Right then...where to start...
Okay, a few weeks back, I went to a family wedding party with my girlfriend, where she met my cousins and the rest of my family. One of my cousins was studying her behaviour I guess, and they swapped mobile numbers at the end of the day.
Tonight I found out that my girlfriend had cheated on me with my cousin, and she had lost her virginity to him as a result.
I know my cousin very well, and I know that he is very good at manipulating people to get what he wants. My girlfriend was honest with me about what happened, and he had seen at the family party that she was a lightweight when it came to alcohol, and when they met up the other day he went and bought her quite a few drinks, then suggested they went somewhere more private and then proceeded to have sex.
He is now saying that he loves her (which I know is a lie anyway) but he does not know the first thing about her, cos if he did, he'd not have done what he did.
I still trust my girlfriend, and I love her so much, and she feels the same way about me too, but felt really guilty about what she'd done, and was a bit annoyed when I wasn't angry at her for what had happened. She is not sure about her feelings for my cousin though. She knows it isn't love, but she doesn't know what it is.
I am so angry at my cousin for the way that he is lying about loving her and is hurting her. I really want to go and take my cousin and kick the hell out of him with my steel toe cap boots and make him suffer just a little bit as much as he has made my girlfriend, but I'm too rational for that really.
He would not do half the things I would do, half the things I have done for my girlfriend, and I know that for a fact. If he knew anything about her really he'd run for the hills cos that's what he's like.
The dilemma I'm really facing is what should I do about my cousin? I would love to kick him in the gut a few times with my steelies, I'd love to take him to the highest levels of pain, but I'd not want the consequences as I'm looking to go into the police force. Does anyone have any ideas about what I can do?
P.S. My cousin says that he knows he "did wrong" but if he were given a second chance, he'd not do anything differently.