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Divided loyalties

Not sure what to do and need to decide soon. Basically, we've had some building work done which has dragged on longer than originally expected and a door still needs to be fitted - we have it in our garage and the carpenter is coming next week. Mum however is refusing to pay the builder until it's fitted. She wants to hold back £1,000 (out of his total bill of £2,500) until the carpenter has been. It's awkward 'cos I've been getting on really well with the builders and they've invited me down to the pub with them tomorrow afternoon. I think they'll uninvite when mum starts messing them about with the money - the guy's coming to pick up her cheque first thing tomorrow. My question is, should I txt him and warn him she's gonna be pissy? I know they've probably been nice to me cos I'm the daughter of a customer, but they wouldn't have invited me to the pub if they didn't consider me a mate right? Please help cos my mum will go ape if she knows I've warned the builder what she's planning but likewise I think I'll lose any hope of a social life if I don't. ARGH.

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Reply 1

Anonymous #1

Come on people please?!!! 13 of you have looked at this and no-one has any suggestions?!!

Reply 2

username47781

well i cant blame your mom for not paying them until its done when its taken longer than it should do, maybe you could go to the pub to get to know them at least, but yeah your mom will not be very happy.

Reply 3

Alasdair

They've invited you to the pub because they want to shag you. This is not going to change if your mum doesn't pay them for being cowboys...

Reply 4

worldwide

go to the pub but don't tell them. When they find out be all 'oh my god, that's so out of order, i would have told you if i'd realised' to them. Don't fall out with your mum because of it because that's clearly more important.

That way you SHOULD stay friendly with both parties. After all, they'll still get paid the same amount eventually.. right?

Reply 5

username47781

well if she does end up sleeping with the builders her mother will sure go absolutely mental

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Thanks Carl but do you think I should txt him and warn him? Isn't that what mates do? I'd ruin his evening though wouldn't I? ARGH. Help?!

Reply 7

Anonymous #2

you are bloody naive!!!! do you really think they think of you as their mates???????? that's probably the most naive post i have ever read! the short answer is NO!!!! They are builders for goodness sake's! It's in their personal statement to sweet talk their employees and most possibly their relatives!!!! First of all you're a woman! duh! of course they're gonna talk to you and flirt to you a little. Just because they do this doesn't necessarily mean that they're your mates. Another point, just because they have invitied you down the pub doesn't necessarily means that they're you're friends! You seem like you're desperate for friends! for goodness sakes, there are othe rpeople at round about the same age as you are in your school/college? aren't you suppose to have friends from school/college as it seems to me you feeli like a completel loner hence you are making friends with the builders. Nothing wrong with that but something's wrong if you think they are you're best friends forever that it will break your heart if they stop hanging out with you. Honestly, i think you love the attention they gave to you. And to be honest, you sound a little slutty. i mean who in the right mind plus a girl would go to a pub with a bunch of blokes she barely met! Sounds to me they're planning to get your drunk and get you knocked up! for godness sakes open your eyes, stop being naive and get real friends! Coz i mean after they're project they will forget about you completely as you're nothing but one of the employees daughters they want to knock up!

Reply 8

username47781

i dont think you should text him your mom has every right not to be happy

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

Maybe I didn't make it clear - they're coming for the cheque first thing tomorrow morning; pub's not til later.

Reply 10

username47781

yeah but i think they're only asking to the pub so they can get their way with you

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

I doubt it, the two who have been working here mostly are both married with kids. I'm 22, one of them's 25 the other is 30 and they have an apprentice who's like 18 or something. I don't drink and I'm not a slut either.

Reply 12

username47781

yeah but when has that stopped married men in the past trying it on, just becareful if you do go to the pub with them

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

Ok, well even my dad thinks she's being unreasonable by holding back a grand. He said she should keep back like 5-10% but 1k is totally stupid and he said he wouldn't defend her decision either.

Reply 14

Purple

Was it the builders job to put the door on?

Reply 15

Laika

Of course you shouldn't warn them for Christ sake. If you really are that desperate to win the positive attention of them then just pretend you didn't know about it. And if they uninvite you over something your Mum does then they're obviously not worth knowing. I agree that you're being a little naive about it.

Reply 16

loopymeg

Is the carpenter a separate contractor to the builders?

Reply 17

Tyler Durden

No, don't bloody text him. :rolleyes:

Reply 18

dragonlance

Anonymous

...I'm not a slut either.

really? well you sound like one! go get some real friends!

Reply 19

mortderire

who's money is it? whos house is it?
if its ur mum's then she can bloody well do what she likes with it- id do the same

and yh u do seem like ur very desperate for a shag- uv met them a cupla tyms and theyre ur 'mates'? ok...

looks2 me like uv got this thread so u can get some encouragement/support to go to the pub and also tell ur builder 'mates' wot ur mums guna do

DONT TEXT EM