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confused and sad. =[

I'm 14 years old and have just got together with my 2nd boyfriend. I tend to be careful of who i go out with, because i don't want to make big mistakes. my first bf lasted 7 months, but i'm afraid this one won't last 2 weeks the way i'm feeling. don't get me wrong, i'm not concerned about length of relationship, but whether it needs more time. You see, i do not feel 100% comfortable with him. he is sweet, but very clingy. he can be a bit possesive as well, just small things like he wants me to hang around with him and his mates, rather than go with my own. as soon as i suggest he comes with me he says yes immediatly. i care about him a lot and i'm just worried that i do not love him like he loves me. he says to me that he loves me, and i say i love him too, but i just don't know whether i do, and i feel really bad. =[

thanks

Reply 1

username47781

20

simply i don't think your ready for a relationship yet

You're 14.

your profile says your 15

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

sorry i meant 15

Reply 5

username47781

20

well we know who you are now so no point being anonymous, but going back to topic why on earth did you go out with him if you were unsure

Reply 6

Random-Anime-Girlie<3

yea i know lol. I thought i was sure. i even asked him to give me time to think about it and get to know him better. but you see, being his gf makes everything different. hes more clingy and shows me off to people =[

Reply 7

username47781

20

trouble is at your age your feelings will change lots of times even over a small number of days, let me tell you from experience its always better to be friends for a while and get to know each other more before going the next step.

Reply 8

Random-Anime-Girlie<3

thanks. i know your right... i guess i'm just going to have to have a talk with him.

Reply 9

Sithius

16

You been going out with this lad for what, a week? lol I doubt he loves you. No idea of true love.

Reply 10

khil

15

Random-Anime-Girlie<3

yea i know lol. I thought i was sure. i even asked him to give me time to think about it and get to know him better. but you see, being his gf makes everything different. hes more clingy and shows me off to people =[

I think you're trying to be mature, but you're only 15 and you may be, I wouldn't know, mature for your age, but that does not mean you are "mature" - if you get me? Like a 10-year-old can be mature for his age but you and I know that he still has an awful lot to learn.

Don't try to grow up faster than you can. It's great to try and be mature and I encourage it, but don't "make" yourself grow up faster than you need because that simply doesn't work. I have a friend who's like that but he needs to cus of family circumstances, and from my perspective, the way I see it, it's doing him so much harm, cus he tries so hard to grow up, but he's only 18, and he's not as mature as he needs to be for his family, and he wants to act 18 cus he is, but he also needs to grow up faster than he can. I feel sad for him sometimes cus he's a great guy and should just be allowed to take the time he needs to grow up. There's nothing wrong with taking time.

Your bf sounds too possessive in my opinion, but then again he's like, 15, I'm assuming? So he's not mature himself, so he might still change. But that's exactly it. You're both growing and changing by the year - when you're 16 you will think back to now and think "Whoa I was so immature back then" - and you don't even know what either one of you is actually like, who you two are. Spend the time now to get to know yourself and grow up and worry about relationships and complimenting each other later. You're still young and not ready for a relationship. Even at 18 (19 next week) I still have so much to learn and I know I'm still such a kid, You're 15. Don't rush into things.

Break up with him - you're not comfortable, he sounds immature and has a problem with possessiveness, and you're only 15 and still needs to mature a lot before you should contemplate a relationship. Good luck :hugs:

Reply 11

Solid_L

11

Pretty simple really, tell him to back off a little bit, communication is the best policy :smile:

He is young (I imagine) and doesn't know how to act in a relationship - chances are he thinks he should act clingy to show he cares etc. just tell him to have fun, spend time with his friends and the times you are together will be more special :smile:

Reply 12

khil

15

Solid_L

Pretty simple really, tell him to back off a little bit, communication is the best policy :smile:

He is young (I imagine) and doesn't know how to act in a relationship - chances are he thinks he should act clingy to show he cares etc. just tell him to have fun, spend time with his friends and the times you are together will be more special :smile:

Off topic - wow 4 medicine offers!? Impressive! Well done!

Reply 13

Sharp_Shooter

1

irisng

Off topic - wow 4 medicine offers!? Impressive! Well done!

WTF? surly they have a thread for this sort of thing :rolleyes:

Reply 14

Solid_L

11

irisng

Off topic - wow 4 medicine offers!? Impressive! Well done!

Lol, thanks :redface:

Reply 15

khil

15

Sharp_Shooter

WTF? surly they have a thread for this sort of thing :rolleyes:

Sorry!!! Just surprising, that's all. Anyway I have no intention of going off topic again so just ignore this post of mine and let the thread carry on :smile:

Reply 16

Random-Anime-Girlie<3

lol thanks for your help

confused and sad. =[

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