will showing my feeling for him put him off?

Hi everyone, I'm a shy Aisan girl who don't usually show my feeling for people easily , not even my female friend. I fancied a guy for 1 year. He's been to UNi, back to work during holidays, and off again, and back again....basically he'll be back every holidays. He's the type of guy i really like: not niosy, nice, and so on. I'm not very sure if he feels the same as i do, anyway, recently( i thought) to show him i fancy him without telling him dirrectly, i've tried to talk to him more (we never say aything more than "hi" or "how u doin" beforehand) and smile when ever i see him, and he does smile back and chat more to myself. I'm trying to creat a chance to let us know more about each other- for friend porpous. I wonder if he'll be freaked out by my sudden friendlyness? Just to let u know, i do nothing more than talking to him or smiling when we have a chance, and adding him as friend on bebo(as well as the other guys at work).

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

OP

Also, what else can i do to show him my feeling without being too ovious or off putting?

Reply 2

sarahb

take it slow as you already are, theres no need to rush. although if hes at uni and not here a lot of the time, it would be hard to start and establish a stable relationship. however, it can work. if you just keep talking to him more and more, doing it gradual he probably wont notice. then try to organise some kind of work do, get your friends from work to all go out sometime and talk to him more that way

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sarahb

take it slow as you already are, theres no need to rush. although if hes at uni and not here a lot of the time, it would be hard to start and establish a stable relationship. however, it can work. if you just keep talking to him more and more, doing it gradual he probably wont notice. then try to organise some kind of work do, get your friends from work to all go out sometime and talk to him more that way

thanks. I know i'm taking it very slowly, just incase i freak him out or piss him off. But the thing is that i realy like him (as i've said i like him for a year!!! i even like him when i was with my ex!!!) he's got the qualities that i look for in a guy! He's quite good in looking (blonde) so i supose lots of girls are fancying him too. I'm worry that if i take things too slowly i'll lose him soon. All i can say abou thim is "he's too good to be real"

Reply 4

Lunar_Scorpion

Hmmm... You could ask him for a drink or something after work? Try something like, "Hi, just wondering if you're doing anything after work? Do you want to go for a drink (or whatever) with me?" Don't worry too much about being nervous, he'll probably think it's cute and say yes!

Reply 5

Charl

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Just be yourself. :smile:

Be friendly, and slowly get to know him. And then ask to go for a coffee or a drink. Smile at him and flirt a little. :biggrin:

Good luck!

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

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Charl!

Just be yourself. :smile:

Be friendly, and slowly get to know him. And then ask to go for a coffee or a drink. Smile at him and flirt a little. :biggrin:

Good luck!

i do smile more to him recently, and i guess he does notice my beautiful smile like this :biggrin:

lol. i want to work out and see if he does have feeling for me too, he does notice my prescence and will look at me frequently, i used to ignore his look because i was too shy to look at him,but now, i dont want to lose any chance, so when ever i am with him , i make sure that he know i like his prescence and talk more amd smile more to wellcome him!! I just worry i might be too obvious. I dont want to be embarrased as there's a girl at work who is quite mean to people will take this as a joke :frown:

will showing my feeling for him put him off?

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