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Is he too old?
Okay well ive recently met this guy,Im 17 and he's 28,We seem to get along really well.What do you think is he too told?I just wanted other peoples point of views on this..
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personally i think hes too old
40 and 51 yr olds arent but that is.
i personally wouldnt go for a guy that much older than me but it can work. totally depends on the people involved.
I'd say yes he's too old but probably because your still quite young.
i'd be a bit suspisious of his intentions and whether or not i was some kind of "novelty"/trophy girlfriend to him.
but if you are having doubts about whether or not this guy is too old for you, then thats a problem right there. if you really liked him i believe that would over-ride this age issue.
i have doubts about a relationship in which one of the partner is a teenager and the other is significantly older. you are both at very different stages in your lives. a 17 year old may still be with his/her parents while the 28 year old is a fully fledged individual, living on their own with their own career and financial responsiblities. they are immersed in the adult world and have adult friends. on the flipside, the 17 year old might not have even completed their education yet and are still living off their parents. technically, they cannot go out to places like bars and clubs with the older partner.
i can only forsee many problems coming up and frustration on the older persons side at their younger partner not being able to really join into this adult world (e.g- the clubs, understanding what it really is to be an adult etc). this may not be the case for everyone but in my experience, a lot of these kinds of relationships fail that way.
but if you are having doubts about whether or not this guy is too old for you, then thats a problem right there. if you really liked him i believe that would over-ride this age issue.
i have doubts about a relationship in which one of the partner is a teenager and the other is significantly older. you are both at very different stages in your lives. a 17 year old may still be with his/her parents while the 28 year old is a fully fledged individual, living on their own with their own career and financial responsiblities. they are immersed in the adult world and have adult friends. on the flipside, the 17 year old might not have even completed their education yet and are still living off their parents. technically, they cannot go out to places like bars and clubs with the older partner.
i can only forsee many problems coming up and frustration on the older persons side at their younger partner not being able to really join into this adult world (e.g- the clubs, understanding what it really is to be an adult etc). this may not be the case for everyone but in my experience, a lot of these kinds of relationships fail that way.
It's not a big enough age gap for it to automatically seem wrong (like the girl I know who for two years has been going out with a guy 30 years older than her - starting from when she turned sixteen) But at the same time its a fairly sizeable gap. It will depend on maturity levels. I suppose some guys of 28 wouldn't be mature enough to go out with someone their own age, difficult to tell without knowing the people involved, really.
totally depends - if you are a mature 17, it may work.
I dont think its too old personally. Theres an age gap with me and my bf and we get on great so i dont see why it shouldnt work
age is a number 
if you like each other, then go for it.
if you like each other, then go for it.
I agree with some of the comments already made. Some older guys go for younger girls to boost their own self-esteem (I’m not saying this is the case here) or get attention from their friends (indicates a lack of confidence). Some older guys can’t get a girlfriend their own age, so they go for the younger girls who are usually mesmerized by their maturity or they feel girls their own age are looking for something serious (i.e. want to have kids or get married) and they aren’t looking for this right now.
Be careful, as long as you know he isn’t one of these types and you feel he is genuinely interested then get to know him as a friend for now, and then when you turn 18 or go to uni, think about taking it further. You may see things differently by then.
Be careful, as long as you know he isn’t one of these types and you feel he is genuinely interested then get to know him as a friend for now, and then when you turn 18 or go to uni, think about taking it further. You may see things differently by then.
I met my then 27 year old boyfriend when I was 17 and we are still friends after we were together for nearly two years. If you are asking this because you think he may be to old and not because it's what other people think, then maybe you need to think about being with him. **** what other people think - it's you that counts.
I would take him to meet family and friends in due course though and get their opinion of him, because they may be able to give objective-ish opinons. If everyone who meets him tells you they don't like him or whatever (for reasons other than his age), then please think about it because you could get hurt. Love seriously disables your judgement - learn from other people's experience.
I would take him to meet family and friends in due course though and get their opinion of him, because they may be able to give objective-ish opinons. If everyone who meets him tells you they don't like him or whatever (for reasons other than his age), then please think about it because you could get hurt. Love seriously disables your judgement - learn from other people's experience.
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