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Are you more likely to stare at people cause they're ugly or cause they look nice?

I often get this feeling people are staring at me when I'm out in public (and I swear to god I am not imagining it), I hate the way I look and therefore feel all self-concious when I notice this and think they're staring because I look horrific or something. However, other people do tell me I look nice. I'm sure people do stare but I think it's because I look bad and I suspect these people saying I look nice are just being nice not to hurt my feelings... anyway, just wondering, would you say you would be more likely to stare at a girl because she looks nice or because she's really ugly/weird looking? Which one?

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Reply 1
Anonymous
I often get this feeling people are staring at me when I'm out in public (and I swear to god I am not imagining it), I hate the way I look and therefore feel all self-concious when I notice this and think they're staring because I look horrific or something. However, other people do tell me I look nice. I'm sure people do stare but I think it's because I look bad and I suspect these people saying I look nice are just being nice not to hurt my feelings... anyway, just wondering, would you say you would be more likely to stare at a girl because she looks nice or because she's really ugly/weird looking? Which one?


Id say that guys are more likely to be looking at her because shes atrractive and girls would be looking because she is ugly.
Reply 2
Definatly because they find you attractive. If a guy thinks you are ugly he won't look at you, he'll be scanning all the other women.
Reply 3
Sunofnight
Id say that guys are more likely to be looking at her because shes atrractive and girls would be looking because she is ugly.


It seems to be both but moreso guys. Little kids too though. That must be bad haha :frown:

Sheerac1
Definatly because they find you attractive. If a guy thinks you are ugly he won't look at you, he'll be scanning all the other women.


Yeah I see what you mean, but I reckon I look 'weirdly' ugly. Like I'm quite tall, lanky, and I just think I have a weird-looking ugly long face. Don't you reckon some guys lacking lact would still just stare in that case?
Reply 4
*tact, sorry
Reply 5
id say you are really pretty- i look twice at girls who are, (discreetly, ha, i wouldnt actually stare!) not in a perving way, more like wow, she looks fabulous

another thing that can be stare-worthy is someone who is really well dressed with their own personal style
Reply 6
Anonymous
It seems to be both but moreso guys. Little kids too though. That must be bad haha :frown:



Yeah I see what you mean, but I reckon I look 'weirdly' ugly. Like I'm quite tall, lanky, and I just think I have a weird-looking ugly long face. Don't you reckon some guys lacking lact would still just stare in that case?


Maybe you look better from distance or soemthing :tongue:
Reply 7
Generally people have to look at others when out...Otherwise you just bump into a lot of people..
Reply 8
Staring is Rude, so i dont stare at anyone, i might look at people but not stare
Reply 9
Sheerac1
Maybe you look better from distance or soemthing :tongue:


Maybe :p:

Serenity
Generally people have to look at others when out...Otherwise you just bump into a lot of people..


Difference between looking and staring though
If I find someone attractive I'm more likely to glance a few times cause staring is weird and I don't want someone I find attractive to think I'm weird...
I have been known to stare at hideously ugly people, only cause I forget you can see my eyes through my sunglasses! hehe

Maybe you are just paying too much attention to details like that, maybe these people havent formed that kind of opinion yet! Do you have any interesting clothes/accesories they might be looking at?

Do they stare you in the eye, or give you the 'once over'?
Look down and continue working or eating < that is all I do.
Reply 12
They usually make eye contact

And Phoenix, I used to ignore but now I sometimes get pissed off and do an angry glare back at them. Depends if I'm in a more pissed off or introverted mood.

I usually dress quite plainly, people say I'm 'very thin' and it could be that I suppose, but I don't really think I'm that much thinner than any normal slim person so I don't know
I only really stare at someone if they are proper ugly. If I see a fit girl, ill make eye contact ,maybe smile, but i wont stare (until I can see her arse).
Reply 14
Would definitely stare more if someone is hot. I suss out everyone wherever I go, I don't miss a trick. I wouldn't look at an ugly person much, why would I?

However I try to avoid staring, it's very off putting.
Either because they're good looking, or because they've got "I love sheep" written on their face in permanant marker. A brief look in the mirror should be able to distinguish (but remember that it'll say "peehs evol I" 'cos it's in mirror).
Anonymous
They usually make eye contact

And Phoenix, I used to ignore but now I sometimes get pissed off and do an angry glare back at them. Depends if I'm in a more pissed off or introverted mood.

I usually dress quite plainly, people say I'm 'very thin' and it could be that I suppose, but I don't really think I'm that much thinner than any normal slim person so I don't know


lol in both occasions if I see someone looking at me, I look down, if I see someone when I glance up, I normally look down again, lol. Never look twice.
Reply 17
Sunofnight
Id say that guys are more likely to be looking at her because shes atrractive and girls would be looking because she is ugly.


Interesting - But I feel that girls look at pretty girls and class them as ugly because they are probably jelous of a pretty girl's features, or they argue that it's ugly because it's fake. It always happens to celebs! Lets face it! They're ALL GORGEOUS!! So what if they had plastic surgery - beauty is beauty. Let's stop hating and start loving i say!

I'm no psychologist but I really believe that whenever you look at anybody, you try to pick up all the good things about their looks before you pick up the bad.
Reply 18
Anonymous
I often get this feeling people are staring at me when I'm out in public (and I swear to god I am not imagining it), I hate the way I look and therefore feel all self-concious when I notice this and think they're staring because I look horrific or something. However, other people do tell me I look nice. I'm sure people do stare but I think it's because I look bad and I suspect these people saying I look nice are just being nice not to hurt my feelings... anyway, just wondering, would you say you would be more likely to stare at a girl because she looks nice or because she's really ugly/weird looking? Which one?


Unfortunately, people will only stare if you are worthy of their attention. In other words, you could be eliciting attention for a bad reason (big belly) as much as you could a good reason (well-shaped legs). So it seems that it is just as likely that you might be stared at for your quirkiness as your glamour. :frown:
Reply 19
perhaps they arent staring at all and you just catch their eye at the wrong time. and then you "do an angry glare" at them which makes them stare more at the person giving them evils for nothing.

hmm