Baby fever Watch
I know it's not an option right now because my boyfriend and I aren't financially or emotionally ready and we are both going uni but I want one and it's killing me.
We've been together over a year and have talked about our future and plan to have kids one day just not right now.
His brother has been with his girlfriend for just 3 months and she is pregnant. I know I should be happy for them but I can't help feeling jealous and angry about it. I keep hearing baby talk and seeing photos. I know its not intentional but it's like it's being rubbed in my face and makes me feel even worse.
I know we will have kids in the future but I can't help what I'm feeling now and don't know what to do. Any advice?
When it comes the time around the birth and the first few months, consider giving whatever help you can offer. They'll appreciate it greatly, you'll learn a lot...
... and it may well cure you of wanting one so soon.
In the meantime, yes, you'll notice a lot of baby stuff.
The best advice I can offer is that you remember the practical reasons why having a child wouldn't be right for you now. Your future children will be much happier if you concentrate on your studies now so that you can support them when they do turn up.
Also, watching some videos of babies screaming inconsolably may give you some perspective on motherhood
It might not work for you, but for me, I've found a healthy outlet in watching pregnancy and baby related things like one born every minute and I follow a few youtube mums and pregnancy vlogs. You could also try to get more involved in your brother's Girlfriend's pregnancy if you get on well.. little things like offering to help and asking often how she is... I don't know if this would help you or make it worse, obviously, its not the same but for me its an outlet.