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Is this petty?

Ok I really need some advice, my boyfriend went through a stage a few months ago where he was very...demanding of my time, it got to the stage where I felt like a dogs body just waiting around for him. We had a difficult patch and I told him how I felt, he then agreed that he was kind of acting that way.

However, while I was revising for my Uni exams he got very angry with me because I couldn't find the time to see him etc and this of course caused problems.

I had my last exam last Weds and thought that we could spend the weekend together, however he then decided that he would go to Global Gathering this weekend with his mates and stay for the weekend (seemed fine for him to go off but I'm not 'allowed' to revise for my exams :rolleyes: ) I let it be and did not contact him at all over the weekend and believed that he would be back tomorrow (he told me this, he said he would be leaving Monday morning). After this my Mum asked me if I would decorate the living room for her and if we could go tomorrow to look for colours, I thought this was fine as my boyfriend wasn't back until tomorrow and so I wouldn't be seeing him.

But he's just called me saying "so you wanna come round" I told him that I couldn't because I'd promised my Mum that I would go with her due to the fact that he'd told me he wasn't coming back until tomorrow. I told him it was the principle of the matter that he can't expect me to change my plans because he's changed his and he put the phone down on me!! :eek:

Does anyone think I was being petty by sticking to my plans?

I don't know what to do, I can't see him calling me for a few days though :redface:
(BTW, we're both 21)

Any advice would be appreciated :smile:

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Anonymous
Ok I really need some advice, my boyfriend went through a stage a few months ago where he was very...demanding of my time, it got to the stage where I felt like a dogs body just waiting around for him. We had a difficult patch and I told him how I felt, he then agreed that he was kind of acting that way.

However, while I was revising for my Uni exams he got very angry with me because I couldn't find the time to see him etc and this of course caused problems.

I had my last exam last Weds and thought that we could spend the weekend together, however he then decided that he would go to Global Gathering this weekend with his mates and stay for the weekend (seemed fine for him to go off but I'm not 'allowed' to revise for my exams :rolleyes: ) I let it be and did not contact him at all over the weekend and believed that he would be back tomorrow (he told me this, he said he would be leaving Monday morning). After this my Mum asked me if I would decorate the living room for her and if we could go tomorrow to look for colours, I thought this was fine as my boyfriend wasn't back until tomorrow and so I wouldn't be seeing him.

But he's just called me saying "so you wanna come round" I told him that I couldn't because I'd promised my Mum that I would go with her due to the fact that he'd told me he wasn't coming back until tomorrow. I told him it was the principle of the matter that he can't expect me to change my plans because he's changed his and he put the phone down on me!! :eek:

Does anyone think I was being petty by sticking to my plans?

I don't know what to do, I can't see him calling me for a few days though :redface:
(BTW, we're both 21)

Any advice would be appreciated :smile:

He plays card games for 12-year-olds and rudely exercises double standards? Dump.
Reply 2
Anonymous
Ok I really need some advice, my boyfriend went through a stage a few months ago where he was very...demanding of my time, it got to the stage where I felt like a dogs body just waiting around for him. We had a difficult patch and I told him how I felt, he then agreed that he was kind of acting that way.

However, while I was revising for my Uni exams he got very angry with me because I couldn't find the time to see him etc and this of course caused problems.

I had my last exam last Weds and thought that we could spend the weekend together, however he then decided that he would go to Global Gathering this weekend with his mates and stay for the weekend (seemed fine for him to go off but I'm not 'allowed' to revise for my exams :rolleyes: ) I let it be and did not contact him at all over the weekend and believed that he would be back tomorrow (he told me this, he said he would be leaving Monday morning). After this my Mum asked me if I would decorate the living room for her and if we could go tomorrow to look for colours, I thought this was fine as my boyfriend wasn't back until tomorrow and so I wouldn't be seeing him.

But he's just called me saying "so you wanna come round" I told him that I couldn't because I'd promised my Mum that I would go with her due to the fact that he'd told me he wasn't coming back until tomorrow. I told him it was the principle of the matter that he can't expect me to change my plans because he's changed his and he put the phone down on me!! :eek:

Does anyone think I was being petty by sticking to my plans?

I don't know what to do, I can't see him calling me for a few days though :redface:
(BTW, we're both 21)

Any advice would be appreciated :smile:


Nahh you aren't being petty. Stick to your guns. Its pretty obvious that he wants some attention and wants to feel like he has control over you. Keep letting him down and he'll start to see that you are gonna stand your own ground!
Tell him to get a life, and to stop being so selfish. Pretty obvious, really.
He's being an arsehole.

Men think they rule the world and you have to do what they tell them. I feel like this with a thirty-five year old...
Reply 5
i think hes the one being petty.
he did tell you afterall that hed be home tomorrow so you made plans with your mother, just because his changed his mind and came home early doesnt mean you should drop everything and go be with him.
surely he can wait a extra day until he sees you.
He's got issues.
Reply 7
PlayboyBunny
He plays card games for 12-year-olds and rudely exercises double standards? Dump.


Am I missing something? Where does it mention card games?

Anyway, I don't think you're being petty at all. He seems like a bit of an arse to be honest. Have you talked to him about how you feel?
Reply 8
he sounds like a right spoilt brat. Id stick to your guns and consider getting someone more mature.

Does he not have exams too?
Reply 9
everyone should of finished exams by now after all doesnt august start tomorrow...thats like exam results month
amie
Am I missing something? Where does it mention card games?

Anyway, I don't think you're being petty at all. He seems like a bit of an arse to be honest. Have you talked to him about how you feel?

"(various prefixes go here) Gathering" is a strategy card game that the neds played at the start of high school.
Reply 11
PlayboyBunny
"(various prefixes go here) Gathering" is a strategy card game that the neds played at the start of high school.

magic the gathering :p: i think....
Reply 12
PlayboyBunny
"(various prefixes go here) Gathering" is a strategy card game that the neds played at the start of high school.


Oh, I thought the OP was talking about the dance music festival :confused:
Reply 13
PlayboyBunny
He plays card games for 12-year-olds and rudely exercises double standards? Dump.

er, where did that come from?
Reply 14
Sheen
magic the gathering :p: i think....

yes Sheen, you tell the gimp
Reply 15
amie
Oh, I thought the OP was talking about the dance music festival :confused:

I think she was. In fact, I know she is.
Reply 16
PlayboyBunny
"(various prefixes go here) Gathering" is a strategy card game that the neds played at the start of high school.


Global gathering is a dance festival.
Reply 17
devilbunny
I think she was. In fact, I know she is.


Well, so did I but I didn't want to seem rude :redface:
Reply 18
amie
Well, so did I but I didn't want to seem rude :redface:

go ahead, be rude. it's only the internet. Gimperalla found the need to talk down to you, you are well within your rights to be rude back.
Reply 19
devilbunny
go ahead, be rude. it's only the internet. Gimperalla found the need to talk down to you, you are well within your rights to be rude back.


lmao.