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no sex drive anymore :(

this is quite embarrassing (so i'm posting as anon if that's ok with everyone) but just recently i've totally lost my libido. i came off the pill about 3 months ago, then had the stress of exams etc, so both of those things might have played a part but i thought i would feel like sex once things got back to normal. i just don't ever want sex and i don't think about it at all anymore (except now when i'm worrying about it). my boyfriend is being really understanding about it, but he can't help feeling it's somehow his fault. we have had sex a few times since i've felt like this and i've enjoyed it, but things just aren't the same, partly because i have to force myself to do it :frown:. anyone know what could be causing me to feel like this?
I think you had too much on your plate, exams etc...stressing you out. You just got to relax.
I've had this too, but mine was due to being on the pill. You just need to wait it out and stop worrying about it (easy to say!). Just try to chill out and tell your boyfriend that you'd rather not sleep together for a while. Hopefully a period of no activity will get you a bit riled up :P
i know exactly how u feel - had the same thing recently over exams i was just tired, and didnt really care Lol but i went away on hols and so did my bf and i didnt see him for three weeks, and i was so glad to be with him again (not particularly in a sexual way, just a missing him way Lol) that it kinda got better again! Just see how things go and give urself a bit more time to just chill, try not to think about it that will just make it seem like an issue rather than a positive thing. xx
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if your bf bothered he could try this approach : http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=264031&page=2
on a serious note if you get it back and lose it again apparantly it could be bipolar disorder.
Try some herbal "horny" pills