Holiday romance, cant cope, what should i do?

I official dont like holiday romances anymore, basicly because when you do fall in love, being apart is too hard to cope with.

Im 18 and she was 16, i havnt really ever had a proper girl friend so i suppose i fall in love too easy. With her everything was great from kissing watching the sunset to the way she held me. But the second she went, despite part of me accepting it was a holiday romance, i have felt sick and cried a lot on my own.

She lives 120 miles away, we have both said we should remain friends, and i accept that we live too far away, and are both too young to get serious.

The trouble is, im scared to speak to her on msn because im scared she will have a new bf(which is selfish of me, but it will upset me) and because girls in the past of hurt me when i have met them, im affraid she will do the same. I keep looking at her picture and it makes me feel so low because i have lost her and the happiness! To be honest, ive never had any feelings for anyone before so i havnt learnt how to cope.

I want to move on but dont really meet girls because im shy and live in a rough area(which i hate). Does anyone have any advice for me? Will it get easier for me or will i feel upset for a while?

Aplogies for probably sounding sad and stuff, but i dont choose to love her, i just feel like i do!

Thanks in advance!

Reply 1

generalebriety

Are you going to uni or getting a job this year? I'm sure you'll meet plenty of girls there... trust me, it's better left as a holiday romance. Chances are you weren't even around her long enough to get to know her properly... things develop much more quickly and much more haphazardly on holiday, because you know you won't see each other again. Would you ever have got together with a girl that fast back home without getting to know her?

Reply 2

stainedglass

She means a lot to you, which is why you're going to be upset for a while but you won't feel melancholy forever. There's not a set time limit for how long it takes to get over someone, sometimes it's a few weeks but other times it can be months. You just have to get on with it and cope the best way you can.

Look for other things that you enjoy and keep busy, it's easier that way because it takes your mind off it. You need to remember that she's not the only person you can find happiness with, it probably doesn't seem like it right now, but it's the truth.

Reply 3

milesmartin

Thanks! Im going to try and not speak to her all day, keep her off my mind! I am going uni so i should meet girls there! or at my new job!

But i will miss her, thanks for your advice!