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    Ok so I am 5'8 and so can be considered "short". A more suitable definition of "short" is simply you being shorter than your girl of interest. However tall the girl is, add four inches to this height to cater for her high heels; and treat this as her actual height.

    I have prepared some general pointers that should aid you. For some girls; height really is a deal-breaker. This could be insecurity on their part because they don't want to be tall, or it could be that short people really are scum. Choose whichever believe suits you the most.

    A few pointers I've prepared:-

    Eye Contact - you must make eye contact when speaking to her. Yes, you will be looking up and it may feel weird for about a second, but remain focused. You must hold eye contact for the longest, she must break it first. That is her submission and it will negate some of dominance she may feel over you thanks to her height.

    Disqualifying - many taller girls will make a comment about your height. If she appears to bring up as a point of interest - just ignore it and talk about something else or pursue a previous topic of conversation. If she phrases it as though she is rejecting you, or is conveying her disdain and lack of attraction for shorter men, you need to do something similar.

    Last time a couple of girls tried this on me I started talking about how I prefer girls with red hair as opposed to blonde and brunettes. The girls in question both sported the latter two hair colours. The key is to disqualify them based on something superficial. It's not a big deal, it just puts the ball back in their court and there's precious little they can do or say without either looking butt-hurt or trying to seek your approval. NOTE: Do NOT respond to this by stating that you prefer shorter girls.

    Height Threads - granted, this is also a height thread; but I think you know the height threads I'm talking about. Most of the women who post in these threads are naturally going to be women who actually care about height. Basically: taller women. My advice would be to exercise some self-control and do not read such threads. You already know what most of the replies are going to be and you have no use for reading such things. Also know that IRL I have never known women to talk about height as much as they do on the internet; and I've never seen a woman IRL walking around with a tape measure.

    Comment on Girls Wearing Heels - if you're talking to her in a bar/nightclub/party then the chances are she's wearing high heels. Make a comment about how girls always look awesome in heels. If there is any cognitive dissonance in her mind between the fact that she likes you and the fact that she wishes you were taller (or wishes she was smaller, which is the same, trust me) then this comment you've made may contribute to easing it somewhat.

    The Preference for Taller Men - there are many theories as to why taller men are more attractive. However 'the' why doesn't really matter. If you think that taller men convey more natural dominance then this may give you a pre-disposition to always trying to prove your dominance in other ways. Since it stems from an insecurity; it won't work and it will make you a target for mockery. This is where the "little man syndrome" insult stems from. On the surface it may seem like yet more prejudice in regards to your height - but it's more than that.

    Being Jealous of Taller Men - basically this is merely you wishing you were taller. Again, don't try and compare yourself to taller men by telling yourself that you have "more money/a better job/lower body fat % etc" because you are basically feeding into your own insecurity. You can't resent certain people just because they were born taller than you. And if you sit around spending your time wishing you were taller this is obviously damaging. Just like some women wish they had bigger boobs, bigger arse, longer legs or a prettier face - they are just wasting time and mental energy on such things.

    Smaller Girls Who Prefer Taller Men - I've noticed some women in these height threads who are smaller then 5'5; but still claim to prefer men over 6'0 etc. This one is weird to me and I don't really have much advice for this. If you come across a girl like this IRL just use the tactic I told you to use on the taller girl. Imo, girls will only comment on your height if there are really probing you hard for insecurities. Just take it as an opportunity to convey your own confidence and comfort in your own skin.

    Note: In regards to girls smaller than you; do not bestow upon them any preferential treatment just because you think they are more attainable, and that your only chance is dating a smaller girl. Feel free to tease her for being short and she may do the same back to you. However, the vibe would entirely be different and you could make a joke about the two of you living in a hobbit hole or something. Just have fun with it.

    Statistics - do not look for solace in meaningless statistics. The fact that less than 25% of men are over 6'0 should not inspire a sigh of relief from you. **** it. Also ignore misinformation claiming that 10% of men are having 90% of the sex. It's not true. It doesn't make sense. It's impossible to quantify and it's most likely a carrot the PUA waves in front of the noses of gullible men to coax them into subscribing and purchasing their content. Really think about it: does it sound like anything other than a sales pitch?

    Height Enhancing Footwear/Looking for Curbs to Stand on/Stilts/Growth Hormone - forget it. Always be aware that your insecurities will fuel some extremely bizarre thoughts. Lol.

    I hope this helps you.
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    I'm 5'8 too, and I've dated lassies from 5' to 6', height has never been a problem.

    I only ever see people complain about height on TSR tbh.
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    I am 5' 6" and sometimes I feel extremely sad because many girls are taller than me :-( And many times I am ridiculed for it. Sometimes I want to beat the **** out of people but I think I will get beaten because they are taller. When I speak to someone taller than me I always feel they are the 'better-more-authorative' person because they I see them higher than me(literally I mean)
    Everytime I fail with a girl I assume it is because of my height. It is really ruining me. I started using shoe insole that increase your height by 5cm or nearly 2 inches but even then I am short. What else could you tell me?
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    (Original post by Gjaykay)
    I'm 5'8 too, and I've dated lassies from 5' to 6', height has never been a problem.

    I only ever see people complain about height on TSR tbh.
    Same here.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am 5' 6" and sometimes I feel extremely sad because many girls are taller than me :-( And many times I am ridiculed for it. Sometimes I want to beat the **** out of people but I think I will get beaten because they are taller. When I speak to someone taller than me I always feel they are the 'better-more-authorative' person because they I see them higher than me(literally I mean)
    Everytime I fail with a girl I assume it is because of my height. It is really ruining me. I started using shoe insole that increase your height by 5cm or nearly 2 inches but even then I am short. What else could you tell me?
    I've never experienced any of this, to be honest.
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    I'm 5 foot and I have had a boyfriend before so us shorter people still have hope
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    Also, this advice is pretty wrong coming from a girl's perspective coming from my own and my female friend's experiences. There are girls who will not date shorter guys but really? Would a guy really want a girl who is so shallow to reject a male over a couple of inches in height? Shorter guys might have an actual advantage because it cuts out more of the vain and judgemental girls out of the bunch so you are more likely to find "the one" . Most short guys seem to be insecure but girls want CONFIDENCE. If a guy appears to be confident, a girl is more likely to go for them because it appears the guy knows what they want and it can appear sexy to some girls. Embrace your shortness and see it as a positive rather than a negative and try to learn more about yourself and love yourself for your differences. If a girl knows that you are uncomfortable with your height, she will see it as a negative but if you don't make a big deal with it and perhaps even laugh about it, the girls will not see a big deal of it either. Treat her right and like she is special; it will mean the world to her. Hopes this helps
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    (Original post by luckylaurax)
    Also, this advice is pretty wrong coming from a girl's perspective coming from my own and my female friend's experiences. There are girls who will not date shorter guys but really? Would a guy really want a girl who is so shallow to reject a male over a couple of inches in height? Shorter guys might have an actual advantage because it cuts out more of the vain and judgemental girls out of the bunch so you are more likely to find "the one" . Most short guys seem to be insecure but girls want CONFIDENCE. If a guy appears to be confident, a girl is more likely to go for them because it appears the guy knows what they want and it can appear sexy to some girls. Embrace your shortness and see it as a positive rather than a negative and try to learn more about yourself and love yourself for your differences. If a girl knows that you are uncomfortable with your height, she will see it as a negative but if you don't make a big deal with it and perhaps even laugh about it, the girls will not see a big deal of it either. Treat her right and like she is special; it will mean the world to her. Hopes this helps
    Nope. My advice is sound and far superior.
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    You can't do anything about it, so just focus on the things you can do something about.
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    Am I the only one who doesn't think 5ft 8 is short?! Although I'm 5ft 3 so..


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    (Original post by Staceyc1990)
    Am I the only one who doesn't think 5ft 8 is short?! Although I'm 5ft 3 so..


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    Yeah maybe not to you.
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    (Original post by James Gee)
    Yeah maybe not to you.
    Yeah I guess I'm a bit of a shortie :lol:


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    I hope nobody reads these kind of things and takes them seriously...
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    I don't think 5ft 8 is short... I'm 5ft 1 and my boyfriend is 5ft 6 and is the smallest lad I know our age. I really don't think that just because you might be shorter then some lads, or the girls you like that you need dating advice. If they like you height really doesn't matter. Get dating advice to impress them, girls would much rather go out with a "short" lad who knows how to impress her rather than an ******** who is tall.
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    Snap on the height! I'm also 5'8, but I'm a female so I guess that's pretty tall for a girl xD
    I'd have no qualms dating a guy maybe 1 inch shorter than me.. But after that, I don't think so It's more because I'm insecure about my height than anything else, but yeah :/
    But 5'8 is a good height- I wouldn't call that short.
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    (Original post by Aivicore)
    I hope nobody reads these kind of things and takes them seriously...
    I can assure you that it is sound advice.
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    I'm 5'6 but I weight the same or more than many guys I know at 5'9-6'2. Height really isn't an issue unless you make it.
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    (Original post by James Gee)
    Nope. My advice is sound and far superior.
    As a 5"8 guy, I second that your advice is superior. Concrete facts that will actually help. What the other girl said basically boils down to: "some girls are shallow so don't go for them and also you ned confidence to get girls." Of course that is the catch-22 as you often need confidence to become more confident.

    There are some reinforcing cycles at work here: a confident guy will get more girls and better job prospects leading to a greater sense of self-esteem and more confidence. As such it doesn't help to say "become more confident".
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    (Original post by Blutooth)
    As a 5"8 guy, I second that your advice is superior. Concrete facts that will actually help. What the other girl said basically boils down to: "some girls are shallow so don't go for them and also you ned confidence to get girls." Of course that is the catch-22 as you often need confidence to become more confident.

    There are some reinforcing cycles at work here: a confident guy will get more girls and better job prospects leading to a greater sense of self-esteem and more confidence. As such it doesn't help to say "become more confident".
    There's loads of ways to build confidence even if you start from the bottom . Join hobbies, learn new skills etc. as this helps build up a person's self esteem and social skills which will make it a lot easier to talk to girls. A bonus of joining hobbies means that you will be able to talk to a female who has similar interests as you and it will help her look beyond your height. Most of the advice given by OP won't work if a girl firmly believes she will not date short guys, it's all about preferences at the end of the day. Some girls will like tall guys, some girls will like short guys, it's a mix really . Obsessing over your height will actually drive girls away for a variety of reasons.
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    (Original post by luckylaurax)
    There's loads of ways to build confidence even if you start from the bottom . Join hobbies, learn new skills etc. as this helps build up a person's self esteem and social skills which will make it a lot easier to talk to girls. A bonus of joining hobbies means that you will be able to talk to a female who has similar interests as you and it will help her look beyond your height. Most of the advice given by OP won't work if a girl firmly believes she will not date short guys, it's all about preferences at the end of the day. Some girls will like tall guys, some girls will like short guys, it's a mix really . Obsessing over your height will actually drive girls away for a variety of reasons.
    Excluding yourself based on height will be far more detrimental to your confidence than not having hobbies or skills, in all honesty. In fact I think just doing those things "for the confidence" will actually work against gaining such confidence.
 
 
 
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