Me, girl and her bf

Right cut short there is a girl whom i work with and have got very close to over the past month or so....i then found out from her that she fancies me..but she has a boyfriend of a year, who i also work with.

I fancy her back and a few weeks ago she split with her bf...only to get back with him a day later after saying shes confused about what she want, me or him...shes with him currently but says she thinks something may happen between me and her but she cant make her mind up about who she does actually want :frown:

We go out as 'mates' but shes paranoid about it and has sworn me to secrecy even though nothing has happend yet. Her bf has got wind of something and has started to ask questions as well as being an arse towards me. When we are together we flirt like mad and i dont know how anythign hasnt actually happened yet, should i wait for her to sort herself out or move on away from this mess?

Reply 1

BluesMan

13

Seeing as you work with them its obviously awquard. If I were you I would wait it out, let her sort it out. Pressurising the situation is only going to make it worse. Wait a few weeks. If she truely wants you, youll get together. If it takes too long, forget about it, its obviously messed up.

Reply 2

supernova2

11

Well you can either tell her to sort her problems out and leave her to it, that way youll feel like you let her decide properly. Or you can tell her to sort it out and decide and then act really nice etc etc like flowers! That way ull actually get her. Weeeeeeeeeeee

Reply 3

bunthulhu

14

Higgy

Right cut short there is a girl whom i work with and have got very close to over the past month or so....i then found out from her that she fancies me..but she has a boyfriend of a year, who i also work with.

I fancy her back and a few weeks ago she split with her bf...only to get back with him a day later after saying shes confused about what she want, me or him...shes with him currently but says she thinks something may happen between me and her but she cant make her mind up about who she does actually want :frown:

We go out as 'mates' but shes paranoid about it and has sworn me to secrecy even though nothing has happend yet. Her bf has got wind of something and has started to ask questions as well as being an arse towards me. When we are together we flirt like mad and i dont know how anythign hasnt actually happened yet, should i wait for her to sort herself out or move on away from this mess?

Gee what a nice girl, she's messing both of you around. I don't blame her boyfriend for being an arse towards you, either. I've always believed you shouldn't get involved in other people's relationships and you're probably going to get hurt one way or another from this girl so my advice is really to get out of the situation tbh, try not to talk to her as much...

Reply 4

Segat1

16

Sounds like she is hedging her bets mate.

Reply 5

lrbrugby

I would stay at arms length, be nice but dont get any closer. She may be acting this way just so that she knows she is still attractive to men outside of this relationship.

All I'm saying mate, is don't look on this situation with puppy dog eyes as she may just be using you to get at her boyfriend. For example; Unless her boyfriend is blind he is going to see you guys flirting at work and wonder what is up.

If she likes you hang in there, but to be honest mate I think you are being played.

Lee

Reply 6

username47781

20

i'd back right off, this girl could be trouble, she can't make her mind up what she wants, maybe shes just not ready for a relationship full stop.

Me, girl and her bf

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