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Posting anon, because people know me on here.

I really like this guy, but he's like 11 years older than me. He's 29 i am 19. Is this age gap okay to date him?

Reply 1

generalebriety

16

Yep.

Long as you're over the age of consent (you are, in fact, now legally an adult), and you're not doing something completely dumb like dating a 60-year-old, and you two are serious about it, why not?

Reply 2

Eternity Forever

12

Age is just a number,

P.S. But this only applies up to a certain age as I dont see a 19 year old going out with a 97 year old!

Reply 3

Helenia

20

It depends on what you think. Personally I think that in a lot of cases that kind of age gap is too much; you're in very different places in your life at those two ages. It works for some people though, so if you like him, go for it. Just tread carefully.

Reply 4

pink_lucie

14

who cares! if you like him go ahead! age aint nothing but a numberrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

generalebriety

Yep. Long as you're over the age of consent (you are, in fact, now legally an adult), and you're not doing something completely dumb like dating a 60-year-old, and you two are serious about it, why not?

I am serious about it, i think he is too but i need to talk to him about it. Also it's a long distance thing, at the moment. He lives in California, i live in London i want to move to California permenantly, not just for him but for myself. I have met him many times.

ant247

if he's 29 and ur 19 the age gap is 10 years, hun.
if u like him enough, go for it.
the fact that ur over eighteen might make it a little more socially acceptable.
but who cares wat they think, eh?

Thanks for correcting me. I will, when i next see him :smile:

It's stange the way things must be socially acceptable, before you date someone over the age that you are.

mysterious lady

Age is just a number,

P.S. But this only applies up to a certain age as I dont see a 19 year old going out with a 97 year old!

You're right, true. Then that is just werid for anyone my age to be dating a 97 yr old lol!

Helenia

It depends on what you think. Personally I think that in a lot of cases that kind of age gap is too much; you're in very different places in your life at those two ages. It works for some people though, so if you like him, go for it. Just tread carefully.

I don't mind the age gap, but i do sometimes wish that i was his age. Thats the only thing that worrys me. We are in very different places in our lives i sometimes feel that he has a side to him that is the age of me. I will go for it :smile:

I will be careful thank you :smile:

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

gossip_girl

who cares! if you like him go ahead! age aint nothing but a numberrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Yes i really like him he is so fit :smile:

I love that pharse,I do believe its a song by Aaliyah. I should listern to it.

Reply 7

Helenia

20

Anonymous

Yes i really like him he is so fit :smile:

I love that pharse,I do believe its a song by Aaliyah. I should listern to it.

I don't think age is "nothing but a number," but it doesn't have to be an issue if you both acknowledge the difference and handle it accordingly :smile:

Reply 8

emmathe37th

Yeah, go for it. My friend had the same age gap (19-29) and they were fine (well...okay, so they broke up last week after 3 years but forget the breaking up part)

My ex was 25 when I was 17 and it wasn't an issue at all.

Go GET that older man, girl!!

(oh listen to me...I've been watching too much Jerry Springer)

Reply 9

loopymeg

13

There's 5yrs between my sister and her boyfriend, and 12yrs between my mum and my step-dad, so I'd say that it's ok as long as you're both comfortable with it.

Reply 10

mooncheese89

10

Go for it. My other half is 11 years older than me and we fit perfectly. It doesn't matter :wink:

and ignore what anyone you know says if they 'disapprove'. It's up to you to do what makes you happy.

Reply 11

shady lane

16

A 29 year old that wants to date a 19 year old is probably immature, and/or looking for a girlfriend that he can somewhat control. I am 22 and wanted to date a 29 year old when I was 20, I didn't see the big deal but just 2 years later I totally understand why he was apprehensive about it.

Reply 12

username47781

20

Depends i mean theres a difference in maturity between a 19 year old and a 29 year old but by all means go for it. You also gotta take into account at 19your still living your life and having fun while at 29 your more thinking of settling down and getting married etc

Reply 13

Gammon

You are doing nothing wrong legally so if you want to go for it.
Though I agree with carl1982. He may want to settle down, is this what you want at 20?

Reply 14

Anonymous #2

one of my friends is 15 and her bf is 22. They have been having sex for at least a year... at first i was terrified for her, but i just make sure she tells me where she is going etc.

In my view its wrong, and he must have something wrong in his head, however she just cant see it??? In her own little world... I must find a way somehow for a happy ending...

so going back to the real thread... i would keep your distance personaly!

Reply 15

hapa_girl

7

Anonymous

Posting anon, because people know me on here.

I really like this guy, but he's like 11 years older than me. He's 29 i am 19. Is this age gap okay to date him?

I personally think that large age-gaps are only problematic when the younger of the two, is still relatively 'young' in terms of life experience etc.

Also because the two people may want different things, as you tend to want different things in different stages of life.

And so, personally, 19 + 29 I don't really ... approve of, or expect to work out I guess.

But hey, it's you and your life and you feel it's right then it's no problem. Good luck to you

Reply 16

black_mamba

14

Anonymous

He's 29 i am 19. Is this age gap okay to date him?

Of course it is, a lifestyle fully endorsed by black_mamba (she did the same at your age). :biggrin:

Rule 1?

Pedobear

I have the same problem. I'm 25, she's 9. Is that acceptable?

i think that's ok - as long as parents aren't aware

Reply 19

Appanouki

totally depends on the situation. be aware though that because there is possibly also a significant gap in your maturity levels the attraction may be only physical.

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