not really a good idea if it's not through a suitable online dating agency, I imagine - then I don't see why what they look like should matter in the long term, especially if you intend to just continue talking to them online rather than meeting in real life. It might be awkward if they ask what you thought of the photo, or if they see your photo and find you very attractive, but otherwise if they were interesting to talk to before you knew what they looked like, they should be afterwards too.

Reply 17

Alasdair

14

suga_fly_77

People always say this but doesn't anyone else find that they can be attracted to someone based purely on their personality?

No. If I am attracted to somebody, I'll find them physically attractive. If I don't, then I won't be attracted to them. But by the same token, if they're boring as hell, I probably won't find them physically attractive either...

Reply 18

Aeris

OP

15

I don't really mind one way or the other. It's not like I expect to meet up with someone online, that's not safe. And there's the little fact that all of you live in another country too :rolleyes:

Reply 19

Appanouki

I'd compliment them and then say that they aren't really my type though.

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