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I have been with my girlfriend for a few months, and everything was going fine, before we got together i knew my mate really liked her aswell as me. so before i acted on anything i talked to my mate and discussed how he felt about me asking her out, as he didnt want to even though he liked her. I Kinda felt bad for him, but he persisted that he was over her, so i asked her out and everything was fine.
Here a few months later. I was walking home last night, and i saw him and my girlfriend together, out in public kissing. But now the weird part. I didnt feel angry, because by justing looking at them, i could tell that they really liked mayby loved each other. I know they were wrong to do it behind my back, but at the same time i know i dont love her like he does.
I have not told them that i saw them, and im thinking that mayby i shouldnt, and mayby the best thing that i should do, is end it with the girl. Im pretty sure that my mate will ask me if its ok if he starts to see her, and that way everyone wins, do you think this is a good idea? im not angry or upset that they want to be together, im just a bit dissapointed that he especially couldnt talk to me.
Here a few months later. I was walking home last night, and i saw him and my girlfriend together, out in public kissing. But now the weird part. I didnt feel angry, because by justing looking at them, i could tell that they really liked mayby loved each other. I know they were wrong to do it behind my back, but at the same time i know i dont love her like he does.
I have not told them that i saw them, and im thinking that mayby i shouldnt, and mayby the best thing that i should do, is end it with the girl. Im pretty sure that my mate will ask me if its ok if he starts to see her, and that way everyone wins, do you think this is a good idea? im not angry or upset that they want to be together, im just a bit dissapointed that he especially couldnt talk to me.
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Reply 1
The girl is a whore, and he isnt your mate.
Simple.
No matter how much they love each other they didnt need to go behind your back.
Simple.
No matter how much they love each other they didnt need to go behind your back.
Reply 2
calderstonesLFC
The girl is a whore, and he isnt your mate.
Simple.
No matter how much they love each other they didnt need to go behind your back.
Simple.
No matter how much they love each other they didnt need to go behind your back.
Stimmt
Wow, that's a very selfless way of looking at it. I doubt many other people would be as cool about it as you are.
She cheated, so I'd say end it with her regardless, but if you feel in a position to be able to do what you're saying, yes, go for it, but I wouldn't let your friend think he got away with it; what he did was wrong and needs to be told so. Perhaps drop subtle hints and try to make him crack? I guess you're not like that!
She cheated, so I'd say end it with her regardless, but if you feel in a position to be able to do what you're saying, yes, go for it, but I wouldn't let your friend think he got away with it; what he did was wrong and needs to be told so. Perhaps drop subtle hints and try to make him crack? I guess you're not like that!
Reply 4
i agree with everyone
she cheated and hes not a good friend, ditch em both
she cheated and hes not a good friend, ditch em both
Reply 5
To be honest I would probably wanna go and deck your so-called mate. The girl can be finished with, she's proven herself to be a lying cheating schlaag!
Grrr, people like that make me so angry, but I must say that I admire you keeping so calm about it and trying to deal with it in the way that you are.
Grrr, people like that make me so angry, but I must say that I admire you keeping so calm about it and trying to deal with it in the way that you are.
Reply 6
if you dont mind me saying, give them both a kick up the ass!! ok, maybe not, but defo end it with the girl and maybe even ditch your friend. he shouldnt have treated you like this, with no respect...honestly....these days! 
Reply 7
Anonymous
Im pretty sure that my mate will ask me if its ok if he starts to see her
sounds like he already is seeing her??!
But yeh that sounds very nobel of u. Go for it. (lol at least u get to dump her and not the other way around.....ball is in ur court - and its a sitter)
Reply 10
I dont really know why i am so calm about it, thats why i said it was the weird part. I guess i knew that me and her would never really go anywhere, i liked her but i wasnt close to loving her. He has been my friend since we were about 6 so thats why i think that not mentioning it would be a lot better for all of us.
Reply 11
dan
Stimmt
Reply 12
Anonymous
has been my friend since we were about 6 so thats why i think that not mentioning it would be a lot better for all of us.
He is obviously not a very good one.
I can't believe you're not more angry about this, did you not have feelings for the girl?
As others have said, she cheated, and with your mate! She is not a nice girl and you should dump her right away. And your mate - who told you that you could have her because he didn't want her - is a) a liar and b) betrayed your friendship and trust.
I really think you need to confront them and get rid of them both. If you are as calm about it as you are acting, then that's fine, be calm about it, but I think it needs to be done.
EDIT: Only just read your post above. I'm sorry, I don't mean to be mean, but I think you're being a bit dim about this, your mate and girlfriend have completely screwed you over and you don't seem to realise. He's been your mate since you were SIX and he's gone and nicked your girlfriend off you. That's so wrong!! I don't know how you think it would be fine to not mention it, obviously neither of them have any respect for you and to be honest they could very well be laughing behind your back! They are completely abusing your trust and they know it. If you don't say anything they'll just think they can treat you like **** and get away with it. Anyway, if he's such a good mate, he should come and tell you, you shouldn't need to be the one go to confront him. If he lies about it and tries to cover it up, that should get alarm bells going in your head. Who cares if they have feelings for each other, he could have asked you not to go out with her in the first place, or she could have split up with you, there is no excuse for them doing what they did. They should both be feeling guilty.
As others have said, she cheated, and with your mate! She is not a nice girl and you should dump her right away. And your mate - who told you that you could have her because he didn't want her - is a) a liar and b) betrayed your friendship and trust.
I really think you need to confront them and get rid of them both. If you are as calm about it as you are acting, then that's fine, be calm about it, but I think it needs to be done.
EDIT: Only just read your post above. I'm sorry, I don't mean to be mean, but I think you're being a bit dim about this, your mate and girlfriend have completely screwed you over and you don't seem to realise. He's been your mate since you were SIX and he's gone and nicked your girlfriend off you. That's so wrong!! I don't know how you think it would be fine to not mention it, obviously neither of them have any respect for you and to be honest they could very well be laughing behind your back! They are completely abusing your trust and they know it. If you don't say anything they'll just think they can treat you like **** and get away with it. Anyway, if he's such a good mate, he should come and tell you, you shouldn't need to be the one go to confront him. If he lies about it and tries to cover it up, that should get alarm bells going in your head. Who cares if they have feelings for each other, he could have asked you not to go out with her in the first place, or she could have split up with you, there is no excuse for them doing what they did. They should both be feeling guilty.
Reply 15
just tell him please
and just tell them what you told us
honestly they will be impressed and might feel guilty that you're so accepting. but it will look good if you step up and say guys if u really want each other then go for it,
xoxoxo
and just tell them what you told us
honestly they will be impressed and might feel guilty that you're so accepting. but it will look good if you step up and say guys if u really want each other then go for it,
xoxoxo
Reply 16
so calm! He'd be at the bottom of the sea by now...
Reply 17
just ignoring the bit about him being a crap friend!!! If he really is such a good friend to you and you care about him do you really want him to be with a girl who's going to cheat on him? Just a thought...
Anonymous
I dont really know why i am so calm about it, thats why i said it was the weird part. I guess i knew that me and her would never really go anywhere, i liked her but i wasnt close to loving her. He has been my friend since we were about 6 so thats why i think that not mentioning it would be a lot better for all of us.
Then don't let others make the think you should be angry, I think its quite mature you're not plotting the death of them. I agree, some things aren't worth losing a friend over and I think by not mentioning anything you're probably doing the best. Although if he ever asks why don't lie, just tell him.
If you've been friends for that long, my guess would be he's not laughing at you behind your back or being malicious and disrespectful but likes your gf more than you do and doesn't have the balls to tell you.
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