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What's qualities would your ideal woman/man have?

Had this conversation with my friends. Just wanna know what you think.
In order of preference.

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For a woman (I'm straight):
Caring and feminine
Genuine
Trustworthy/honest
Educated and intelligent
Keeps fit (i.e. gym or plays a sport)
Not one of those crazy feminist types
Homemaking skills are good e.g. cooking, cleaning (not being a chauvinist because I'd help out here too, just that two pairs of hands make lighter work)
Family-oriented over career-oriented
Likes the D :colone:

In any order tbf.

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Reply 2

Maid Marian

Not in any order:

Independent
Confident but not overly
Caring and patient
Gentlemanly
Fun and a tease :tongue:

Not shallow
Humble and modest

:smile:

Reply 3

rich1334

For a woman:

Well-educated, I like to be intellectually challenged :tongue:

A 'warm' appearance (I'm not great at describing visual qualities)
Trustworthy/honest
Caring
Slightly introverted

And for bonus points - received pronunciation :colone:

Reply 4

RHyoudon'kno

Original post by Wisefire

For a woman (I'm male):

-Very feminine (as in, she actually does like the things that we conventionally think girls do)
-Liberal-minded
-Doesn't want to marry
-Appreciates the sexual value we place on each other (and is thus amazing in bed)
-Very loose morals
-Has the most beautiful lips and smile
-Model-looks
-Toned body
-Health fanatic
-Not too caring of anyone but ourselves
-Very sociable/party-going, and wants to travel (as do I)
-Is articulate, can talk a lot, and can understand and add to conversations I may start with other (male) friends; has the confidence to just step in, and be expressive
-Is a very aware individual (don't think that's synonymous with 'knowledgeable'; I mean something more like 'appreciative-and-aware-due-to-(natural)-intelligence)
-Middle-class and higher (upper-middle class, and educated to an extent)

You're not picky are you?

Reply 5

antipathy

(For a woman)

Intelligent, and questioning of authority
Politically libertarian
Kinky :wink:

Not overweight (but doesn't need to be skinny)
Into post-hardcore/alternative music
Not shallow/too motivated by money.

Reply 6

RHyoudon'kno

Original post by Wisefire

I actually can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not...? If you're genuinely asking, I lean to being quite picky, yes. All-in-all, if you noticed my picky-side, I take it as a compliment :tongue:

I was being sarcastic but it's not an insult.

Reply 7

esjae

Kind & Caring,
Accepts my past as my past,
Similar music taste,
Good with kids and animals,
Gets on with my father & uncles,
Can stomach my baking even when it does go wrong haha!
Can cook, because I can't cook for crap
Knows how to make me smile/laugh

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Reply 8

ummm

(For guys)

Really loyal
Funny with similar sense of humour
Attentive and affectionate and loving
Kind of sensitive and open
Confident
Intelligent with similar views as me
Similar music taste to me
Similar taste in films
NOT into sport
Can play an instrument (esp piano or guitar)
Not too clingy
Ambitious
Would be a good father

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Reply 9

IFoundWonderland

Noting that this is my IDEAL partner, not what I actually expect

Personality:
Witty
Intelligent - able to have a thought-provoking conversation
Not a crazy anti-feminist
Not clingy
Not boring
Ambitious
Good hygiene
Not lazy
Good cook
Sensitive, but not overly
Caring
Protective
Reasonably liberal
Gets that I don't really want children.. at least until I feel 'ready'
Money..

Looks:
Blonde
Strong jaw
Tall
Good arms and back
Six-pack
Big hands
Plays rugby

In no particular order..

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Reply 10

hermitthefrog

For guys

Funny
Confident- I'm drawn toward extroverted guys
Tall
Impeccable personal hygiene
Intelligent (Couldn't give a crap about their education though)
Ambitious and hard working
Likes his food
Affectionate (not in public though)
Great in bed

That's about it, there are other things I am attracted to but aren't the be-all and end all

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Reply 11

ChaoticButterfly

We share atleast one hobby/interest.

Can have in depth conversations about stuff

is reasonably attractive

Have similar personalities

doesn't need a load of money to be happy

Reply 12

IFoundWonderland

Original post by Wisefire

Me (I want to think), some of those latter points (about looks)...

I was reading yours and thinking THAT'S ME! (well not the model looks thing..)

But then you said the bit about not wanting to get married and I do..

Reply 13

IFoundWonderland

Original post by Wisefire

Only because of money, time and the hardships of divorce (if this ideal partner decided to unfortunately leave me), and because I don't want the idea of 'devotion' to be the thing that holds me and this ideal partner. Also... I'm slightly too 'liberal'. I'm biased against marriage, because of my leanings, and I totally get that that's a bit stupid :redface:

I've just always had the idea of getting married. I think it's partly for the poofy dress and the party, but I also quite like the idea of being someone's wife.

Pre-nup :tongue:

I don't understand staying together because of this idea of devotion. If I had a bad marriage, I wouldn't stay with the man just because we were married. Of course, you'd be expected to work at the relationship, but I'd expect that from a couple who weren't married too.

Reply 14

LightBlueSoldier

Original post by RHyoudon'kno

You're not picky are you?

Your 'ideal' partner isn't really relevant to who you actually get into relationships with...

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Reply 15

Sheepmaster317

For a woman;

Personality

Kind, loyal, friendly, easy going
Similar music taste, especially if she plays an instrument
Good heart and likes animals, good if she's a vegetarian
Likes staying in but also occasionally going out

Looks

Cute face, slim but not skinny body
Hair colour brunette/black/blonde/red, long straight hair nice.
Quite small/average height (5 foot to 5 foot 7 as I'm 6 foot)

Reply 16

RHyoudon'kno

Original post by LightBlueSoldier

Your 'ideal' partner isn't really relevant to who you actually get into relationships with...

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I didn't say it was relevant.

Reply 17

battycatlady

Someone caring who wants to help other people
Loyal
Trustworthy
Wants kids
Loves animals
Enjoys outdoor stuff
Makes me laugh
Will accept me in all my weirdness :P

And ideally I'd like someone who loved going to the opera/theatre, but this would be a very lucky bonus because I know it isn't most people's cup of tea :P

Reply 18

aspirinpharmacist

Assuming we're talking long-term partner, sometime in the future:

Fun
Not homophobic, racist, misogynistic, etc.
Not clingy
Wants children
Isn't aggressive, manipulative, or addicted to anything stronger than caffeine. :lol:

Willing to put up with me
Doesn't get jealous
Wants to travel

Although if I'm being really idealistic...
Green eyes. Although I nearly always fancy guys with brown eyes. :tongue:

Musician
Likes Shakespeare
Better at cooking than me
Virtually nocturnal like me
Likes cats

The top list is what I reckon I'd actually need to give up being single, and the bottom are just nice extras.

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Reply 19

Smushy

Loving
smart (bonus points for physics/maths/engineering)
calm
self-assured
can stand up for himself
interesting/inspiring/inspired
hard working
accomplished
knows how to enjoy life (travel,food,music,literature...)
respectful
cultured
individualistic

nice hair
attractive face
healthy body
good fashion sense