Cant stop crying

if he isnt making you happy then find someone who is.

Argh my boyfriend used to do that, and still does a little bit, it makes me quite cross. I've realised that he just likes more space than I do so I try and give it to him, that way when he sees me next he is more affectionate and appreciative. If you're with someone all the time then you can start taking them for granted and you don't get a chance to miss them so I think that's the logic behind it. If he's going away in a few days I would suggest not seeing him until perhaps the night before he leaves so he gets a chance to miss you and you can spend a special last night together

I think that's a bit drastic. Amy I'm assuming you and your boyfriend have been happy before this? It could really just be an issue of space

Don't girls ever get tired of thinking so hard about everything? I mean I consider myself a ponderer but I couldn't do this 24/7 intensive internal critique like my ex used to. How do you get up in the morning?

Hey! Have you tried sitting down with him and explaining how you feel, or maybe writing a letter? After he's gone away maybe try to see him a bit less so that the time you spend together is more special. Also, I know it's really hard, but try not to be the one always arranging to see him etc...if he realises you're making less effort he'll start getting worried and then maybe he'll make some effort too! If you're just always there for him at the snap of a finger, he has no need to make the effort because he knows you'll do it for him.

i think ollie needs to be told how u feel amy.

Don't girls ever get tired of thinking so hard about everything? I mean I consider myself a ponderer but I couldn't do this 24/7 intensive internal critique like my ex used to. How do you get up in the morning?

Yeah i've told him, he agrees but i can only talk to him so much before i repeat myself. He wants to show me loads of attention but he just doesnt have that push that he has when we only see each other twice a week.. If you get me?

I just need to know what I can do, cos i dont know how to be atm, i can only put a brave face on for so long.

Yeah, its not going to end at all.. but i just need someone to talk too because as you may have seen from my posts (im very much of a thinker anyway) just some problems you can't answer yourself. We're at our best when we are at school/uni and in a routine.. But nowadays cos we are at home, i see him, and then we are on msn all day and then i see him again.. So i understand that there is no space.

Yeah ditto!! At college me and him had a brilliant time even though we saw each other loads every day - I thought he would hate that! But for some reason we got along absolutely great. I guess that's the routine thing! And it's the same with me - see him, msn, see him, msn The only thing with the two of us is that we always see each other on saturday for swimming and sunday for dinner and the pub or a movie In the week there's usually something going on which allows us to make plans to see each other but when there's not it can be tough as I'm always the one who's more bothered about seeing him

I found it really hard at first that he didn't wanna see me as much as I wanted to see him but I forced myself to just relax a bit and give him some space and I found that I actually quite enjoy having some space of my own And it gives me a chance to miss him too, which although I don't need to do it, it helps me appreciate him. I know you're feeling really crappy but it'll get better!! I'm sure it'll be hard for you when he's gone so long But I'm sure while he's away he'll miss you and wish he'd appreciated the time he had with you more!

wheres he going away for so long