What makes a good friend?

Someone who you can enjoy nothing with, laugh with, cry with... talk to for hours about everything, be completely honest with.

Reply 2

Someone you can trust 100%, someone you enjoy being around, someone who makes you laugh, someone you care about, someone who you can spend hours doing absolutely nothing...yet still not get bored.

so they have to be perfect really..someone who is really alike (a few differences are allowed, as if everyone where the same the world would be boring)

Reply 3

Nellup

The easiest way I can think of answering this is to review the qualities my friends have:
Intelligent (But not required in a friend)
Funny
Trustworthy
Reliable
Insane (But then I am also a couple of sandwiches short of a picnic so that may not apply to everyone).

The most important qualities are reliability and trustworthiness (while these are similar they are not quite the same thing). Friends must stand by you no matter what and you should be able to confide in them and recieve their advice on a problem.

Reply 4

RachelBabyfrog

Oh yes, quirkiness is a good one :biggrin:

Reply 5

Somebody who always agrees with you, never questions your actions--even when they are wrong--and always does what you say. :smile:

Reply 6

Big Man On Campus

Somebody who always agrees with you, never questions your actions--even when they are wrong--and always does what you say. :smile:

id disagree with that, id expect my freinds to tell me im wrong..

and we'd sort it out, maybe have a minor row...but would be back being great freinds again within a day or 2

id hate to have freinds that just lied to me and did what i say...maybe thats just me?

Reply 7

MissSurfer

OP

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You all say trustworthiness...

Ok I know this was really stupid of me but I went away with my best friend in July and by the end of the week she was being really quiet with me and everything I said she was being sarcastic back. I just knew she was bitching about me to people so I couldn't resist looking on her phone (I shouldn't have I know!!) - I didn't read anything except for scanning the last few messages for my name to see if she'd mentioned me. Sure enough, yes she had - she'd been moaning about me to her other best mate.

I've been best friends with her for 6 years and never once looked on her phone or anything before..

..so how bad a friend have I been?

Reply 8

sarahb

Big Man On Campus

Somebody who always agrees with you, never questions your actions--even when they are wrong--and always does what you say. :smile:

HA! i think a very large part of a friendship is accountability - knowing that your friend whill tell you when you are wrong, who always questions when they dont agree with what you do. however, does it in a loving and caring way, not to get at you, but to encourage and edify you. friendship isnt all about the whole fussy-ness and good feelings, about being able to hold each other accountable through the tough, embarasing and hard times when you know your friend is wrong!

Reply 9

MissSurfer

You all say trustworthiness...

Ok I know this was really stupid of me but I went away with my best friend in July and by the end of the week she was being really quiet with me and everything I said she was being sarcastic back. I just knew she was bitching about me to people so I couldn't resist looking on her phone (I shouldn't have I know!!) - I didn't read anything except for scanning the last few messages for my name to see if she'd mentioned me. Sure enough, yes she had - she'd been moaning about me to her other best mate.

I've been best friends with her for 6 years and never once looked on her phone or anything before..

..so how bad a friend have I been?

id say you havent been bad...

theres no excuse for bitching behind freinds backs

i had a similar 'incident' with a freind last year..and we no longer speak, as i read stuff that wrecked our freindship...

but to be honest (in my case) its worked out better, as i feel much happier without that freind.

so whilst you where nosey, and was a breach of privacy...the freind should have been more honest, so isnt perhaps a great freind to have. Like if she was on holiday with you, youd expect her to be a good freind..not gossiping and moaning behind your back. Also bear in mind that theres this supposed "5 year cycle" of freinds that people keep, so at 6years of freindship...you were maybe about ready to stop being such close freinds.

Reply 10

sarahb

MissSurfer

You all say trustworthiness...

Ok I know this was really stupid of me but I went away with my best friend in July and by the end of the week she was being really quiet with me and everything I said she was being sarcastic back. I just knew she was bitching about me to people so I couldn't resist looking on her phone (I shouldn't have I know!!) - I didn't read anything except for scanning the last few messages for my name to see if she'd mentioned me. Sure enough, yes she had - she'd been moaning about me to her other best mate.

I've been best friends with her for 6 years and never once looked on her phone or anything before..

..so how bad a friend have I been?

ok, being honest, you shouldnt have done it, under any circumstances. however, you realise you shouldnt have and you seem to be repenting of it, so i would say that you can leave that to the side for now.

i think you should approach her about it though, another part of friendship is honesty. tell her how you were feeling, and that these feeling lead you to do something you now regret, however, as a consequence you saw what you saw and it hurt you. ask her why she said those things... bring it all out in the open. although you were wrong in doing it in the first place, i think you would be even more wrong to hide the fact and keep it to yourself. and remember that she was in the wrong, she shouldnt have been bitching about you, but i dont think you should use that as an excuse to say you did something less worse than her so yours is acceptable (if that makes sense!?)

at the end of the day though, dont worry about it. we all make mistakes, if shes a true friend, shel forgive you. at least you regret it! it would be worse if you didnt! so i dont think youve been a 'bad' friend, you simply made a mistake, so dont worry :biggrin:

Reply 11

Rooftopcowboy

id disagree with that...

Excuse me?

Reply 12

Eternity Forever

A good friend is the person who gives you the better of the two choices, hold your hand when you're scared, helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you, thinks of you at times when you are not there, reminds you of what you have forgotten, helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer, stays with you so that you have confidence, goes out of their way to make time for you, helps you clear up your mistakes, helps you deal with pressure from others, smiles for you when they are sad, helps you become a better person, and most importantly loves you!

Reply 13

Big Man On Campus

Excuse me?

i disagree that a good freind always has to agree with you (as you said in your previous post)

because personally id find that meant they were weak and a bit of a pushover (ie theyd say anything to please)

Reply 14

Rooftopcowboy

i disagree that a good freind always has to agree with you (as you said in your previous post)

Wait...

You disagree with what I have to say?

You'd be a bad friend. :frown:

Reply 15

Big Man On Campus

Wait...

You disagree with what I have to say?

You'd be a bad friend. :frown:

so would you rather i was like "yer thats great, great comment" when i didnt really mean it??

and you cant really say im a bad freind, as you havent met me..and i doubt we'd be similar people.

(not wanting to start a row..its just its a discussion forum..and im offering my opinion)

Reply 16

Poison Ivy

A good friend is someone who accepts you for who you are and nothing else, is there for you 24/7, doesn't make you feel bad if you constantly complain about your life etc etc etc

Reply 17

randomuser#6

just one more aye :tongue:

, damn right, and doesn't leave you half way through a convo, and appreciates everything you do for them including even changing for them.

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