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One for the girls!

hey
I need ur advice- howd do u make a guy want u?...... i never seem to get it right with guys cus after many failed relationships-it was always me doing the chasing n it was boring- any suggestions?
wb x

Reply 1

username47781

20

well i know this is coming from a guy but, you just wanna be yourself, and when you say meet a guy who seems nice get to know him properly, say over a drink at the pub for example. But i think also when your not looking you then tend to find someone.

Reply 2

Sharp_Shooter

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kels488

hey
I need ur advice- howd do u make a guy want u?...... i never seem to get it right with guys cus after many failed relationships-it was always me doing the chasing n it was boring- any suggestions?
wb x

How about you not doing the chasing for a change?

Reply 3

Glory

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The right guy has a nack of falling into your lap when your not looking. Stop doing the chasing because it may be making you look desperate. Guys hate desperate girls.

Reply 4

username34965

OP

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Glory

The right guy has a nack of falling into your lap when your not looking. Stop doing the chasing because it may be making you look desperate. Guys hate desperate girls.

thanks but i also end up doing the chasing n i always give them a way out- im too soft for my own good! :rolleyes:

.....how do i get them to do the chasing??...cus i prob look desperate too a guy- but its not intentional
wb thanks

Reply 5

loopymeg

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Carl1982

But i think also when your not looking you then tend to find someone.

Soooooo true!

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

surely it's easier not to do the chasing? All you need to do is nothing..

I always get really scared about making any kind of move, so even if I really like them and miss them end up not doing anything about it. weirdly seems to make them do the chasing instead.

Also I generally don't like to give too much info away about myself, am also really introspective and convinced noone will understand what I say anyway, so probably comes across as a bit mysterious. Not really on purpose but it seems to hook interest of some people.

Sounds good so far but has its drawbacks, like you get those stalkers that won't give up, conversely the ones you like sometimes pass by cos you don't make a move, and you're afraid that once you reveal anything they won't like you anymore.

Reply 7

devilgirl999

1

with me (not being egotistic!!) i know a certain guy fancies me hes made it blatantly obvious and i did chase him b4 but decided to leave him to chase me and hes driving me mad lol!

i met him and another male friend at a bus stop to go into town a couple of weeks ago (been on holiday since) and said to the other male friend 'hey mate you had your hair done looks cool!' he said no he hadnt but said thanks the other guy who i fancy pipes up 'yeh i had my hair done the other day' Lmao!!! so funny i had to go to the toilet after that cos i was pissing meself!

dress gorgeous but dont chase em if anything compliment all his mates and flirt with them but NOT the guy himself lol

Reply 8

saoirse

10

Its all very well telling the OP to not do the chasing, but she does have to show some kind of encouragement to a guy she likes or he will think shes not interested!

Ive done this sooo many times before- in trying to play it low key and be sure not to chase, ive come across as not giving a damn about said guy, thus making him back off and making everything a hell of a lot more complex!

Reply 9

Singh_87

15

The best way is to show interest in a guy, and then kinda back off...if you get me? Thats whats happening to me, and trust me, it makes you want the girl sooooo much ! Show some interest, but don't make it obvious...for example, dont just go and tell him, 'I like you so much.' Leave a little bit of mystery/confusion and the guy will be sure to come back...or so I hope for you! Good luck :smile:

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

The exact same thing has happened to me right.. |I was always doing the chasing and was sick of it and got nowhere. In the past few weeks, someone is actually really into me for a change and it was really strange at first but now I kind of like someone chasing me for a change! Although.. I don't really like him and I'm leading him on way too much coz he is a nice guy.. hmm..

Reply 11

saoirse

10

Lol, i think this is the most delicate balance to get right- to show just enough interest to let the guy know your into them and to cool off just enough to whet their appetite!

Reply 12

MagicNMedicine

20

the 'chase' is overrated

if someone finds you attractive then they will naturally show you signs that they are interested and they will probably pursue you no matter how you chase them or if you don't; similarly if somebody doesn't find you attractive then they aren't going to be interested just because you have a 'chasing' strategy

Reply 13

Wonderboy Blue

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kels488

hey
I need ur advice- howd do u make a guy want u?...... i never seem to get it right with guys cus after many failed relationships-it was always me doing the chasing n it was boring- any suggestions?
wb x

Are you 'quite attractive'?

It's just that if you're really beautiful/fit then most lads would be too scared to approach you. Usually all that will come up to you will be the lads who are full of themselves...so its kinda hard to win.

But just keep trying...maybe dress sexy, flirt...I can't really give any pointers because flirting is natural and mainly unspoken...play with your hair, touch the guy you like a lot. Give him the 'right signals'

Good luck, Irish girls are awesome :wink:

Reply 14

dementedbunny

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just wait it out. let them come to you. why so eager? the single life is awesome.

Reply 15

randum_nandom

just be yourdself because then a guy will like for who you are so there wont be no need to do any chasing--- plus that makes guys think you are just plan desperate

Reply 16

high priestess fnord

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Glory

The right guy has a nack of falling into your lap when your not looking.

i drunkenly fell onto his lap actually :p:

sorry back on topic. dont play games with guys because its lame and if he wants to play games with you then he isnt worth it. just go out and have a good time, enjoy your freedom and flirt with everyone. remember that if a guys really interested in you then you wont have to do the chasing so sit back and let it happen.

Reply 17

Helenia

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high priestess fnord

i drunkenly fell onto his lap actually :p:

sorry back on topic. dont play games with guys because its lame and if he wants to play games with you then he isnt worth it. just go out and have a good time, enjoy your freedom and flirt with everyone. remember that if a guys really interested in you then you wont have to do the chasing so sit back and let it happen.