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    I'm going to a university in my city and I live about half an hour or so away from the uni by bus. It makes the most sense for me to live at home as I wouldn't be prioritised for accommodation, halls are only about a mile away from my house and it is too expensive considering I'd be in the same city. However, I'm really nervous that because I'm not going into halls I might not make friends. Does anyone have any advice about I should do to socialise a bit more and stuff when I start? Or has anybody done the uni thing while staying at home and have found it okay? HELP ME I'M PANICKING!
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    I thought the exact same 2 years ago. Student accommodation made no sense especially due to the cost of living in LONDON! Anyway my advice is that if you are already an outgoing, fun and likeable person (who doesn't have super strict parents) you'll be fine because people will always text and invite you to events. I get invited to nearly everything (note: FB is also pretty important) Do what I did, because as long as you make an impact during the hours when you are at Uni, going home in the evenings won't make a dent in your reputation/ social life, good luck!
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    I lived at home for uni and found it quite hard to make friends.

    I lived about a 30 minute bus journey away from uni but most of my friends in student accommodation lived an hour away bus journey away from me. Also I'm not a very outgoing person anyway.

    Taking into account that it sounds as if you are living close to them anyway and if you are fairly outgoing then you should do fine
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    Go to the freshers fair and join up to societies and go to them events- you will make friends that way. At the end of the day during the first few days at uni everyone is in the same position as they don't have friends there. More then likely the people on your course flat mates will be studying different subjects so they wont have anyone to 'hang around' with during lectures and that is where you step in! Also if you are applying to a campus university ask if you can join one of the colleges!
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    i always say this in these types of posts, but i dont mind typing it again if it helps you. all you need to do is make the effort, talk to people, initiate conversation. outside lecture halls people will be in the same position as you, they wont know anyone, apart from the ones in halls who'll stand in big groups, the good thing about being alone is you can talk to whoever you want and as many people as you want, so just smile at people or say "hey are you in this class?" might be an obvious question but it breaks the ice. also a random tip is to sit 3 seats in from the end of a row, means that someone will be more likely to sit at the end and you can chat to them (if you sit at the very end then no one will sit next to you, you see?). not living at uni means you arent stuck with the same group, i dont know how the people who live together can be in all the same classes and sign up to all the same seminars, id be like go away i want some alone time! plus these people will have the same friends for all their years at uni.. whereas by travelling you can talk to a new person everyday if you want to.. theres nothing stopping you. plus someone being by themselves are more approachable than a big group of people. no ones gonna go up to 5 or 6 people and be like hey! but one thing is that it is down to you, if you dont make any effort then yes you wont make any friends at all. you have to grow some balls and be confident and just put yourself out there. yeah some people might not wanna talk to you, so what, move on to the next person. set yourself a goal of talking to a new person at least everyday.

    also depending on how your course is run, i assume youll mainly be working in groups in your classes, so youll be forced to talk to people, so thats a good thing.

    also yeah join societies, my friend joined a couple and has like 5 new facebook friends everyday and gets invited out to the pub and nights out when she lives miles away. so if you go to something every week youre bound to make some friends.

    good luck
 
 
 
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