Missing him but does he miss me?

Sorry if this post is stupid but i really need to get this out of my chest. my boyfriend (who ive been going out with for 4 yrz) has gone on holiday for 3 and a half weeks with two of his best mates. its been two weeks so far and i've been missing him a lot. he left me two voicemails on my phone (i couldnt pick up his calls because i was on holiday with my family) and i appreciated it a lot. but then he called me today and he didnt seem that excited to speak to me, whereas in his voice messages, he seemed to be missing me a lot. and he only spoke to me for around 3 mins because he was calling from a phone box and was running out of money. and on top of that, his mates didnt let us speak properly. im schizophrenic and im scared that i wont be able to survive without him in the next week and a half. i cant even spend much time with mates as they are on holiday too. what should i do?

Reply 1

benisright

1

Honestly, hes on holiday with his mates. Hes not missing you that much. But why should that matter? When he comes back he'll be very happy to see you.

Appreciate the fact that he loves you enough to ring you three times, even though you didnt pick up the first two times. And understand that when a guy is talking to his gf on the phone and his mates are around, hes going to be very self concious.

Reply 2

high priestess fnord

9

if his m,ates were listening then he was probly putting on a front for them. im sure he misses you.

Reply 3

Misogynist

18

Well.. I'm pretty sure I'd miss someone I liked alot no matter where I was.. So it's more a question of the relationship between you two.. I'd make sure she knew aswell but as far as your boyfriend is concerned he's probably too immersed in his holiday to satisify your 'Miss me when you're away' needs. Next time he calls act equally bored and that should send him the message loud and clear.

Reply 4

benisright

1

NO dont do that. Why play a game.

Hes been your boyfriend for 4 years, if hes away on holiday give him his space dont make him fret and worry about you because then he'll just grow to dislike you in the long run. Let him know your missing him and wake up and realise that he loves you.

Reply 5

Triplet1

13

Why

Well.. I'm pretty sure I'd miss someone I liked alot no matter where I was.. So it's more a question of the relationship between you two.. I'd make sure she knew aswell but as far as your boyfriend is concerned he's probably too immersed in his holiday to satisify your 'Miss me when you're away' needs. Next time he calls act equally bored and that should send him the message loud and clear.

no dont play this game. If i was on holiday with my friends i dont think i would really miss my boyfriend as i would be having a brill time but would be very exicted about seeing him when i got home.
you've been in a relationship for 4 years so he must love you stop worrying an enjoy time with your friends!

Reply 6

Misogynist

18

It's not a game.. It's just showing a person how you felt when they did it to you. It's called 'mirroring' (Google it). If you want it to remain the same you can of course just stop worrying about it all together and follow everyone else's advice.

Reply 7

Triplet1

13

it is a game and you shouldnt do it if things want to be sorted out you'll both just get fed up.
stop worrying about it and talk to him when he gets back an i'm sure he will have missed you.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

But what can i do to get my mind off him? like i said before, im schizophrenic and also have depression and im not asking for symphathy but just ways to get my mind off him because in the past, i've done self harm. i really miss him and i'm scared that i'll end up doing something to myself.

Reply 9

benisright

1

Why stop thinking about him? Keep remembering that theres a guy out there who loves you so much he'll ring you three times before you answer and talk to you even if his mates are going to take the mick that hes talking to his girlfriend whilst on a lads holiday.

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

when this happens to me i usually put my mp3 player on rather loud, also going for a run with music can help to take your mind of it.

Reply 11

xxaimeexx

He does miss you ! Youve been on his mind at least 3 times to actually phone you which in a boys world is alot of holiday with mates time wasted so be gratefull he phoned you! Like the other posts have said he is on holiday which is a time to have fun and relax and if hes worrying about you hes just going to come back grumpy and miserable that he couldnt have much fun because he missed you too much .Let him have some fun! Absence makes the heart grow fonder as they say!

Missing him but does he miss me?

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