secrets and my aunt

I am getting annoyed with my aunt and my cousins being so unnecessarily secretive when it comes to my family. My aunt is my mum's older sister, and she seems to get a sense of power and control by keeping stupid secrets. For example, my cousin moved out into her own flat and my mum wanted to go and visit her with a birthday present, but my aunt wouldnt tell her the address and got a kick out of withholding it. Its so weird. She also pretends to have no money, when we know for a fact that she has thousands in her bank account.

She also hates my parents mixing with anyone she knows, especially the parents of my cousins boyfriend. The final straw came last week when my cousin threw a house-warming party for her new house for the whole family and only invited me and not my parents. It was a blatant snub as she must have known my parents, especially my mum, would find out about it and wonder why she wasnt invited. My mum is now really hurt by it and thinks my aunt is behind it.

I dont know what to do as my cousin is now trying to get close to me when she didnt want to know before. Shes 3 yrs older than me and bullied me a lot when i was younger. I think shes only trying to get in with me coz she knows im going to uni soon and she wants to visit and get info from me to pass on to my aunt. Should I say something? It annoys me that theres so many secrets

Reply 1

TOD100

Are you sure none of this is due to slight paranoia?

Talk to your cousin, ask her what the hell is going on. If your suspicions are right, then screw them all and forget about them. I know I don't have time for people who do more harm than good.

Reply 2

Scots_Law

Maybe she doesn't always tell the truth so by keeping things from you and preventing people from mixing she is avoiding slipping up. Basically, she could be liar :confused: