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Jealous situation
Ok my situation is ive been speaking to a friend (a girl on the internet) for a year and about 4 months. Im a 20 year old guy, over that time ive come to like her more and more. We have already seen pictures, spoken briefly on webcam and chatted on the phone since then. We were planning to meet up anyway as it turned out, she was developing these same type of feelings. And she told me "being good friends is the basis of a relationship" which was a nice thing to say.
But last winter or so, she wasent talking for some reaosn. Then a month later, she tells me that she has a boyfriend. That completely went against what she told me, i had known her for 8 months, she met this guy on a blind date and got together on a second date, basically knowing him less than a month. They have broken up 3 times since then, and yes it has hurt me a bit. I asked her if she is going to give me a chance and she said yes, but kept going back to him. Well we did try and meet up before twice but never happened (first time she had an accident few days before day and was in hospital, second time my sister was in the hospital so it wasnet right to go)
Now the thing is she has broken up permantely with him last saturday and is single. her birthday is this wednesday so i asked her what she was doing, and she said she is going on a date with a guy she has been speaking to from a dating website for 7 months. Made me a bit jealous so i asked her for a date sometime and she said yes.
Im just a bit worried he is going to get with her and get the first chance before i do, just like before.
She said she wants to give both of us a chance, and i told her to have a great birthday and date, but dont fall for him too quickly. and she said "ill try not to". Some reassurance of giving me a chance isnt it? I think not!
Another thing, she had an accident at work and shes got a bandage on her head to cover the gaze, now when she is going on a date on wednesday, she wont take it off. But i said isnt it the first time you are meeting him, and she said "Yes, but he is used to it". Wait, what the hell does that mean, used to it?
I asked her if she wanted to meet up soon and she said "yes, but i want to make myself look really nice for you, so can i wait till the bandage comes off?"
I really dont know what to do, she is such a good friend and i know she wouldnt do anything intentional to hurt me.
What should i say to her? Shall i confront her about this?
Also for the first date, where do you think would be an ideal place to go (cinema is a no-no)
But last winter or so, she wasent talking for some reaosn. Then a month later, she tells me that she has a boyfriend. That completely went against what she told me, i had known her for 8 months, she met this guy on a blind date and got together on a second date, basically knowing him less than a month. They have broken up 3 times since then, and yes it has hurt me a bit. I asked her if she is going to give me a chance and she said yes, but kept going back to him. Well we did try and meet up before twice but never happened (first time she had an accident few days before day and was in hospital, second time my sister was in the hospital so it wasnet right to go)
Now the thing is she has broken up permantely with him last saturday and is single. her birthday is this wednesday so i asked her what she was doing, and she said she is going on a date with a guy she has been speaking to from a dating website for 7 months. Made me a bit jealous so i asked her for a date sometime and she said yes.
Im just a bit worried he is going to get with her and get the first chance before i do, just like before.
She said she wants to give both of us a chance, and i told her to have a great birthday and date, but dont fall for him too quickly. and she said "ill try not to". Some reassurance of giving me a chance isnt it? I think not!
Another thing, she had an accident at work and shes got a bandage on her head to cover the gaze, now when she is going on a date on wednesday, she wont take it off. But i said isnt it the first time you are meeting him, and she said "Yes, but he is used to it". Wait, what the hell does that mean, used to it?
I asked her if she wanted to meet up soon and she said "yes, but i want to make myself look really nice for you, so can i wait till the bandage comes off?"
I really dont know what to do, she is such a good friend and i know she wouldnt do anything intentional to hurt me.
What should i say to her? Shall i confront her about this?
Also for the first date, where do you think would be an ideal place to go (cinema is a no-no)
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Reply 1
(first time she had an accident few days before day and was in hospital, second time my sister was in the hospital so it wasnet right to go)
No she didn't.
She sounds quite annoying and immature. I know you like her internet persona, but I don't think you should pin any hope whatsoever for a real life relationship. Go find someone who is into you.
Reply 2
The cinema.
Reply 3
Another thing, she had an accident at work and shes got a bandage on her head to cover the gaze, now when she is going on a date on wednesday, she wont take it off. But i said isnt it the first time you are meeting him, and she said "Yes, but he is used to it". Wait, what the hell does that mean, used to it?
maybe they know each other from work or college or they re just friends
Reply 4
Anonymous
But i said isnt it the first time you are meeting him, and she said "Yes, but he is used to it". Wait, what the hell does that mean, used to it?
Maybe he's a med student.
Anonymous
I really dont know what to do, she is such a good friend and i know she wouldnt do anything intentional to hurt me.
What should i say to her? Shall i confront her about this?
What should i say to her? Shall i confront her about this?
That's exactly it - she's a friend. Confront her if you want - politely - but I wouldn't expect anything off her. Read your post back to yourself as if it was someone else writing it - she's not interested.
Reply 5
unfinished sympathy
maybe they know each other from work or college or they re just friends
if u havent read, they have been talking on a dating website for 7 months. and they have not met yet
Reply 6
Anonymous
if u havent read, they have been talking on a dating website for 7 months. and they have not met yet
well it obviously sounds as though they have~ maybe she's lying to you- remember shes under no obligation to tell you stuff about her other friends!
Reply 7
but u cant get into relationships without beiing friends, so nothing wrong with that.
Reply 8
She says she has never met him
Reply 9
Anonymous
but u cant get into relationships without beiing friends, so nothing wrong with that.
And you can't be in a relationship while you're just friends. Stop kidding yourself. She's been out with two other people and clearly doesn't want to go out with you.
Reply 10
No offence Anon, but you're coming across as a little possesive here. Remember that this internet person doesn't have any real connection to you. I know it sucks that you got strung along, but that's love for you! 
Reply 11
generalebriety
And you can't be in a relationship while you're just friends. Stop kidding yourself. She's been out with two other people and clearly doesn't want to go out with you.
very blunt
Reply 12
ladyportacabin
No offence Anon, but you're coming across as a little possesive here. Remember that this internet person doesn't have any real connection to you. I know it sucks that you got strung along, but that's love for you!
too true- love sucks!why the hell do we search for it all our lives?
Reply 13
But i asked her to go out on a datte, and she said yes. Im trying to make it so we arent just friends and she knows this
Reply 14
Anonymous
But i asked her to go out on a datte, and she said yes. Im trying to make it so we arent just friends and she knows this
did you ask for a date, or if you could meet up! that's two different things
Reply 15
Yeah. But you've known her 16 months - the other people knew her under a month and 7 months respectively. Do you really think she's interested?
Reply 16
You ARE just friends. If you've not even met then that's all you can be. And even 'friends' is kind of a push for someone you've spoken to on the net.
Agreeing to a date does not constitute acceptance of a relationship. Terms and conditions apply. Please read the label.
Agreeing to a date does not constitute acceptance of a relationship. Terms and conditions apply. Please read the label.
Reply 17
Yes i asked her for a date, and she said yes. She got with her ex, simple reason because she met him and hasent met me.
Reply 18
ladyportacabin
You ARE just friends. If you've not even met then that's all you can be. And even 'friends' is kind of a push for someone you've spoken to on the net.
Agreeing to a date does not constitute acceptance of a relationship. Terms and conditions apply. Please read the label.
Agreeing to a date does not constitute acceptance of a relationship. Terms and conditions apply. Please read the label.
terms and conditions apply! sh*T thats why i'm boyfriendless! you should read the small print!Reply 19
And he also asked her for a date and she said yes. So we "should" be on level grounding!
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