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Forlorn Frenchy

This is about my (ex) flatmate.

Anyway, the thing is, my flatmate was French. We were in the flat alone together for maybe a week...plus a few odd days. I feel we became quite close. She was really the most beautiful girl I've ever seen, I feel blessed that she even gave me the time of day.

Examples of the [mutual?] attraction:

* She gave me her credit card to top up my phone when I needed credit
* She asked for my email address to keep in touch
* She would whip me with her hair when she came out of the shower and would have one of those mischievous smiles on
* She would always throw water on me and said 'there's tomato sauce on your back' (to get me to take my top off?)
* The day before I was moving out, she cleaned my entire flat for me (I'm hopeless at cleaning)
* When I cut my finger she treated it with alcohol and bandaged it up etc
* She called me baby boy on MSN and would always send me that rose emoticon whatever that means

And just you know, being nice to me etc and we would have a laugh a lot...

Anyway, she went back to France about two months ago and I haven't heard from her since! I sent her an email about two weeks ago just asking how she was etc and letting he know the 'news' in my life. She hasn't replied and hasn't been online on MSN since she was back in France.

Does she just not want to talk to me? Or maybe her boyfriend has told her to stop talking to me (her boyfriend was in France, I never made a move on her or vice versa)? Did her plane crash? OR maybe she's just really busy with work in France?

What should I do? I want to talk to her and sort of even miss her. She asked me to go to France and see her too...its weird that she would just stop talking to me...help please.
Reply 1
Anonymous
This is about my (ex) flatmate.

Anyway, the thing is, my flatmate was French. We were in the flat alone together for maybe a week...plus a few odd days. I feel we became quite close. She was really the most beautiful girl I've ever seen, I feel blessed that she even gave me the time of day.

Examples of the [mutual?] attraction:

* She gave me her credit card to top up my phone when I needed credit
* She asked for my email address to keep in touch
* She would whip me with her hair when she came out of the shower and would have one of those mischievous smiles on
* She would always throw water on me and said 'there's tomato sauce on your back' (to get me to take my top off?)
* The day before I was moving out, she cleaned my entire flat for me (I'm hopeless at cleaning)
* When I cut my finger she treated it with alcohol and bandaged it up etc
* She called me baby boy on MSN and would always send me that rose emoticon whatever that means

And just you know, being nice to me etc and we would have a laugh a lot...

Anyway, she went back to France about two months ago and I haven't heard from her since! I sent her an email about two weeks ago just asking how she was etc and letting he know the 'news' in my life. She hasn't replied and hasn't been online on MSN since she was back in France.

Does she just not want to talk to me? Or maybe her boyfriend has told her to stop talking to me (her boyfriend was in France, I never made a move on her or vice versa)? Did her plane crash? OR maybe she's just really busy with work in France?

What should I do? I want to talk to her and sort of even miss her. She asked me to go to France and see her too...its weird that she would just stop talking to me...help please.



Your predicament sounds like mine, which is very ironic. Though in my case , the French girl sent me an email , so I replied, but has not e-mailed me back 8 weeks later.

She too had a bf, I suspect shes probably too busy with him...
Reply 2
Things change when you go back home from being in a different country, and even the best of friends sometimes struggle to keep in touch given what's going on in each other's lives etc.

It's a little irrational and drastic to be thinking that the reason she hasn't emailed you is that her plane has crashed. All of the stuff you described just sounds like normal friendship, and well, i'd either take the hint that she didn't want to talk to me or keep in touch, or realise she's probably busy and give her time to reply.
Reply 3
Don't tell me that :frown: lol

Should I email her again or something? All I can think is her boyfriend must have told her to stop talking to me...all I sent when he was there is 'can you check the mail before you go to see if my bank statement is there' and she never replied...

Maybe her bf got jealous...I want to talk to her lol

BTW I don't have her mobile number, I didn't want to seem like I was making a move on her by asking for it...but I wish I had it now :frown:
Reply 4
Anonymous
Don't tell me that :frown: lol

Should I email her again or something? All I can think is her boyfriend must have told her to stop talking to me...all I sent when he was there is 'can you check the mail before you go to see if my bank statement is there' and she never replied...

Maybe her bf got jealous...I want to talk to her lol

BTW I don't have her mobile number, I didn't want to seem like I was making a move on her by asking for it...but I wish I had it now :frown:


Exactly what I thought / or am currently thinking. Because in my case she invited me to France in her initial email to me , yet cant be bothered to keep in touch. :confused: By the way she emailed me soon after I sent her a text message whilst drunk saying that *I missed her*. - But I really wouldn't recommend doing that.

I really wouldn't bother in keeping on trying to stay in contact with her. I know she sounds great, with her personality and everything. But, the way you should look at it, is that if she really wanted to keep in touch, she would have done so.

Its annoying, I know.
Reply 5
I'll send one last email...saying I miss her cooking hehe.
Reply 6
Anonymous
I'll send one last email...saying I miss her cooking hehe.


Good luck! :wink:
Reply 7
Thanks :smile:
Anonymous
Does she just not want to talk to me? Or maybe her boyfriend has told her to stop talking to me (her boyfriend was in France, I never made a move on her or vice versa)? Did her plane crash? OR maybe she's just really busy with work in France?


:toofunny: HAHAHA!

Is it wrong I find that so funny? :evil:

OP, are you ever likely to see her again? If she was interested, would you be prepared to have a long distance relationship/move to France? I'd say move on and find someone closer to home unless you're head over heels in love with this girl, and are willing to go to France and scoop her up in your arms knights of old style. NB: French customs aren't fond of drunk 'Ingleesh' people staggering through customs wearing crusaders outfits and demanding a rematch of The Hundred Years' War... :redface:
Reply 9
The Mudman
:toofunny: HAHAHA!

Is it wrong I find that so funny? :evil:

OP, are you ever likely to see her again? If she was interested, would you be prepared to have a long distance relationship/move to France? I'd say move on and find someone closer to home unless you're head over heels in love with this girl, and are willing to go to France and scoop her up in your arms knights of old style. NB: French customs aren't fond of drunk 'Ingleesh' people staggering through customs wearing crusaders outfits and demanding a rematch of The Hundred Years' War... :redface:


OP I will join you in such a crusade if you want. :ridinghor
Reply 10
Nah I agree it wouldn't be an ideal set up long term or long distance.

One night alone with her though...

*drools*


(and not from his mouth :wink: )

Hehe.
NB: French customs aren't fond of drunk 'Ingleesh' people staggering through customs wearing crusaders outfits and demanding a rematch of The Hundred Years' War...


Ahahahahah!

Ok, OP, I had some experience with a French girl, too. She was in love with me, I wasn't (when she was physically with me) and never made any move.
After she went, I was thinking about her all the time. But suddenly calling her or telling her you love her won't help much, I think.
I heard her again after 2 years because I sent her a postcard from somewhere in the world. And she came to see me that summer. Oooh sweetie... mmmmmm aaaaah...

You see, anything - love or friendship - that is divided by long distance has one disadvantage: you don't know what she is doing, and she doesn't know what you are doing.
So it all depends on both of you.
I know people who have met again after decades... now I guess that wouldn't be nice; my advice: enjoy your life and keep her as an "avatar". Occasionally (not every month!) send her a postcard asking her how she is, etc. and don't be invadent! Don't show that you love her, or she might never reply again.

Until you meet again, let life bring its other surprises to you, too =)