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I have this stupid nagging problem in my head that I can't seem to find an answer to. It's long and it's complicated so bear with me.

My problem is that I have very little self-belief. This is down to the fact that I'm from a very close family and that I was bullied for 5 years in school because of my weight and my eagerness in class. I've never had any friends - never mind a best friend.

This means that now, whenever I meet people and make friends with them, I find it very hard to keep them as friends because I'm constantly thinking whether or not they like me or want to be my friend.

I'm overly paranoid. Even now I've lost weight since school, I still feel very negatively about my appearance and am never happy with myself when I look in the mirror.

I look at other people in college and work being totally natural and carefree (though this may be a front) and I wish I could just forget all of the paranoia and self-doubt and get on with my life. I'm a 17 year old lad and I already feel as though life has passed me by.

Sometimes I really get fed-up with myself and really detest the person I am. I feel like a social outcast.

Any advice would be appreciated.

Thanks.
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University can be a new start.
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I felt like that for a long time, you just have to believe that you are better than the bullies and you will be fine. I still feel down especialy at the moment but things slowly get better.
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You are almost certainly not as bad looking as you think. You are probably a nice person who just has a low self esteem, and need to realise that not everyone will view you in the critical way in which you view yourself.
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I have this stupid nagging problem in my head that I can't seem to find an answer to. It's long and it's complicated so bear with me.

My problem is that I have very little self-belief. This is down to the fact that I'm from a very close family and that I was bullied for 5 years in school because of my weight and my eagerness in class. I've never had any friends - never mind a best friend.

This means that now, whenever I meet people and make friends with them, I find it very hard to keep them as friends because I'm constantly thinking whether or not they like me or want to be my friend.

I'm overly paranoid. Even now I've lost weight since school, I still feel very negatively about my appearance and am never happy with myself when I look in the mirror.

I look at other people in college and work being totally natural and carefree (though this may be a front) and I wish I could just forget all of the paranoia and self-doubt and get on with my life. I'm a 17 year old lad and I already feel as though life has passed me by.

Sometimes I really get fed-up with myself and really detest the person I am. I feel like a social outcast.

Any advice would be appreciated.

Thanks.
Welcome to my world mate. I know *exactly* how you feel. I'm working on the problems myself, very slowly. The only advice I can give is to be yourself, and if other people don't like that, then they're not worth it. I have major self-hatred issues, and I can totally relate to all your problems. If you want to talk more, PM me or get in touch via MSN (you can find my address if you click on the little person underneath my post count ).
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Welcome to my world mate. I know *exactly* how you feel. I'm working on the problems myself, very slowly. The only advice I can give is to be yourself, and if other people don't like that, then they're not worth it. I have major self-hatred issues, and I can totally relate to all your problems. If you want to talk more, PM me or get in touch via MSN (you can find my address if you click on the little person underneath my post count ).
Hello Eeyore
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I have this stupid nagging problem in my head that I can't seem to find an answer to. It's long and it's complicated so bear with me.

My problem is that I have very little self-belief. This is down to the fact that I'm from a very close family and that I was bullied for 5 years in school because of my weight and my eagerness in class. I've never had any friends - never mind a best friend.

This means that now, whenever I meet people and make friends with them, I find it very hard to keep them as friends because I'm constantly thinking whether or not they like me or want to be my friend.

I'm overly paranoid. Even now I've lost weight since school, I still feel very negatively about my appearance and am never happy with myself when I look in the mirror.

I look at other people in college and work being totally natural and carefree (though this may be a front) and I wish I could just forget all of the paranoia and self-doubt and get on with my life. I'm a 17 year old lad and I already feel as though life has passed me by.

Sometimes I really get fed-up with myself and really detest the person I am. I feel like a social outcast.

Any advice would be appreciated.

Thanks.
As I don't know your age, this may sound patronising, but it will probably get better in time. The older people get the more open they become, and You'll eventually find that people your age are open enough for you to relax about it.
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Hello Eeyore
Hi Wolfy....
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think positive!
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suicide is the only option...
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suicide is the only option...
Uncalled for mate.
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suicide is the only option...
Not the most helpful comment....!
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suicide is the only option...
This bum who used to go to my school once tried to take his own life. He tried overdosing with painkillers. The thing is, he was so stupid that he didn't take enough, and his mum found him unconscious in the bathroom!
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Uncalled for mate.
only having a jest mate

know what that means?
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The hardest part isnt finding what we need to be, its being content with who we are. Stay who you are.
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The hardest part isnt finding what we need to be, its being content with who we are. Stay who you are.
Indeed, and you are (or were) part of mjg's sig. What more do you want?
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The hardest part isnt finding what we need to be, its being content with who we are. Stay who you are.
ripping off lyrics from a band is not a good idea mate
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Indeed, and you are (or were) part of mjg's sig. What more do you want?
What did it say
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Save the unrelated stuff for PMing.
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Save the unrelated stuff for PMing.
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