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If she's happy with her boyfriend is there really much point? If her boyfriend finds out I doubt he'd be happy either. If you really like this girl, maybe it's best not to interfere.
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nah guys, I need to say something...
what should I say
what should I say
Why do you need to say something? Has she expressed interest in you?
There is nothing you can do, approaching her might not only upset her but also her boyfriend there is plenty of other girls out there who are single, so i'd leave them two alone.
Okay, so it's clear you want this girl for yourself (I don't care if you say anything to the contrary, it's clear your aim is to split her from her boyfriend). 
I have been on the receiving end of someone trying to poach my boyfriend. It was the most horrible feeling ever. I, the girlfriend, "won" anyway. Think about these things:
1) Whether she has expressed an interest or not is crucial. If she has, think about talking it over with her, rather than directly throwing a declaration of undying love out there. If she hasn't, forget it.
2) Think about the hurt you could cause her current boyfriend. You have to be pretty cold to put someone through that. Would you want someone to do it to you?
3) How long was it since you last talked to her? If it's been a while, you could be not so much into her, but the "idea" of her. Happened to me - I saw the guy again, and promptly changed my mind.
4) Are you looking for a long-term relationship? Marriage, babies?? If not, please don't spoil things for her.
5) Is there a friendship there that could be spoiled by you saying something?
She may break up with this guy anyway. If she does, then make your move if you still like her. But for now, it would be incredibly selfish and might cause a lot of problems if you open your mouth (for instance, although she really loves her boyfriend, she could be tempted by the thought of a new relationship and ask you to wait for her decision, which believe me, is AGONISING. Especially if she takes longer than few days.)
On the other hand, she might just say no thank you.
I have been on the receiving end of someone trying to poach my boyfriend. It was the most horrible feeling ever. I, the girlfriend, "won" anyway. Think about these things:
1) Whether she has expressed an interest or not is crucial. If she has, think about talking it over with her, rather than directly throwing a declaration of undying love out there. If she hasn't, forget it.
2) Think about the hurt you could cause her current boyfriend. You have to be pretty cold to put someone through that. Would you want someone to do it to you?
3) How long was it since you last talked to her? If it's been a while, you could be not so much into her, but the "idea" of her. Happened to me - I saw the guy again, and promptly changed my mind.
4) Are you looking for a long-term relationship? Marriage, babies?? If not, please don't spoil things for her.
5) Is there a friendship there that could be spoiled by you saying something?
She may break up with this guy anyway. If she does, then make your move if you still like her. But for now, it would be incredibly selfish and might cause a lot of problems if you open your mouth (for instance, although she really loves her boyfriend, she could be tempted by the thought of a new relationship and ask you to wait for her decision, which believe me, is AGONISING. Especially if she takes longer than few days.)
On the other hand, she might just say no thank you.
Honey, EVERYONE on this thread has said don't tell her! You're still adamant on doing it? But getting in contact again would seem like a good move - just turning up out of the blue and springing your feelings on her would be stupid.
Hmm, OllieA has just raised point in my mind. Currently you seen hellbent on telling her. How much good is it going to do the girl in question, or is it you just trying to scratch an itch that you've got? If you really care about her, you'll do what's best for her, not what satisfies you the most.
PsychologyJen
Hmm, OllieA has just raised point in my mind. Currently you seen hellbent on telling her. How much good is it going to do the girl in question, or is it you just trying to scratch an itch that you've got? If you really care about her, you'll do what's best for her, not what satisfies you the most.
exactly.
plus confessing your 'love' or whatever you feel for her, might not have the effect you think, or hope, it will. you think she'll feel the same or want to be with you? that may not be the case. and it's unlikely to be the case considering she hasn't given you any reason to suggest that you has feelings for you to and she is still with her boyfriend.
telling her how you feel may only make her feel awkward around you and she may even end up resenting you for telling her this, especially as it's information she'd probably rather not know.
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