Meeting Parents

I met my boyfriends parents this summer and stayed with them for 2 weeks. My boyfriend is very open with his parents about me, and they have known about me from the beginning of our relationship which was 2 years ago.

I am not so open with my parents. We just don't talk freely about these things. I never told them about my boyfriend, just in case it broke up. Now it is 2 years gone, I feel it's serious enough for me to tell them.
My boyfriend wants to meet them very much also, and I want him to stay with us for Christmas this year.

How do I go about telling my parents after 2 years of not saying anything?

Reply 1

scruffs

Just say it. I do the same thing with my folks, I don't know why, I just keep my life to myself sometimes. If they're upest you didn't tell them earlier, just calmly explain why you didn't. Once they've met him and realise he doesn't have two heads and isn't going to abduct you I'm sure it will be fine :biggrin:

Reply 2

dh00001

howd you keep it from them for two years :eek:

im sure theyl be fine if you explain all your reasoning etc

Reply 3

TrentEnd

They probably know more than you think after two years...don't worry about it!

Reply 4

sssh

TrentEnd

They probably know more than you think after two years...don't worry about it!

No matter how much they know about it, they'll probably be hurt that you didn't feel able to tell them anything about your relationship for two years. I understand how you feel, though - I don't talk to my parents about anything because they aren't open to anyone's opinion other than their own - but I don't know how you managed to not let them meet your boyfriend for two years. That's...some kind of crazy achievement.

Reply 5

kennyboy

Tis a interesting one. Try talking to them about other aspects of your life first, then move onto your boyfriend, and what your interests are. Hopefully it will pique their interests and they will ask the questions they need to know, and maybe at a later date ask them about the staying thing! Afterall its a while away yet.

If they care as little about those aspects of your life then im sure they wont have any problems with him.

Reply 6

high priestess fnord

i had a similar problem with my parents. the result being that they had allready decided that they didnt like him before they met him (unfair because it wasnt his fault). luckily they seem to have kinda gotten over it now tho.

Reply 7

Mrs_F

Wow, you must be excellent at keeping secrets!

Sorry I can't offer any advice on this situation as it's not something I have ever experience being very open with my parents about relationships.
It's a good job in my case - we got engaged after 2 years! LOL!

Good luck with it - I'm sure you will be fine though.