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One girl, always at the back of my mind
Well, theres this girl who i've known for a while now. She used to like me, and I liked her back (although never at the same time) But we just ended up best friends after that for about a year or so, but then now, we dont talk like we used to.
The thing is, shes always at the back of my mind, i've had girlfriends who i've cared about and everything, but shes always there.... Any time that she's text, or e-mailed, I always seem to drop everything and always seem to concentrate on her, which in a way, makes me want to not talk to her, so I dont start falling for her in the way I used to.
But the thing is, should I tell her whats on my mind, or just leave it for now? Its actually been months since i've seen her, would it be better to say so in person, or through e-mail or somthing?
The thing is, shes always at the back of my mind, i've had girlfriends who i've cared about and everything, but shes always there.... Any time that she's text, or e-mailed, I always seem to drop everything and always seem to concentrate on her, which in a way, makes me want to not talk to her, so I dont start falling for her in the way I used to.
But the thing is, should I tell her whats on my mind, or just leave it for now? Its actually been months since i've seen her, would it be better to say so in person, or through e-mail or somthing?
Dimez
You pretty much answered the question for yourself.
Either phone her or meet in person then tell her how you feel. Good luck.
Either phone her or meet in person then tell her how you feel. Good luck.
Well i'm still not sure weather I should really tell her, as it might make her feel weird... Would girls want to be told about this if it was their friend?
I was in a similar situation once, but i had to think to myself two things. One was whether I could cope without telling this person and doing something about it. The second was, if I was able to cope, how long for? and would I regret it?
In the end I had to do it, seeing as though we were going to uni, i couldn't cope not telling her as it would destroy me if I never talked to her like i used to or if she'd met someone else. You know the whole is she the one thing?? Well think about it like this, if you let it go and you dont say something, what if she is?? the feeling of not being with that person and the happiness that could have been there, just because you didn't say something, which you will more than likely regret.
What i'm trying to say is after all that (which you will more than likely find useless because i'm hopeless at advice) is that think about what you want aswell, sometimes with something like that it's better to say something and maybe regret it, than to leave it nagging in the back of you head.
In the end I had to do it, seeing as though we were going to uni, i couldn't cope not telling her as it would destroy me if I never talked to her like i used to or if she'd met someone else. You know the whole is she the one thing?? Well think about it like this, if you let it go and you dont say something, what if she is?? the feeling of not being with that person and the happiness that could have been there, just because you didn't say something, which you will more than likely regret.
What i'm trying to say is after all that (which you will more than likely find useless because i'm hopeless at advice) is that think about what you want aswell, sometimes with something like that it's better to say something and maybe regret it, than to leave it nagging in the back of you head.
whats the worst that can happen? you'll know the truth. Its better to know no than not know at all, and i think regretting not asking would be a damn sight harder to get over than regretting asking
i was in a similar situation once, and it was a whole lot better after telling her, plus i learnt a few interesting things. Havent seen her for ages, but with a bit of luck we'll be going to the same uni in october and who knows
i was in a similar situation once, and it was a whole lot better after telling her, plus i learnt a few interesting things. Havent seen her for ages, but with a bit of luck we'll be going to the same uni in october and who knows
Jelkin
Do it. I've been in a similar situation and because I never had closure, I still think about it. You won't be able to rest unless you tell her.
P.S. Once upon a time I started an Unrequited Love Society, but no one wanted to join
P.S. Once upon a time I started an Unrequited Love Society, but no one wanted to join
I think that I would of definatly joined that soc...
tell her. I didn't tell a guy how i felt, and now it's too late.
o and definitely in person
bullyfish
The thing is, shes always at the back of my mind, i've had girlfriends who i've cared about and everything, but shes always there....
The thing is, shes always at the back of my mind, i've had girlfriends who i've cared about and everything, but shes always there....
I'm in a similar situation but mine is the opposite gender. Although me and him are not as close as you with that girl but i occationally talk to him at work. I wouldn't tell him how i feel for him as I don't think i'll have any chance. He will be going back to Uni soon and there will be lots of hot chicks round him, i'm sure he'll fancy someone else when he's away to Uni so no point taking risk.
NickNack
well its not always possible to tell them in person - wasnt for me. but yeh if you can, do. you'll hate not knowing more and more, and might even miss something big
such as?
Anonymous
such as?
I think he means that if he didn't say anything, it could result him missing out and the relationship could have been something big.
pfft...i was / am in the same situation...didn't do anything about it (good friends..but there's always awkwardness)...regret it like hell...but yeh.. i have lots of regrets so whatever. I feel like a total jackass for still having feelings for this girl - what a pathetic fool i am lol...
bullyfish
But the thing is, should I tell her whats on my mind, or just leave it for now? Its actually been months since i've seen her, would it be better to say so in person, or through e-mail or somthing?
But the thing is, should I tell her whats on my mind, or just leave it for now? Its actually been months since i've seen her, would it be better to say so in person, or through e-mail or somthing?
Meet her in person, phone her, text her, email her or whatever, just do it man
Sharp_Shooter
Meet her in person, phone her, text her, email her or whatever, just do it man
Yeah, c'maon, take one for the team already. I bet she has a hankering for OP too.
bullyfish
Well, theres this girl who i've known for a while now. She used to like me, and I liked her back (although never at the same time) But we just ended up best friends after that for about a year or so, but then now, we dont talk like we used to.
The thing is, shes always at the back of my mind, i've had girlfriends who i've cared about and everything, but shes always there.... Any time that she's text, or e-mailed, I always seem to drop everything and always seem to concentrate on her, which in a way, makes me want to not talk to her, so I dont start falling for her in the way I used to.
But the thing is, should I tell her whats on my mind, or just leave it for now? Its actually been months since i've seen her, would it be better to say so in person, or through e-mail or somthing?
The thing is, shes always at the back of my mind, i've had girlfriends who i've cared about and everything, but shes always there.... Any time that she's text, or e-mailed, I always seem to drop everything and always seem to concentrate on her, which in a way, makes me want to not talk to her, so I dont start falling for her in the way I used to.
But the thing is, should I tell her whats on my mind, or just leave it for now? Its actually been months since i've seen her, would it be better to say so in person, or through e-mail or somthing?
I can identify with this situation, although I'm a girl and the person in question is my best friend (a guy).
Just tell her. Go for it!
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