sex drive decrease because of depression?

My boyfriend is suffering from a condition that makes him sad often (not really a depression, but a disorder of sorts) and he's on pills and they're decreasing his sex drive I think. We used to get physical (anywhere, anytime) and had so much fun. The thing is, I do love this guy, but I am also a very physical person and sometimes I feel like he's not attracted to me at all. How should I ask him whether he feels like his sex drive is going down because of the condition or because of something else?

Thanks...

Reply 1

warranty-ideal

Sex releases lots of lovely endorphines, getting out of a depressed state... But I never feel like getting jiggy if I'm down. catch 22!

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

EXACTLY!. that's what i feel it is: he rejects endorphines which could actually help him and it's making the condition worse. argh. don't know what to do :frown:

Reply 3

minicoopa

...viagra? no just joking.

maybe dress up or act out one of his fantasies to kick start his sex drive again.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Yea yea, I gave him a strip show twice and it sure did get him going, but that was before this thing...hm...i should go practice! :rolleyes:

Reply 5

BobMob

It's not because he's not interested in you, and a strip show probably will only help temporarily.

If anything it will put him under pressure to get turned on.

How much does he drink?

I had this problem a few months ago, I was drinking a ****load, and I also wasn't working out as regularly as I used to.
I had moodswings, sometimes felt really down but usually OK, wasn't that interested in sex even though I still fancied my girlfriend.
Sometimes I'd make myself have sex, but lose interest halfway through - that went down a treat as you can imagine!

But I've stopped drinking for summer (crazy!) and I'm lifting weights again.
After just a few weeks, my sex drive went completely through the roof, and my sexual perfomance all round is much higher as well (harder, longer lasting, etc).

So my key recommendation is, if he drinks or smokes weed, stop - it will make a huge difference to his sex drive and performance.
Secondly, hit the gym and lift some heavy weights, and particularly focus on working out the legs (do some heavy squats) - this boosts testosterone majorly, as well as releasing lots of those endorphins, and the end result is a happy and very horny boy.

So yeah, let me know whether he drinks much, and how much exercise or sport he does, and also what pills he's on, and if that isn't it I'll offer some other ideas.

Bob.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Ah, he doesn't drink that much anymore (he's cutting down on it) and he's working out in the gym, but only upper body. Will tell him about the legs...hmm...endorphins are yummy. THANKS!

Reply 7

BobMob

Yeah, I seriously can't stress that enough - squats being the most crucial bit.

Legs can seem like a chore, but if you do squats you'll actually find that your upper body develops more because of the hormones released, not to mention the libido boost.

Good luck, let us know how it goes!