argh this is starting to do my head in

ok so i've been going out with what i thought was a great guy since april
never ever had an argument, never felt this way about anyone before
lost my virginity to him aswel which is why he's more special
i went on holiday for 2 weeks and i missed him so much, we mainly stayed in touch through emails and he wrote how much he was missing me

anyway i got back last thurs and things really havent been the same since i got back, i feel like we are drifting apart, i was pissed off because the night i returned i rang his house and he wasnt in, so i txtd him expecting him 2 call me back but he jus was like "sorry im in pub can't chat"

we met up and for the 1st time conversation was strained.......since then ive had to text him everyday and normally jus get a crap txt back hours later

im seeing him tomorrow and i dont know whether to bring up how im feeling??
i couldnt sleep last night because i just kept thinking about us
advice appreciated

Reply 1

Triplet1

13

You have too tell him how you feel its the only way you can sort it out, if thats what you want? Its not fair to let him guess whats wrong with you.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

i meant 2 write that ive had 2 text 1st everyday when he used 2 make the effort as much as me

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

Triplet1

You have too tell him how you feel its the only way you can sort it out, if thats what you want? Its not fair to let him guess whats wrong with you.

is there necessarily just a problem with me???

Reply 4

Misogynist

18

It's because you two have been apart from each other for a long period of time you've 'forgotten' how to talk with each other. If you've noticed we all build an internal character for the person we speak to, and talk according to the persons interests and the way they react to certain things. Once the communication is established again you should be ok. Try to clear your mind of all the negative thoughts you've implanted in your brain about the way he's acting.. There could be a million things affecting that. Just talk to him about it if all else fails. (I'd meet him for a couple of days and if it stayed the same then I'd bring it up.)

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

i dont kno........its just that i assumed we would have so much to say because we hadn't seen each other for so long?

Reply 6

Triplet1

13

maybe you are just drifting apart, you just need to figure out how you feel about him now and if you want things to work.
but you need too talk to him about it first and tell him how you feel.

Reply 7

HereFishyFishy

13

Anonymous

ok so i've been going out with what i thought was a great guy since april
never ever had an argument, never felt this way about anyone before
lost my virginity to him aswel which is why he's more special
i went on holiday for 2 weeks and i missed him so much, we mainly stayed in touch through emails and he wrote how much he was missing me

anyway i got back last thurs and things really havent been the same since i got back, i feel like we are drifting apart, i was pissed off because the night i returned i rang his house and he wasnt in, so i txtd him expecting him 2 call me back but he jus was like "sorry im in pub can't chat"

we met up and for the 1st time conversation was strained.......since then ive had to text him everyday and normally jus get a crap txt back hours later

im seeing him tomorrow and i dont know whether to bring up how im feeling??
i couldnt sleep last night because i just kept thinking about us
advice appreciated

Nobody can know really what is going on between you guys. In my opinion, the signs aren't too good - I'm sorry to say that.
I think the best thing you can do is bring it up when you meet tomorrow and see what happens.
Hope it's just what the above poster said about 'forgetting' how to communicate.
Good luck.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP