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Gf's pregnant - options
I always said I didn't want a baby but she went off the pill and didn't say anything.... what are my options? I definitely don't want a baby.. I'm only an 18yo kid...
Advice really appreciated. am quite distressed.
Advice really appreciated. am quite distressed.
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Ask her if she wanted a baby? Chances are if she was stupid enough to go off the pill and not tell you then she did. This is gonna sound harsh but if she knew you didn't want a kid and went and got pregnant by you its not your responsibility leave her with the fruits of her stupidity. It was unfair of her to deliberately get pregnant and expect you to want to father her kid.
Anonymous
I always said I didn't want a baby but she went off the pill and didn't say anything.... what are my options? I definitely don't want a baby.. I'm only an 18yo kid...
Advice really appreciated. am quite distressed.
Advice really appreciated. am quite distressed.
If you've had to say to the girl so often that you didnt want a baby, that you can say "I always said I didnt want a baby" you should of kept using condoms. In fact I would of used two, each time.
You dont have much options now..... but you'll have to deal with it.
Personally, If a girl did that to me I'd dump her but still be about for the kid.
But if she gets caused too much stress, or drinks too much she could lose the baby... through a miscarriage, so it depends if you want that on ya mind.
my mate however, just left the country. lol you could always get your passport sorted!
what abortion options are there? it's probably only a couple of weeks.... maybe i could convice her
Honey, if a girl deliberately gets pregnant you will have no chance of convincing her to get an abortion.
dede
Does anyone know, legally, what this guy is obligated to do with respect to his kid (if she does keep it)?
Does anyone know, legally, what this guy is obligated to do with respect to his kid (if she does keep it)?
hes legally obliged to pay loads of money each week to support her.
There is a thing though where if you pay a couple of quid into her bank account each week for about 6months and keep the receipts, but she doesnt declare that you've given her this money, she wont have a legal footing to claim maintence because he could say after that he stopped getting the receipts and paid her loads and loads.... and then he wont have to pay anything... (this is something a friend and an aquaintence of mine did)
thats if shes a proper biatch, and he wants to be a proper cnt.
El Scotto
In fact I would of used two, each time.
In fact I would of used two, each time.
You only use ONE condom at a time! Using two increases the chance of failure. One bog-standard johnny (free from family planning clinic and doctors) does the trick 98% of the time if you follow the instructions correctly.
Dont listen to anything anyone here says.
If you want to be involved, be involved.
If not, dump her for being a bint.
Dont use 2 condoms at the same time.
Dont ever tell a girl to get an aborton. Just tell her you didnt want the baby and dont want the baby.
If you want to be involved, be involved.
If not, dump her for being a bint.
Dont use 2 condoms at the same time.
Dont ever tell a girl to get an aborton. Just tell her you didnt want the baby and dont want the baby.
Lunar_Scorpion
You only use ONE condom at a time! Using two increases the chance of failure. One bog-standard johnny (free from family planning clinic and doctors) does the trick 98% of the time if you follow the instructions correctly.
Firstly it was a joke - meaning I would of been extra careful.
secondly, I'm not the one with any children or any on the way, so I dont need any advice on sex thanks.
i definatly dont want to be involved. i've got too much to lose and she made this decision alone. how legally bound am i?
Say its not fair that she went off the pill without telling you. Discuss it with her.
benisright
Dont listen to anything anyone here says.
If you want to be involved, be involved.
If not, dump her for being a bint.
If you want to be involved, be involved.
If not, dump her for being a bint.
Please take notice of what I said about condoms, because any medical professional or other expert will confirm it and there are far too many STDs going round. Girls, you should be on some kind of hormonal contraception (discuss with a doctor/nurse) such as the pill or injection, AND you should use condoms.
The only exception would be if you are in an exclusive relationship with someone (i.e. you're only ****ing them and they're only ****ing you) and you have regular check-ups (e.g. before you have sex without a condom, maybe a couple of months after to ensure nothing was missed and then approximately every year thereafter just to make sure, unless you really trust them).
Sorry to sound like a sexual health nurse with an attitude problem but I believe in information and education and some people have obviously received neither.
Lunar_Scorpion
Sorry to sound like a sexual health nurse with an attitude problem but I believe in information and education and some of you people have obviously received neither.
Sorry to sound like a sexual health nurse with an attitude problem but I believe in information and education and some of you people have obviously received neither.
The annoying thing is that even when I'd made clear to the family planning doc that I'd been in an 'exclusive' relationship for 2 years, she still told me I should be using condoms!
They do that - they're a bit over cautious. It's their job to tell you stuff like that because the government gives them a target to tell fifty people a day to use condoms, because they don't have the money to invest in sex education... They don't really have that target (as far as I know), but I'm not sure if I would be surprised if they did...
Anonymous
i definatly dont want to be involved. i've got too much to lose and she made this decision alone. how legally bound am i?
You're completely legally obliged to support the child whether or not she became pregnant with your support / knowledge / consent whatever. As someone else said, it sucks, but its the law.
Please talk to her, not us. It's an appalling situation but one you really can't ignore.
Good luck xx
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