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Losing it...
I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years but am still a virgin. I have avoided sex as I didn't want to get pregnant, but hormonal contraceptives and their side effects are offputting. I just pray that condoms will work. The thing I fear is the pain as he is very well endowed width and length.
He has waited patiently and has never pressurised me and has tried to be so helpful and romantic. His patience is nearly running out, bless him. My nerves just get the better of me and I have realised I need to face my fears and have sex as I really do love him and know this is the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with. Has anyone got anytips for me to relax and calm down?
Thanks
He has waited patiently and has never pressurised me and has tried to be so helpful and romantic. His patience is nearly running out, bless him. My nerves just get the better of me and I have realised I need to face my fears and have sex as I really do love him and know this is the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with. Has anyone got anytips for me to relax and calm down?
Thanks
Look, even if you love him, and want to have sex with him eventually, if you are this concerned (to refer to it as a "fear" is not a good sign) maybe you are just not ready yet?
I hate to post this, but... practice makes perfect? You won't overcome your fears of being hurt unless you try it (and besides, it apparently gets less painful each time you do it, until after a few goes it doesn't hurt at all). After two years of you two being in a relationship, what can we say to stop you being afraid?
And condoms, unless they split, work. Simple as that.
And condoms, unless they split, work. Simple as that.
don't rush into it, and you clearly haven't so well done for waiting so long, it shows your commitment to this guy and he is very lucky! he sounds very understanding, so just take it slowly. i'm not sure what has happened between you but don't dive straight into full intercourse, go through the motions first...
firstly, only do if YOU feel comfortable and want to. dont do it because you think you need to for his sake. secondly, try not to worry about it, if he knows you are a virgin, he will (hopefully) make you feel at ease and be gentle with you.
Im actualy a virgin myself so i cant realy help much-sory!!
Im actualy a virgin myself so i cant realy help much-sory!!
Russell_G
yer. just go 4 it, the 1st time will more than likely hurt but it'll get better. just the way it is i guess.
umm well my first time didn't hurt, and from discussion with friends most of them didnt find it painful either, so yes it is a possibility but you cant say it will "more than likey hurt" lol
First of all - how big is well endowed?
If it's over 8" long then he shouldn't expect to put it all the way in.
The thicker he is, the longer it will take for you to adjust. But there is really no limit to how much you can stretch.
It will just take time.
Start off with fingers, then move up to smaller dildo's/vibrators until you can take something close to your bf's size. Then have sex. It usually takes around three months or so...maybe less.
If you want to have sex then you can have it.
A tip for your boyfriend too is to hold the base of his penis with his hand so that only around half of it goes inside you, that will be easier for you.
Stretching is the most important and getting stretched too much will hurt you. Start off small, work your way up. If you want to use condoms try Magnum XL's.
If it's over 8" long then he shouldn't expect to put it all the way in.
The thicker he is, the longer it will take for you to adjust. But there is really no limit to how much you can stretch.
It will just take time.
Start off with fingers, then move up to smaller dildo's/vibrators until you can take something close to your bf's size. Then have sex. It usually takes around three months or so...maybe less.
If you want to have sex then you can have it.
A tip for your boyfriend too is to hold the base of his penis with his hand so that only around half of it goes inside you, that will be easier for you.
Stretching is the most important and getting stretched too much will hurt you. Start off small, work your way up. If you want to use condoms try Magnum XL's.
Sam Beckett
First of all - how big is well endowed?
If it's over 8" long then he shouldn't expect to put it all the way in.
The thicker he is, the longer it will take for you to adjust. But there is really no limit to how much you can stretch.
It will just take time.
Start off with fingers, then move up to smaller dildo's/vibrators until you can take something close to your bf's size. Then have sex. It usually takes around three months or so...maybe less.
If you want to have sex then you can have it.
A tip for your boyfriend too is to hold the base of his penis with his hand so that only around half of it goes inside you, that will be easier for you.
Stretching is the most important and getting stretched too much will hurt you. Start off small, work your way up. If you want to use condoms try Magnum XL's.
If it's over 8" long then he shouldn't expect to put it all the way in.
The thicker he is, the longer it will take for you to adjust. But there is really no limit to how much you can stretch.
It will just take time.
Start off with fingers, then move up to smaller dildo's/vibrators until you can take something close to your bf's size. Then have sex. It usually takes around three months or so...maybe less.
If you want to have sex then you can have it.
A tip for your boyfriend too is to hold the base of his penis with his hand so that only around half of it goes inside you, that will be easier for you.
Stretching is the most important and getting stretched too much will hurt you. Start off small, work your way up. If you want to use condoms try Magnum XL's.
He is at least 7 inches in length and more that 5 inches in girth. I just dread the hymen breaking - that's the painful part!
Thanks for your advice
WTF!
That is not very well endowed. Granted, its big(er than average)
But nothing you should be fretting like this over. Just accept his shaft!
Honestly, it won't be as bad as you think and you'll enjoy it. I doubt you'd need to stretch. Just tell him to be careful how much he puts in and goes slow.
It's probably semantic and my mistake but I don't think he is very well endowed and you should not be worrying.
That is not very well endowed. Granted, its big(er than average)
But nothing you should be fretting like this over. Just accept his shaft!
Honestly, it won't be as bad as you think and you'll enjoy it. I doubt you'd need to stretch. Just tell him to be careful how much he puts in and goes slow.
It's probably semantic and my mistake but I don't think he is very well endowed and you should not be worrying.
If you can put fingers or a dildo in you, then you have no hymen. It usually breaks before a girl has sex.
Not necessarily, I can only put half a finger in as I still have a hymen 
. Only broken through tampons or exercise if it has already gone!
. Only broken through tampons or exercise if it has already gone!So you dont use tampons OR exercise? Never done PE at school?
Perhaps you could read up on ways to break the hymen and break it before you have sex then there will be no problems.
I think my ex said she broke hers on her own but I can't remember...that would be the best way though.
Perhaps you could read up on ways to break the hymen and break it before you have sex then there will be no problems.
I think my ex said she broke hers on her own but I can't remember...that would be the best way though.
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