well, to clarify - I am 'over' him in the sense that it was me who instigated the break up in the first place, and I have been 'over' him ever since I had my current bf, however you are right I don't want to cut off all ties with him as he's my 'going out friend', he's into the same stuff as me and we always have a good laugh together, so it would feel terrible not to have that any more
I've ignored his text today and I think thats how I will deal with it for a while, give him the silent treatment until he comes asking whats wrong and then I'll say I'm not bothering with him because he's a pervert and an idiot. I think, knowing him, that underneath the stubbornness and arrogance he will know when he's done something thats bothered me and he will behave. Heres hoping