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Vanishing Orgasm!!! Help!!

I know there have been lots of threads where girls just can't climax....and I have a similar problem. the 'ouside' orgasm as it were...it's just too much feel like i need the toilet and my brain overides the fact that I was to orgasm and so I can't let him continue.
The next bit however is new. With my 1st bf I was never too impressed with sex, yes sometimes it was nice but there was no point in it for me. Now...after having a weekend of amazing sex with a great great guy!! the sex is fab. And this feels different. I get to to the stage where I want to orgasm and it's soo good and then bang it's gone. Just disappears. and it's really annoying. is there any reason why it can just disappear? is this just me getting closer? i've never had one and it's starting to get to me a bit, less so now that the sex is bloody brill but still....
I have this problem, I can get turned off just like THAT *clicks fingers* I've still never had an orgasm even though the person I was with tried EVERYTHING for AGES. It's horrible and I really don't know what to do about it either. Do you feel completely comfortable with this guy? Not insecure at all?
maybe your focassing (sp?) on it too much.
Pretend to fall asleep as you get to the vinegar strokes, that'll make your guy try harder to keep you awake and aroused, so you'll be so aroused it will be impossible to abort the orgasm, as it were.
Reply 4
Try giving yourself an orgasm.

Once you know how to bring yourself to orgasm it will be a lot easier for your partner to do it.

I could never ever reach orgasm, even on my own, but I didn't give up and finally I found away to make myself orgasm and now I have them all the time with my partner.
Reply 5
the pretending to fall asleep thing sounds good....not so easy with sex tho but with other things I guess as I feel really spaced out when we do that.
Yes I am quite tuned into the fact that I want it but it's because I just want it so badly, it's frustrating for me. my ex used to feel like it was his fault. so then I felt even worse.
I've been trying for about 2 years to get it myself.....and it's nowhere near as good as a guy...i get to a peak but can#t get over it....but it feels nice. i have 2 rampant rabbits..so I am trying but I feel i'd be more successful with a guy because he'll keep going as it were.
Glad I'm not the only one #2 who has it just disappear...was a bit worried!!
Reply 6
Anonymous
I've been trying for about 2 years to get it myself.....and it's nowhere near as good as a guy...i get to a peak but can#t get over it....but it feels nice. i have 2 rampant rabbits..so I am trying but I feel i'd be more successful with a guy because he'll keep going as it were.


Don't get me wrong - it will be better with a partner but you need to know yourself exactly what makes you orgasm - without knowing that it is harder for your partner to make you reach orgasm.

Do the Rampant Rabbits not work? They bring me to orgasm practically straight away. I have to be in a certain position for it to happen though (won't go into too much detail though :redface: )

Keep trying and hopefully it will come (excuse the pun!)