Straight Acting Bisexual/Gay guys & coming out when you get to University!

I (MYSELF PERSONALLY), wait around a year before coming out to friends so they know me for who I am rather than what I am (hence my sig).
My first coming out experience was when I was 17 (parents still don't know) and that was to friends who, to be honest were kinda shocked because I apparently "don't look gay" and while I don't like sports/watch football, I am more or less the average guy.

I was tempted personally to join the LGBT society but chose not to join in the end simply because I wouldn't join a society for being white, brown hair, green eyes or 5'7...
Why join a society for reasons that are down to biology rather than what make you as a person unique? - My logic.

Sure, go if you want and then see what happens, you don't have to stick but at least you will get the feeling of community. I can tell you University is by FAR the most diverse society you will ever see. EVER.

EDIT:
Have been at university since September last year and currently only 2 people know because, to be honest, I came out in a somewhat joking manor and never expected them to take me seriously. - Hell, one even knows I like him, he knows I wouldn't do anything and so it doesn't seem to have changed anything because I still get asked if I wanna go out, library for revision etc... - I kept saying I am gonna tell him and I eventually just kept putting it off until I got tired of it and just said it so I couldn't give myself an excuse not to anymore.

Will likely come out to everyone around Christmas though (parents are another story...)

Think about going to BiCon (it's in Leeds this year).

While there are obviously some camp guys around, they're the ones who are more noticeable. The 'straight acting' ones are more invisible, but if you have a look at anywhere like the main same-sex dating sites, there's lots of them (us!) and also lots of demand.

Coming out is not going to destroy your career unless you want to be a Catholic priest or similar (and there are enough gay and bisexual men who are that even then, it's clearly not a major problem!) In any case, who you come out to is up to you.

Unless you're on a highly specialised vocational course, you're also likely to never see the vast bulk of people you meet at university ever again. This is one reason why some people go wild there.

Are there any straight men on your course? It may be slightly different with media studies, but it would be difficult to throw a ball in a drama class without hitting someone LGBT.

Yes, I've been to BiCon.

I don't doubt that they think you are straight, but I would be amazed if all of them were.

If all the gay and bisexual actors quit tomorrow, there would barely be a play or film not looking for a replacements. Even with 'big heroes of superhero films', we are now at a stage where James Bond can very strongly imply (in Skyfall) that he's been sexual with men or at least isn't bothered if someone thinks he has.

It's the same sort of man that thinks that any woman not interested in having sex with him must be a lesbian...

When I started University I was in denial of my sexuality, trying to pretend that I was 'straight' and that I was something that I am not. This was obviously not who I am, it took me until halfway through my second year to decide to 'come out' to my friends. I haven't had a negative experience yet. I would not say that I am a 'flamboyant gay' who runs around heralding to everyone what my sexuality is or is not.

I think when I came to the point of accepting my sexuality was when I was able to 'come out' and tell my select friends, that I am gay. I was quite nervous of telling my friends that I am gay but they put my mind at ease by saying that they weren't that bothered by my sexuality as that isn't important it is about who I am. Obviously, this sounds all lovely but there are some people out there who oppose this notion of difference.

I think for me, accepting myself first was an important step in understanding what my sexuality is and the majority of the time, I either forget that I am gay or remember that people know. I found that before I saw it as a 'big secret' that no one could know and now I have just accepted it.

The idea of 'straight acting gays/guys' defeats itself it isn't the 'straight' quality, that individuals are after but the masculinity that you/I find attractive. I still prefer masculine men to feminine men as otherwise you might as well be with a woman.

The whole notion of 'destroying my career' is unlikely to happen unless you decide to pronounce it to every person in the world. Yes, it can be a concern of will they think less off me because I am gay/bi, maybe but if you are masculine in nature, the only way they will know is if you tell them. Work is work and home is home.

When you move to a new town for university people will only presume you are 'straight' it is the beauty of our heteronormative society and that means that you can test the water, get to know people judge their character and tell them if you feel it necessary.

It is not as much something to proclaim to at the beginning of a conversation but something you share with friends if you trust them. Sorry, for it being such a long post.

Is uni really a place where there's opportunity to explore your sexuality in this way?

Yes.