i had unprotected sex please help!!!

I had unprotected sex with my bf about a week ago but then had to go on holiday. It was stupid not to use protection and i know this that is why i have booked an appointment with my doctor to make sure everything is ok. But the only appointment i could get was tommorrow, which is great except my bf and i wer meant to be going out together for a sorta double date, (this has beeen arranged for some time now).

the other thing i should probably tell you is that we havent rly spoken about having sex since it happened, i am quite an open person, and i know this isnt something we can't just ignore, therefore i need to talk to him about it and before tomorrow and as he is at work the only way to do this will be to ring him.

so i need your help on what to say. Do i tell him where i am going tomorrow, rather than making up some phoney excuse for not going out with him?? If so how do i tell him that what we did was stupid and i regret not using protection, without making it sound like i like him any less?? and finally does he need to get him self checked out??

please help me im so worried and i dont really know how to approach the matter!!

thanq in advance x x

Reply 1

Kate.

I'm sure your boyfriend isn't an idiot; it's slightly worrying that he hasn't mentioned anything about the lack of protection.
If you can have sex with the guy, I'm sure you're capable of telling him you're going to the doctors to take a pregnancy test. Why would you need to make an excuse up? And how does regretting being an idiot and not using any protection mean you like him any less? :|
And yes, you should both get checked out for STDs.

Reply 2

Captain Scarlet

Does this double date last the whole day?? And u oculd explain to your bf your concerns and im sure he would understand that you need this checkup

Reply 3

33.33.33

if you're old and wise enough to have sex with this guy, you're old and wise enough to tell him the truth. just tell him. tell him tell him tell him. he will be supportive and will make the whole thing a lot easier, promise!

Reply 4

username51346

filth... if the catholic church had their way I tells ya.

Reply 5

sarahb

your boyfriend should definately understand, theres nothing for him not to understand realy, you had unprotected sex and the next logical thing is to check out the possible consequences! im sure he'l be encouraging and supportive of it all, just be honest

Reply 6

Mattmoy_2000

Or, if you don't want to tell him, just pretend that your mother has made you a dentist appointment that you didn't know about (or something, obviously this isn't a good idea if he frequently talks to your mother...)

Reply 7

sarahb

Mattmoy_2000

i would have to disagree with you here, never lie to your boyfriend, a relationship is supposed to based on love, TRUST, loyalty and honesty.

Reply 8

Mattmoy_2000

i would have to disagree with you here, never lie to your boyfriend, a relationship is supposed to based on love, TRUST, loyalty and honesty.

Fair point.

Reply 9

SilentSi

Yea just tell your boyfriend what your doing and if he cares then im sure he'll be fine about it. Your health is more important than a double date. Getting checked out is a good idea for the both of you but there isnt any need to seriously worry im sure your fine and you havent gotten ya self an STI. Many people have unprotected sex without getting anything harmfull, but its good that you care about your self and boyfriends health by wanting to get checked out, many people wouldnt.

Reply 10

Tarts_n_Vicars

And if you can get naked with him you can tell him you're having to see a doc to deal with the consequences!

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

Cheers guys im gonna ring him asap and let him know xactly how i feel, i spose if he dont like it he can lump it!! thanx again 4 ya help

x x

Reply 12

username47781

Yes tell him, and learn next time to use protection, if your boyfriend has a problem using protection then he is not the one for you.

Reply 13

SilentSi

Anonymous

Cheers guys im gonna ring him asap and let him know xactly how i feel, i spose if he dont like it he can lump it!! thanx again 4 ya help

x x

Good luck when you ring him, hope it goes to plan, and dont worry everything will be fine =D

Reply 14

Juno

There is no point in going to the doctor tomorrow. After a week, it's too late for emergency contraception, but too early to tell if you're pregnant. And it's too early for most STI's to show up.