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How can I get over it?

This is quite complicated but i will try to keep it short and simple - there is a guy i have been getting closer and closer to over the past couple of years. We are now ototally comfortable with each other, talk about everything, and just connect in a way i never have with anyone else. I am totally in love with him (and i dont use that word lightly) he is the first thing i think of in a morning and the only thing i can think of when i close my eyes to sleep, and when i think of him i cant help but smile, even if i am upset. Trouble is there are several reasons why this relationship cant happen, and it is tearing me apart. I have tried telling myself i dont feel this way but it doesnt work. I know i need to get over him, even though i dont want to, but i have no idea how, please help!

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Reply 1
Why exactly can't the relationship happen?
Reply 2
there are so many reasons, the way we met, his current situation, my situation, countless others
Reply 3
Okay, go out, meet new people, start conversations, make new friends. It'll take time but eventually you'll get over it.
Reply 4
I do go out and meet people; i have had several short relationships and a long term relationship with other people but the entire time i just cant help but think of this one! it is so frustrating!!!
Reply 5
Anonymous
I do go out and meet people; i have had several short relationships and a long term relationship with other people but the entire time i just cant help but think of this one! it is so frustrating!!!


give it time. you can't be expected to ignore it immediately. with time you will. just try and do your best to mix with new people.
Will there ever be a time when you two can give it a go or will it always be a whatif? If it's never gonna happen save yourself a few years and try your best to forget about him now. How you do that exactly I can't say, it just happens eventually.
Reply 7
Sounds like a first love situation?

You might not ever get over it, you will certainly always think of him, and there will always be a place in your heart for him.

You will move on however, no matter how unreal that sounds at the minute, when the time is right you will fall in love again.
Reply 8
i dont know if it could hapen some time, just right now there are too many issues, and i hate that.. One is that i am going away to uni, something i have always wanted to do and have all sorted just how i always wanted but i would give that up in a second if it would mean i could be with him.
Reply 9
I think you need to try and stop talking to him otherwise it'll just carry on. Do you know him in person or on the net? If the latter that'll make it easier to talk less, but if you see each other in person a lot I'd suggest maybe going to new places instead of where he goes, or don't go round his house if you do now, things like that, good luck :smile:
I know exactly what you mean. I'm in love (and yes, I don't use that lightly either) with this girl - have been for two years - but now, when I was prepared to tell her how I feel, I find she has a boyfriend, and we're going to opposite ends of the country for Uni next year :frown:. I'm trying to accept that nothing will ever happen between us (damn hard to accept though :frown:), but I can't stop the love I feel for her :frown:

So yeah, I'm afraid there was no advice in there, just sympathising with how you feel.
Reply 11
I have always tried to tell myself i cant love him, i dont even know what that means, i just know that even the thought of him not being in my life in any way tears me apart and i would do anything for him, and i cant seem to get on with my life.
Go to uni, dont quit it for this guy, even if you love him. Have fun, you will experience a totally different life at uni and if you're meant to be together you will be....keep in touch through internet, emails, msn etc, sometimes LDR's work, but only if you both love each other.

Try to keep busy and work on your future, dont worry too much, whatever happens will happen for the best, even if you dont realise it at the time.
Reply 13
I have been trying to focus on uni stuff, and making plans, to stop myself thinkin about him but i still find myself sitting online for hours at a time waiting for him, checking my emails every 10 minutes when im at work because i just want to hear from him again! Men are a nightmare!
Reply 14
Anonymous
there are so many reasons, the way we met, his current situation, my situation, countless others

I believe in love, none of these "situations" have any worth compared to true love.

"Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it: if a man would give all the substance of his house for love, it would utterly be contemned."
Reply 15
NJA
I believe in love, none of these "situations" have any worth compared to true love.

"Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it: if a man would give all the substance of his house for love, it would utterly be contemned."


OOhh i love it!!
Reply 16
Sorry to revive this thread just felt like posting on it - cant sleep because i miss him - am trying not talking to him, not going well but i have stuck to it so far.
This is quite complicated but i will try to keep it short and simple - there is a guy i have been getting closer and closer to over the past couple of years. We are now ototally comfortable with each other, talk about everything, and just connect in a way i never have with anyone else. I am totally in love with him (and i dont use that word lightly) he is the first thing i think of in a morning and the only thing i can think of when i close my eyes to sleep, and when i think of him i cant help but smile, even if i am upset. Trouble is there are several reasons why this relationship cant happen, and it is tearing me apart. I have tried telling myself i dont feel this way but it doesnt work. I know i need to get over him, even though i dont want to, but i have no idea how, please help!


i sooo know how u feel
dam i feel the same bout a gal- in the same situation
im jus as stuk as u. i wud say lol but its nt funny
why dont you least talk to him, and tell him how you feel whats the worse than can happen, maybe he feels the same about you, even if your going to uni you can still get with him and it could surivive
Reply 19
nope, not funny at all! especially when people all around u tell you they can see how you just get on so well together, and its obvious there is something there...i hate people!