Just asking...

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Guys - Would you ask someone out of the blue or not, and ladies, how would you react?

What's the general opinion here of just going up to a member of the opposite sex and asking them straight out if they'd like to go for a drink with you? As opposed to getting to know them better first? Always thought it a bit odd myself, but my mate says he seems to have good results. What would you think if it happened to you?

Marcus

Reply 1

generalebriety

16

Flattered, curious, awkward? I still might say yes depending on how they handled it.

Reply 2

Higgy

2

Depends how much you like the person, if they make your heart skip a beat then get to know them first if your're not that fussed just ask them out haha

Reply 3

Poison Ivy

I was thinking about this today at the bus stop!

I'd check out their behaviour first and be all inquisitive like really grill them then if I'm ok about the way they are then I might say yeah!

Reply 4

Chumbaniya

17

Interesting. I don't imagine you'd get a good sucess rate, but as long as your ego doesn't take too much of a hit and you can stay confident, it's quick so you can ask plenty of people, so it might produce some results. It wouldn't be my preferred method, but if you want to try out, why not? It's going to depend pretty heavily on how good looking you are, though, I imagine.

Reply 5

Redefined

13

It depends on the situation and where you are.

Reply 6

Scots_Law

2

Whatever you do, don't do what one of men did on that channel 4 programme, "Seduction School". He went up to some young ladies in a coffee shop and proceeded to tell them that he had his own jungle then casually adding "Do you want to see it?". He didn't seem to have a way with words as when talking to another lady he had just met about her trip to Amsterdam he smiled and said "did you visit the sex museum?" :rolleyes:

Scots_Law

Reply 7

username47781

20

I always think getting to know them better first, has better results, it worked for me

Reply 8

Auditt123

defo get to know them better imo

Reply 9

so_this_is_sam

3

If i liked what i saw i wld probably say yes, because when you go for the actual drink you have the chance to get to know them one on one without distractions

Reply 10

goldfiiisheee

well if you like know the person...flatterd i guess
if that person is a complete stranger it would be akward.
but curious in both cases.
aahh but curiosity killed the cat....
:smile:

Reply 11

tanusha-tomsk

18

You probably won't get that many responses because this has been done so many times, so why don't you add a poll to this thread then everyone could (and would) vote and we could discuss the results :smile:

Personally, I don't think I'd go out with someone I don't know at all unless my friends / brother knew him really well. I probably wouldn't think he was serious anyway, all those whisltles and pick up lines don't seem genuine to me :confused:

(Just in case, to add a poll you need to click "Thread Tools" at the top right corner of the thread and choose poll options. May I suggest that you specify genders, a)male: that's the way I do it b)female: that's how I prefer it c)... Anyway :smile:

)

Reply 12

claire21

it depends how u come across to the girl! i would appriciate it if the guy was cooly confident! good luck x :smile:

Reply 13

tanusha-tomsk

18

claire21

it depends how u come across to the girl! i would appriciate it if the guy was cooly confident! good luck x :smile:

Lol it's the other way round for me, actually. If the guy is very confident I'll think, "How many girls did he pick up this way?" and I wouldn't probably say yes.
If the guy is really embarassed himself then I'll know that it was incredibly hard for him to do that, but he did anyway, so he must really like me, so I'm more likely to say yes :smile:

Friends reference: I wouldn't even turn my head if I heard Joey's "How'you doing", but I'd be very flattered by Chandlers "Errr...Er" :biggrin:

Chandler

Reply 14

marcusfox

OP

16

Chumbaniya

Interesting. I don't imagine you'd get a good sucess rate, but as long as your ego doesn't take too much of a hit and you can stay confident, it's quick so you can ask plenty of people, so it might produce some results. It wouldn't be my preferred method, but if you want to try out, why not? It's going to depend pretty heavily on how good looking you are, though, I imagine.

Yeah, thats what I was thinking, except my mate is a fat ginger squaddie.

Marcus

Reply 15

bunthulhu

14

marcusfox

Yeah, thats what I was thinking, except my mate is a fat ginger squaddie.

Marcus

It probably also depends on how good looking the girl you're going up to is? :p:

Reply 16

LatinMachine

1

^ SO true

Personally I would rather a guy came up and started chatting to me before asking me out. That way you can both see if you like each other first - don't forget, you might not like her! You might go to talk to her and find her attitude offputting or something like that. If a guy just walked up to me and asked me out I'd say no 99.9999999999999% of the time. That's leaving space for a "never say never" clause :biggrin:

But generally, no.

Reply 17

~the_one~

1

I have to say i totally agree with tanusha-tomsk, i would in that situation most definatly turn the guy down, i'd just think you were really arrogant, looking for sex really.
Call me a cynic but it doesnt appeal to me.
I'm all for random people coming up to have conversations and actually finding out about me though, and if i found the guy pleasent and easy to talk to onyl then would i consider meeting up.

Reply 18

halfoflessthan50p

12

If you sort of know the person (like a friend of a friend, or someone you see often but havent spoken to) then its definately worth a shot. I mean you wouldnt ask them straight away, you'd chat for 10-20mins and decide how things are going. Also if youre both drunk that'd help

Friends reference: I wouldn't even turn my head if I heard Joey's "How'you doing", but I'd be very flattered by Chandlers "Errr...Er"

Why isnt there a 'hottest character on Friends poll' on TSR!? I'll go and do that now

Reply 19

blackcurrant

I think men will have a greater success because it shows they're confident and women often find that attractive. If a woman asked, the guy would probably find her desperate; such is the equalities of sex.

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