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Pointless and useless
Why the hell do I feel so pointless and useless?
I don't know why but I do, and miserbale too
I don't know why but I do, and miserbale too
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Reply 1
Because... you... um... I dunno. Why do you feel pointless and useless? I feel like that a lot. I think most people do...
I feel like that a lot. I think most people do...
Try to work out what it is that makes you feel so pointless. If you feel pointless, find a point. Find something to aim for, something to focus on. Try to busy yourself, give you something to do - like maybe volunteer somewhere? Pick up a new hobby, just find something.
You're not pointless and useless. And I hope you feel better soon.
You're not pointless and useless. And I hope you feel better soon.
Reply 3
I feel as though I am just wishing the time away. I start a new job in just over 4 weeks time and feel as thouhg I'm waiting for that time to come, I've got nothing to do in the middle and to make things worse, I'm, not really interacting with people much.
I'm finding it hard to stay at my parents, so am at my own house this summer. Much of the time there has been spent alone. But even when my housemate has been there, a mate I've know for almost a year now and who I'll be working at the same place as soon, I've hardly spoken to him and think I've probably made him feel uncomfortable.
There aren't really many other people I know around at the moment, it being summer and me just finishing at univeristy. My days all feel wasted and pointless and I have nothing to show for them. I just feel so down.
It's easy to say start a new hobby, or volunteer or find a job, but I can't get interested in doing anything. I tried to vlunteer a couple of wekes ago, but I can easily make a mess of phone calls and sound like a complete idiot. Then there are the people who say they'll ge tback to you and never do and it really knocks your confidence to try again.
I just don't know what to do
I'm finding it hard to stay at my parents, so am at my own house this summer. Much of the time there has been spent alone. But even when my housemate has been there, a mate I've know for almost a year now and who I'll be working at the same place as soon, I've hardly spoken to him and think I've probably made him feel uncomfortable.
There aren't really many other people I know around at the moment, it being summer and me just finishing at univeristy. My days all feel wasted and pointless and I have nothing to show for them. I just feel so down.
It's easy to say start a new hobby, or volunteer or find a job, but I can't get interested in doing anything. I tried to vlunteer a couple of wekes ago, but I can easily make a mess of phone calls and sound like a complete idiot. Then there are the people who say they'll ge tback to you and never do and it really knocks your confidence to try again.
I just don't know what to do
Transitions between one form of educaton and another can often leave a huge hole - you've worked so hard for so long, and now you're iin the departure lounge so to speak. You're not anywhere particuarly, you're just letting time go by to get to the next step.
Have you got any money? Could you go and see some family - not neccessarly your immediate family, but maybe peopel you haven't seen in a while? Or you could try catching up with old friends?
Take care,
x
Have you got any money? Could you go and see some family - not neccessarly your immediate family, but maybe peopel you haven't seen in a while? Or you could try catching up with old friends?
Take care,
x
Reply 6
Simulatio
Transitions between one form of educaton and another can often leave a huge hole - you've worked so hard for so long, and now you're iin the departure lounge so to speak. You're not anywhere particuarly, you're just letting time go by to get to the next step.
Have you got any money? Could you go and see some family - not neccessarly your immediate family, but maybe peopel you haven't seen in a while? Or you could try catching up with old friends?
Take care,
x
Have you got any money? Could you go and see some family - not neccessarly your immediate family, but maybe peopel you haven't seen in a while? Or you could try catching up with old friends?
Take care,
x
I'd love to be able to just go somewhere for a while, but I've got driving lessons booked and my old instructor thinks if I get enough lessosn in over the next few weeks I should be able to take my test soon, so that is taking up both money and time in the idea of not giving me wholely free days.
But really this time last week I was over halfway across the country visiting an old friend for a couple of days. Only seen him one other time in the last year. It was a great time, but now I'm back it's just made me realise how empty my days are at the moment. It was the same a couple of weeks ago when I got abck from seeing a couple of other friends. Only now I don't have much planned for the rest of the summer, not really any more people to go see/have come see me.
Reply 7
To the OP: you're not alone. Ive felt the same for, if Im honest, at least 2 and a half years, and then some. Just permanent emptiness at all times. Its worst in the aftermath of something bad such as a parental row, breakup with gf, and so on.
I would say you might actually be going through a phase where you're genuinely depressed. I would talk to someone about the way you're feeling. Give it time over the next weeks till your job and see if you feel better then. I am hoping to see an improvement at Uni. And if not i am promising myself that I'll see a doctor because I cant beat depression by myself.
Sorry if i sound over dramatic because you might just be going through a low phase, but if it continues, whatever you do, don't isolate yourself.
Cal
I would say you might actually be going through a phase where you're genuinely depressed. I would talk to someone about the way you're feeling. Give it time over the next weeks till your job and see if you feel better then. I am hoping to see an improvement at Uni. And if not i am promising myself that I'll see a doctor because I cant beat depression by myself.
Sorry if i sound over dramatic because you might just be going through a low phase, but if it continues, whatever you do, don't isolate yourself.
Cal
Reply 8
There are several times I've felt really down over the last 5 years, some worse than others.
Right now I'm not sure how bad I feel in comparison to other times. Earlier this year as a bad time when I felt really bad and alone. The strange thing was that I probably had more friends around me than at any other time ever. I think that was down to my living arangements and a month or so later I moved out of that house and things sort of picked up. I also managed to chat about how I felt with one of my freinds.
But now I feel bad again. My housemate just got back from a bit of time awya yesterday. While he was away I was wanting him to come back, but now he's back I think I wnat him to be gone again, not sure why. It's as though I've got used to not having many people around, if any, and while I don't want to be in that position, it's easier to stay like that than interact with people. I was supposed to be staying at my parents house for about a day earlier this week, but I left a midday rather than the evening due to an argument which started up. I don't know why I can't manage to even stay at my parents house for a whole day now either
Right now I'm not sure how bad I feel in comparison to other times. Earlier this year as a bad time when I felt really bad and alone. The strange thing was that I probably had more friends around me than at any other time ever. I think that was down to my living arangements and a month or so later I moved out of that house and things sort of picked up. I also managed to chat about how I felt with one of my freinds.
But now I feel bad again. My housemate just got back from a bit of time awya yesterday. While he was away I was wanting him to come back, but now he's back I think I wnat him to be gone again, not sure why. It's as though I've got used to not having many people around, if any, and while I don't want to be in that position, it's easier to stay like that than interact with people. I was supposed to be staying at my parents house for about a day earlier this week, but I left a midday rather than the evening due to an argument which started up. I don't know why I can't manage to even stay at my parents house for a whole day now either
Reply 9
Chin up dude, it's really not that bad! No matter how bad you think it is, you should write a list of all the positives in your life right now!
I think you need a few nights out, just having fun... not necessarily drinking, just having a cool time with friends and meeting new people!
I think you need a few nights out, just having fun... not necessarily drinking, just having a cool time with friends and meeting new people!
Reply 10
I am generally fine until the second I get time to think about it all. When I am kept occupied I am happy, when not so, all the depressive stuff surfaces again. Hence why the ideas of depression and loneliness are so often intertwined.
Make sure you eat well too; when I was at my lowest ebb I lost a hell of a lot of weight and it made me really ill.
I cant really give you any advice because due to first hand experience "if you aint been there you generally havent got a clue". What I do know is that actions in this case will speak a hell of a lot louder than words, so all I can say is to go out there and do yourself proud: it;s where I have gone wrong so many times in the past; I consider myself a liability.
Now for a brief interlude because Im pretty much stealing the thread to have my own little rant...
*calms down* Yes, so what I will say is just try and keep active and get back into stuff you were once interested in, because if you stay alone it only gets worse.
Cal
Make sure you eat well too; when I was at my lowest ebb I lost a hell of a lot of weight and it made me really ill.
I cant really give you any advice because due to first hand experience "if you aint been there you generally havent got a clue". What I do know is that actions in this case will speak a hell of a lot louder than words, so all I can say is to go out there and do yourself proud: it;s where I have gone wrong so many times in the past; I consider myself a liability.
Now for a brief interlude because Im pretty much stealing the thread to have my own little rant...
*calms down* Yes, so what I will say is just try and keep active and get back into stuff you were once interested in, because if you stay alone it only gets worse.
Cal
Reply 11
and yes the post above mine - nights out do the trick for me ;-)
Reply 12
Honestly mate, within a few days you'll be feeling good again.
Happens to us all, maybe we're bored with something-or-other, or maybe we realise Summer's not what we dreamed it would be whilst studying for exams!
On Monday, I was feeling SO ****, especially about this girl.
But find something to do. I began jogging and going gym, reading and doing more work around the house or just spend more time with the family.
If there's something on your mind, talk to somebody. I'm sure a lot of people on here, including me, would lend an ear (ok...that saying doesn't work online!), to you.
Good luck!
Happens to us all, maybe we're bored with something-or-other, or maybe we realise Summer's not what we dreamed it would be whilst studying for exams!
On Monday, I was feeling SO ****, especially about this girl.
But find something to do. I began jogging and going gym, reading and doing more work around the house or just spend more time with the family.
If there's something on your mind, talk to somebody. I'm sure a lot of people on here, including me, would lend an ear (ok...that saying doesn't work online!), to you.
Good luck!
Reply 13
OP: apart from living with someone else, I fully understand and share your situation, even though I'm at school - it is just a long waiting game at times. But then at other times it's bearable, and I enjoy those times. 
I dunno. I'm not offering any advice here. Just a friendly reminder you're not alone.
I dunno. I'm not offering any advice here. Just a friendly reminder you're not alone.Reply 14
Roger Kirk
Why the hell do I feel so pointless and useless?
I don't know why but I do, and miserbale too
I don't know why but I do, and miserbale too
Sadness is selfishness; I woke up around noon today, and felt wonderful
But, really, if you feel that the way you feel interferes with the way you want life to be -- do something about it (not neceserilly by yourself). Knowing why you feel pointless doesn't have to make you feel better, but after all feelings pass away.
Reply 15
Pointless and useless? You're about to start educating the next generation of mathematicians. That's a whole lot more pointful than I'll ever be.
Reply 16
well to feel pointLESS you need to have missed the point. right?
so is there something that you tried or wanted to achieve but didnt? maybe if you focus on that youd have a goal to work towards. something that would distract you.
being misrable...why? many people feel miserable but dont know why. make a list of whats (details, little things..) positive in your life and whats not. and youll notice that there probably wont be as much on the miserable/failed side. little things like wearing your fav outfit, there being your fav food in the house, the street light being green the moment you get there etc. little things that you dont notice. youd only notice them if they would be gone. youll see to appricate it and realize that life probably isnt so bad after all.
get it?
it worked for me
cheers
so is there something that you tried or wanted to achieve but didnt? maybe if you focus on that youd have a goal to work towards. something that would distract you.
being misrable...why? many people feel miserable but dont know why. make a list of whats (details, little things..) positive in your life and whats not. and youll notice that there probably wont be as much on the miserable/failed side. little things like wearing your fav outfit, there being your fav food in the house, the street light being green the moment you get there etc. little things that you dont notice. youd only notice them if they would be gone. youll see to appricate it and realize that life probably isnt so bad after all.
get it?
it worked for me
cheers
Reply 17
dazmanultra
Chin up dude, it's really not that bad! No matter how bad you think it is, you should write a list of all the positives in your life right now!
I think you need a few nights out, just having fun... not necessarily drinking, just having a cool time with friends and meeting new people!
I think you need a few nights out, just having fun... not necessarily drinking, just having a cool time with friends and meeting new people!
Positives? What are they? But seriously, anything which I could think of which might be a positive has some bad things associated with it, or which make we worry too much.
And I'd love a night out, only been 'out' twice in the last 5 weeks really...in fact there have probably only been 9/10 days in that time when I've interacted with people for more than a brief conversation or for something that wasn't business/work related. The trouble is a lack of people around here and me being a complete dick in not wanting to bother people to much and too often to see if they want to do anything. I feel that people generally tolerate me rather than actualyl like me, so I don't want to contact them too much in case I annoy people. I doubt this is the real case (so many people say how 'nice' I am...I hate that by the way, why the hell have so many people used that word to describe me...the latest was last weekend when I met my mates Nana for the first time ever, she describe me as a 'nice young man' to my mates parents
Reply 18
Roger Kirk
Positives? What are they? But seriously, anything which I could think of which might be a positive has some bad things associated with it, or which make we worry too much.
cannot help but to say that the above remark in bold is like taken directly out of one of Sartre's works on existentialism philosyphy. Whether you do, it will always have both relatively positive and negative things associated with it; it's natural. Hmn, many people would love to have your concerns!
Reply 19
What a load of rubbsih I was talking about last night. Sorry to bother you guys with my problems, I know it;s not interesting to anyone.
Can't really beleieve this morning that I must have sounded so miserable to my housemate. He asked me what I was up to today and I barely mumbles back a response to him. He must have thought I was horrible and he quickly made an exit out of the house. I don't know what is wrong with me.
Can't really beleieve this morning that I must have sounded so miserable to my housemate. He asked me what I was up to today and I barely mumbles back a response to him. He must have thought I was horrible and he quickly made an exit out of the house. I don't know what is wrong with me.
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