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aghhh

my bf is going away to uni in sept and he's meet a girl on here who goes to that uni and he has her msn and mobile number and everything.
am i being stupid to worry about this?
:confused:

Reply 1

Gem

14

Just talk to him about how you feel.

He'll either tell you something is going on and at least you'll know the truth, or he'll tell you you have nothing to worry about and feel flattered that you care about him so much.

Talking to him is the best thing I think.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

i did kinda ask him but he said i was just being silly and that he hardly even knew her. but i still have this thing in the back of my head that they chat all the time and i dont think she knows he has a gf. (i asked him about that and he said that it hadnt come up and it didnt matter if she knew or not( which is fair enough)) hmmm

Reply 3

dh00001

16

you could gouge his eyes out with a spoon....... OR u could tell him your problems etc.

but keep going on about it runs the risk of potentialy pushing him towards her

Reply 4

username47781

20

Just best to tell him your concerned about it, but just keep telling him how much you value your relationship with him

Reply 5

Candy-Kills

1

if hes going to uni in another city or far away from you, you should have in mind that you two will end up having to split, dont say anything and dont spoil your last moments together.

if you're gonna stay in the same city/place though, talk to him about it and he'll probably just tell you its a new friend (true)

Reply 6

sunscreen

7

lol omg just coz hes moving does NOT mean you'll split!

maybe he's talking to her because she's in the same boat as him, not because she's a girl or anything!
I spoke to loads of guys going to my uni just giving them general advice and stuff and my bf knows i wouldnt do anything!

basically you have to trust him, if he cheats on you its HIS LOSS!
however if you both love each other it wont be a problem!

Reply 7

Magali

Don't make yourself sound paranoid and obsessive though, bring it up with him and if he says there's nothing going on between them then you have to make your own conclusion as to whether or not you trust him.

If this bothers you how will you feel when he meets lots of new girls at uni? If you trust him and love each other you just have to keep remembering that he chose you above anyone else and just meeting a few new girls shouldnt change that.

Reply 8

Flicker

13

Anonymous

my bf is going away to uni in sept and he's meet a girl on here who goes to that uni and he has her msn and mobile number and everything.
am i being stupid to worry about this?
:confused:

when he goes to uni he's going to meet a lot of girls and get their msn and mobile numbers. That doesn't mean he'll do anything, it just means you have to talk about how you're feeling and ensure the trust is there.

Reply 9

squirrel_commander

it's something you'll have to get used to, i'm afraid.

just tell him that you want him to be honest with you (...if you do!).

Reply 10

username39618

1

dh00001

you could gouge his eyes out with a spoon....... OR u could tell him your problems etc.

but keep going on about it runs the risk of potentialy pushing him towards her

SPOON SPOON SPOON
Use the spoon...

Reply 11

aleathiel

16

would you be less worried if it was a guy? come on it just happens to be someone that he can talk to about going to the uni, etc give him the benefit of the doubt. If it was you that was talking to a guy and there was nothing there, how would you want him to react?

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

Candy-Kills

if hes going to uni in another city or far away from you, you should have in mind that you two will end up having to split, dont say anything and dont spoil your last moments together.

if you're gonna stay in the same city/place though, talk to him about it and he'll probably just tell you its a new friend (true)

yeah coz that was helpful and made me feel really happy :mad:

Reply 13

amywalters

1

No you aren't stupid. I'd feel the same. It doesnt mean you do not trust him either, but just don't trust them. You aren't being stupid to wonder, but the more you work yourself up, then trust me, the more you are gonna push him away.

Just think of it as a trust challenge, he clearly knows that he wants you enough to keep these girls numbers, if he didnt, he'd keep them well away from you and wouldnt tell you. Not every girl he meets he'll want to jump into bed with.

Reply 14

Sharp_Shooter

1

Anonymous

my bf is going away to uni in sept and he's meet a girl on here who goes to that uni and he has her msn and mobile number and everything.
am i being stupid to worry about this?
:confused:

O, beware, of jealousy!
It is the green-eyed monster which doth mock
The meat it feeds on.
:ditto:

Reply 15

dh00001

16

il fetch a spoon ...........

Reply 16

tctc

dont trust anyone

Reply 17

hapa_girl

7

Anonymous

my bf is going away to uni in sept and he's meet a girl on here who goes to that uni and he has her msn and mobile number and everything.
am i being stupid to worry about this?
:confused:

if you're so concerned, it probably means you havn't been with this guy long enough to completely trust him and know what his actions mean.

going to uni is a scary thing at first. you're sent in there, without knowing ANYBODY, everyone is a stranger and you have to start all over with making friends etc. maybe your bf is letting that fear get to him and he is just trying to secure a friend in advance. who knows?

give him the benefit of the doubt, but also TELL him that you feel like this.

if the bond is good enough between you two, it will outlast the time apart.
if not, then put him in the past as another of your ex-bfs and part of a fun growing up experience.

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

OP

we have been going out for 8 months now. but i think i was just overacting a bit . i mean he said himslef he hardly knows her and hardly talks to her. i no he wants to be with me coz if he didnt he would be with some 1 else already i mean these 8 month havent been easy with my ex and everything so if he didnt love me then we would have got a long time ago. lol
thank you though guys you have been a real help!!
love you all xxx