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four way relationship

hi peeps, i need some mega mega help here!

i have got a friend of mine (female) that i've known for about 3 years now, we went out a while back and we split just randomly, we can't remember what it was about! anyway! for the past couple of weeks we've been seeing each other as friends. this girl has also been seeing my to best mates quite regularly as friends aswell, now i know that she has feelings for me and i have feelings for her but she has also been flirting with my 2 mates, i'm not 100% about whats going on, it seems that i'm being towed around in circles!

any idea about what i should do? anything would be helpful,

thanks people!

Mr-X
How exactly do you know she has feelings for you? Maybe she still likes you, as an ex, but wants to move on from you... but you haven't given us much detail so I really can't help further. :p:
Reply 2
sorry what else do you want to know?

the ways i know that she likes me, (apart from saying it to my face) is that problems that she's had in the past she's come to me for help, she tends to think alot about me (even when she's been with previous partners!)

hope this helps?
Reply 3
Anonymous
hi peeps, i need some mega mega help here!

i have got a friend of mine (female) that i've known for about 3 years now, we went out a while back and we split just randomly, we can't remember what it was about! anyway! for the past couple of weeks we've been seeing each other as friends. this girl has also been seeing my to best mates quite regularly as friends aswell, now i know that she has feelings for me and i have feelings for her but she has also been flirting with my 2 mates, i'm not 100% about whats going on, it seems that i'm being towed around in circles!

any idea about what i should do? anything would be helpful,

thanks people!

Mr-X



she sounds like she wants more attention than she deserves.
Anonymous
sorry what else do you want to know?

the ways i know that she likes me, (apart from saying it to my face) is that problems that she's had in the past she's come to me for help, she tends to think alot about me (even when she's been with previous partners!)

hope this helps?

I dunno really. She could want to get back with you... she could just want to stay friends... maybe even she doesn't know. If you want to do a little test, invite her out (as friends) with you and your other two mates, and see what happens... but even then, she might be hiding her feelings, so you really don't know.

If it bothers you, ask her. She goes to you with her problems - you go to her with this one. :smile:
hapa_girl
she sounds like she wants more attention than she deserves.

Hmm... is it so bad to want attention? It's not as if she's flirting with everyone she sees, after all... at least, that's my interpretation of it.
Reply 6
generalebriety
I dunno really. She could want to get back with you... she could just want to stay friends... maybe even she doesn't know. If you want to do a little test, invite her out (as friends) with you and your other two mates, and see what happens... but even then, she might be hiding her feelings, so you really don't know.

If it bothers you, ask her. She goes to you with her problems - you go to her with this one. :smile:


thanks man, this helped a lot, going to try it out later, thanks for the help

anymore info incase this doesn't work?

Mr-X
^I agree. She is an attention seeker.

Talk to her though, maybe if you let it be known that you like her a lot and wouldn't appreciate her to flirt so much with your mates if you were to go out again.

Maybe she is just looking for a response from you.
Anonymous
thanks man, this helped a lot, going to try it out later, thanks for the help

anymore info incase this doesn't work?

Mr-X

Well, it may not work, in which case find out what her intentions are. She clearly does like you in some way, maybe she's just using those other two to get to you (and it's working), or maybe she's using you to get to them - but either way, she definitely likes you as a friend at least if she comes to you with her problems. It wouldn't be my place to give you any more help even if I could. Ask her. :smile:
Four way relationships need four pronged condoms.:cool:

i am not an attention seeker i dont ask for the attention - none of you know me or the situation and im tryin to make life hard for the op

that should be im not trying to make life hard but i cant edit it
She's messing about. Get out while you still can.