never been kissed

I'm 16, going on 17 and have yet to have my first kiss. Is there anyone else here like me?

coz it seems none of my friends are and i've been made to feel really bad about it... i just havent had the opportunity yet plus i havent got any guy mates who aren't gay... making things difficult lol.

I'm not confident enough to approach people myself and whenver i get approached it's always by guys who i am not attracted to AT ALL.

so the question is, is it worth waiting or sholud i just get it over and done with by playing some stupid game like spin the bottle? I've just been made to feel really ****ty about it by other people, as if i wasn't feeling bad enough myself :frown:

Reply 1

Ethereal

19

You should wait. I'm 24 and haven't kissed anyone yet, because I haven't been in a situation where I have actually wnated to kiss someone. I can't really see the point in kissing someone I don't want to just to say I've kissed someone.

Reply 2

Cano234

It ordipends how you feel about a kiss. Some people want there first kiss to be special etc and if you are someone like that then why not wait, there is no rush what so ever. Some people think that a kiss is nothing at all, so if you just want to experience it then sure why not play a game etc. But really dont worry about other people, if you dont think its a big deal its not :smile:

Reply 3

lala_land

Ethereal

You should wait. I'm 24 and haven't kissed anyone yet, because I haven't been in a situation where I have actually wnated to kiss someone. I can't really see the point in kissing someone I don't want to just to say I've kissed someone.

But don't you ever feel left out when all your mates are talking about boyfriends/sexual stuff and you can't really contribute?

Reply 4

Apricot Fairy

16

I would wait. When I was the same age as you I'd never kissed anyone and I'd been having the same sort of thoughts, like, "Should I just randomly kiss someone to get it over with?" but then it finally happened, just before my 17th birthday and I ended up going out with the guy for a long time. So in my opinion it was worth waiting and being able to say that my first kiss was so special.

Reply 5

Ethereal

19

lala_land

But don't you ever feel left out when all your mates are talking about boyfriends/sexual stuff and you can't really contribute?

Sometimes yes, but then half of my mates wish they hadn't had the experiences they have had. Anyway, I don't really judge myself by others, I judge myself by my standards.

When they're talking about it I feel left out in so far as I sit quietly cos I have nothing to say, but I don't feel left out with regards to not having kissed someone because as I said, I've never been in a situation where I've wanted to.

Reply 6

Sheen

11

you should wait so it could maybe be with someone you really like.
i didnt get my first kiss until i was 17 and it happened when quite a few of us thought we'd get drunk in the park near college instead of go to lessons and my girlie mate just started kissing me.
twas strange yet cool. im not bothered that it was with a girl but yeah i didnt expect it to be.
i thought id never get my first kiss :rolleyes:

im so late with everything

Reply 7

Anonymous #2

I'm 17 and a bit, and I've never been kissed. Doesn't particularly bother me, as I don't feel ready - I've led a very sheltered life and never had much to do with boys! I have sort of hyped the first kiss thing up into something huge tho lol, meaning I consider it as a...I dunno, a sort of loss of something, but at the same time something really special? It depends how you consider your first kiss really. As you've waited up until now, I think it'd be better to wait until it happens in a special situation, with someone you want it to be with - you'll have plenty of time for meaningless kisses but when it's your first one it's a bit more precious!

Reply 8

Chumbaniya

17

lala_land

But don't you ever feel left out when all your mates are talking about boyfriends/sexual stuff and you can't really contribute?

Are you suggesting he should have a sexual relationship just so he can be included in conversations?

Reply 9

lala_land

Chumbaniya

Are you suggesting he should have a sexual relationship just so he can be included in conversations?

no i'm not saying that at all, i was just seeing if he felt the same way I did when my mates have those discussions (i was the anon btw)

well i'm feeling a lot better now that I know people have them around 17 too, i just wished i KNEW someone that did so i didn't feel so alone in that area.. i know everyone says it'll happen in your own time blah blah blah.. just wish it felt that way.

Reply 10

lala_land

Anonymous

I'm 17 and a bit, and I've never been kissed. Doesn't particularly bother me, as I don't feel ready - I've led a very sheltered life and never had much to do with boys! I have sort of hyped the first kiss thing up into something huge tho lol, meaning I consider it as a...I dunno, a sort of loss of something, but at the same time something really special? It depends how you consider your first kiss really. As you've waited up until now, I think it'd be better to wait until it happens in a special situation, with someone you want it to be with - you'll have plenty of time for meaningless kisses but when it's your first one it's a bit more precious!

i definatly consider it to be special... but not so special i'd be willing to wait as long as it takes... damn me being to impatient and easily given in to peer pressure! :p:

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

lala_land

i definatly consider it to be special... but not so special i'd be willing to wait as long as it takes... damn me being to impatient and easily given in to peer pressure! :p:

Aw bless ya! But it will be soooo much better if you wait and have an amazing kiss with somebody special, even if it takes a while, when all your friends had a rubbish snog when they were 13 playing spin the bottle! :p:

Reply 12

blondemoment

think of it this way, if you did it all the time it would never feel special, wait, no rush, y risk making something so nice mudane, lol.

Reply 13

lala_land

blondemoment

think of it this way, if you did it all the time it would never feel special, wait, no rush, y risk making something so nice mudane, lol.

thats true, the thing is it wouldn't bother me if i didn't do it that often i just want to have some sort of experience, but it doesnt seem like it will, i mean i've got no close guy mates and i hardly meet new people and when i do it never turns into something or they just end up fancying my mate instead :rolleyes:

Reply 14

blondemoment

myeh, i'd wait. Some lovely guy will woo you and you'll love it more [maybe] that you can make it even more special as you are giving him the chance to be your 1st experience. [*wishes this was true for dear old blondemoment* LOL]
myeh don't look for ppl the best ones find you! TBH

Reply 15

lala_land

blondemoment

myeh, i'd wait. Some lovely guy will woo you and you'll love it more [maybe] that you can make it even more special as you are giving him the chance to be your 1st experience. [*wishes this was true for dear old blondemoment* LOL]
myeh don't look for ppl the best ones find you! TBH

Thanks for your help, i know the best thing to do is stop dwelling on it, but thats definatly harder than it seems! lol

One thing i know i'm not gonna do is become desperate for it, i know a girl who was and ended up making out with a 12 yr old! eww lol