My parents won't let me live on campus

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Martha123456
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Hi Everyone,

I'm 19 years old and I'm going to university this year. I live with my parents in London and the university is also in London. I wanted to live on campus to get the whole uni experience but my parents won't let me. Reason being is because they think I'll get involved in boys and have sex which is stupid because I just want to make friends. My dad doesn't understands and only wants me to move out when I'm married. He doesn't understand that the first year of uni is the best one when it comes to socialising. I don't want to live at home because I know I'll be miserable because the only places I'm allowed to go to right now is college and the library. I haven't been to a party since 2012 because I have to be home by 10 and I plan on going to clubs. I really don't like being here also because I don't have a lot of freedom or breathing space. How can I get through this? Helppp
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(Original post by Martha123456)
Hi Everyone,

I'm 19 years old and I'm going to university this year. I live with my parents in London and the university is also in London. I wanted to live on campus to get the whole uni experience but my parents won't let me. Reason being is because they think I'll get involved in boys and have sex which is stupid because I just want to make friends. My dad doesn't understands and only wants me to move out when I'm married. He doesn't understand that the first year of uni is the best one when it comes to socialising. I don't want to live at home because I know I'll be miserable because the only places I'm allowed to go to right now is college and the library. I haven't been to a party since 2012 because I have to be home by 10 and I plan on going to clubs. I really don't like being here also because I don't have a lot of freedom or breathing space. How can I get through this? Helppp
What the hell do your parents have to do with your choice? You are an adult. If you want to live on campus, then move on campus!

Unless they are paying for your course / supporting you financially?
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You're 19, you're an adult, you're living your own life, with or without your parents consent you must do what makes you happy. If they can't take that, I would say it's their problem.
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Muslim obviously.
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Asian?
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Explain to them how you feel. They're being very unreasonable.
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Try to explain to them that you'll miss on on making friends. But ultimately, they may not understand and you should just move out, you can't let them control you all your life.
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Break out of that Asian parent trap. I feel sorry for you my parents are awesome and liberal we go drinking together I can go out with anyone I want date etc this is not the dark ages INTEGRATE
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Would they be more likely to let you move out if you lived in same sex accommodation?
Are you dependent on their financial support?
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Break out of that Asian parent trap. I feel sorry for you my parents are awesome and liberal we go drinking together I can go out with anyone I want date etc this is not the dark ages INTEGRATE

How funny if she's doing a Maths course.


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Sorry, I had to :closedeyes:.. Too much Maths does your head in
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How funny if she's doing a Maths course.


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Sorry, I had to :closedeyes:.. Too much Maths does your head in
I was just about to say that as well.

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Seems a bit disproportionate.
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Lol would rep but can't! Class !
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You could rebel, or alternatively slowly break free (and save a bit of money) during the university experience. I think moving on from over protective parents is a process rather than an event.
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Just move out, there is literally nothing they can do to stop you if you're 18.
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(Original post by Martha123456)
Hi Everyone,

I'm 19 years old and I'm going to university this year. I live with my parents in London and the university is also in London. I wanted to live on campus to get the whole uni experience but my parents won't let me. Reason being is because they think I'll get involved in boys and have sex which is stupid because I just want to make friends. My dad doesn't understands and only wants me to move out when I'm married. He doesn't understand that the first year of uni is the best one when it comes to socialising. I don't want to live at home because I know I'll be miserable because the only places I'm allowed to go to right now is college and the library. I haven't been to a party since 2012 because I have to be home by 10 and I plan on going to clubs. I really don't like being here also because I don't have a lot of freedom or breathing space. How can I get through this? Helppp
Will not living on Campus stop you from doing anything:confused: you can still go to parties and events and stuff and have sleepovers I'm sure.
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Maybe go to a different university that isn't in London , they can't expect you to commute. This way your parents will still support you financially.

I agree with everyone else they can't stop you etc.. but I understand it is hard , so I just thought to give you another alternative (admittedly no the best one )
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(Original post by Martha123456)
Hi Everyone,

I'm 19 years old and I'm going to university this year. I live with my parents in London and the university is also in London. I wanted to live on campus to get the whole uni experience but my parents won't let me. Reason being is because they think I'll get involved in boys and have sex which is stupid because I just want to make friends. My dad doesn't understands and only wants me to move out when I'm married. He doesn't understand that the first year of uni is the best one when it comes to socialising. I don't want to live at home because I know I'll be miserable because the only places I'm allowed to go to right now is college and the library. I haven't been to a party since 2012 because I have to be home by 10 and I plan on going to clubs. I really don't like being here also because I don't have a lot of freedom or breathing space. How can I get through this? Helppp
It's your choice, you're an adult your parents shouldn't still be deciding things for you. Sure there's a bit of action going around but Uni's not Magaluf
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(Original post by toonervoustotalk)
I was just about to say that as well.

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Irresistible.
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You're 19. Do what you want; live your life. Tell your parents this, tell them you are going to live on campus. They might not like at first and it might be difficult for you to do this but you can't be held back like that.

In the long run you will be glad you done it and a time will come when they will accept it.
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