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Sick of my mum's racist attitudes
My mum has a very negative attitude towards foreigners (it could probably considered as racist). She hates me mixing with people of different races and gets angry when she goes into town and she sees a lot of different people/immigrants of different races, usually speaking a foreign language near her.
We had a big argument today because I put some fake tan on. It sounds ridiculous but she was really angry because shes now got it into her head that I want to look black/asian etc (I'm very pale), when in reality I only wanted a bit of colour for the summer!
I'm getting sick of her attitude. I have an Italian boyfriend and she hates it. Shes always making snide remarks around him and says I'll be "chained to the sink" if I marry him as thats what his culture is like. Earlier today, she also told me to stay away from black people and foreigners at uni. Its getting on my nerves as I'm a very open-minded person and I hate racism. I want to talk to her, but I dont know what to say and I dont want to make her even angrier with me following the argument today.
We had a big argument today because I put some fake tan on. It sounds ridiculous but she was really angry because shes now got it into her head that I want to look black/asian etc (I'm very pale), when in reality I only wanted a bit of colour for the summer!
I'm getting sick of her attitude. I have an Italian boyfriend and she hates it. Shes always making snide remarks around him and says I'll be "chained to the sink" if I marry him as thats what his culture is like. Earlier today, she also told me to stay away from black people and foreigners at uni. Its getting on my nerves as I'm a very open-minded person and I hate racism. I want to talk to her, but I dont know what to say and I dont want to make her even angrier with me following the argument today.
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My mum has a very negative attitude towards foreigners (it could probably considered as racist). She hates me mixing with people of different races and gets angry when she goes into town and she sees a lot of different people/immigrants of different races, usually speaking a foreign language near her.
We had a big argument today because I put some fake tan on. It sounds ridiculous but she was really angry because shes now got it into her head that I want to look black/asian etc (I'm very pale), when in reality I only wanted a bit of colour for the summer!
I'm getting sick of her attitude. I have an Italian boyfriend and she hates it. Shes always making snide remarks around him and says I'll be "chained to the sink" if I marry him as thats what his culture is like. Earlier today, she also told me to stay away from black people and foreigners at uni. Its getting on my nerves as I'm a very open-minded person and I hate racism. I want to talk to her, but I dont know what to say and I dont want to make her even angrier with me following the argument today.
We had a big argument today because I put some fake tan on. It sounds ridiculous but she was really angry because shes now got it into her head that I want to look black/asian etc (I'm very pale), when in reality I only wanted a bit of colour for the summer!
I'm getting sick of her attitude. I have an Italian boyfriend and she hates it. Shes always making snide remarks around him and says I'll be "chained to the sink" if I marry him as thats what his culture is like. Earlier today, she also told me to stay away from black people and foreigners at uni. Its getting on my nerves as I'm a very open-minded person and I hate racism. I want to talk to her, but I dont know what to say and I dont want to make her even angrier with me following the argument today.
Well...it's xenophobia..a fear of foreigners...
But anyway... why do you care what your mum thinks? So long as you aren't influenced by her attitude then she can think what she likes...
i cant understand what your going through kinda.
im really open minded as well.
my mums abit strange. she seems to not like white people
i say just leave her to it and get on with your life.
how cares what she has to say. as long as your happy with your friends/boyfriend/life. it doesnt matter what shes got to say does it.
ive got a white boyfriend and my mum knows. it took time but i think shes gotten over it cos she knows she cant tell me what to do when it comes to him.
my mum is also funny about gay people which sucks but theres not much i can do about her narrow-mindedness.
id just totally ignore her when she says stupid things cos it seems to me you might be wasting your breath arguing with her/talking to her about it.
sometimes theres no getting through to people
im really open minded as well.
my mums abit strange. she seems to not like white people
i say just leave her to it and get on with your life.
how cares what she has to say. as long as your happy with your friends/boyfriend/life. it doesnt matter what shes got to say does it.
ive got a white boyfriend and my mum knows. it took time but i think shes gotten over it cos she knows she cant tell me what to do when it comes to him.
my mum is also funny about gay people which sucks but theres not much i can do about her narrow-mindedness.
id just totally ignore her when she says stupid things cos it seems to me you might be wasting your breath arguing with her/talking to her about it.
sometimes theres no getting through to people
lucho22, I dont "care" about what she thinks as such, she just makes comments a lot and sometimes it gets hard to live with. Especially when shes having a go at me for something like applying fake tan or having a boyfriend she doesnt approve of.
You think thats bad, im asian and one of my mates is white and his parents are BNP supporters and utter racists but unike his parents he's totally the opposite and despite his parents cursing me at my face, we still hang out. He's a very open minded individual and im still convinced he must be adopted.
I have the same problem but the comments are not serious and light hearted they can end up in a big argument sometimes usually whenever anyone has had one too many to drink, best solution is not to bring it up. My mum is sometimes resentful of asians and black people (even though she married a black man and has half black children) and my Dad said once not to trust white people (even though he is married to white woman and has half white children) Bizzare I know.
Bluelight
I have the same problem but the comments are not serious and light hearted they can end up in a big argument sometimes usually whenever anyone has had one too many to drink, best solution is not to bring it up. My mum is sometimes resentful of asians and black people (even though she married a black man and has half black children) and my Dad said once not to trust white people (even though he is married to white woman and has half white children) Bizzare I know.
that really is weird
Lol! Well...considering that Profesh's saying was not witty but poignant, i think that Voltaire quote is kinda moot wouldn't you think?
Thread starter, what does your dad think? I'd love it if you traced your family lineage back and discovered you aren't actually pure white English descendents!
Failing that, ever tried just really sitting down and ask her why she thinks the way she thinks?
Thread starter, what does your dad think? I'd love it if you traced your family lineage back and discovered you aren't actually pure white English descendents!
Failing that, ever tried just really sitting down and ask her why she thinks the way she thinks?
my grandad is racist, he makes really nasty remarks about black people but when I tell him he's being racist he says he's not 
My uncle's ex wife left him for a black guy and they had a kid who is my 2 cousin's half brother and although my 2 cousins live with my grandparents, my grandad doesn't want to hear anything about their half brother! If he finds out that when my little brother last went there to stay with them, my eldest cousin let them both hang out since they're the same age he'd go mental! but we can't change the way he is though we just have to get past it and remember not to mention anything to do with the kid!
I think your mum is a bit out of line to say that about your boyfriend though, if he wasn't Italian but was really mean to you would she like him then?
My uncle's ex wife left him for a black guy and they had a kid who is my 2 cousin's half brother and although my 2 cousins live with my grandparents, my grandad doesn't want to hear anything about their half brother! If he finds out that when my little brother last went there to stay with them, my eldest cousin let them both hang out since they're the same age he'd go mental! but we can't change the way he is though we just have to get past it and remember not to mention anything to do with the kid!
I think your mum is a bit out of line to say that about your boyfriend though, if he wasn't Italian but was really mean to you would she like him then?
My parents can be a bit zionist and nutty. They're suspicous of anyone non-white but probably would just be patronising to them rather than nasty.
The only thing to do is to have a conversation with her about it. Ask her why she thinks these things and defeat her with logical arguments and figures. If she reads the daily mail, ask her to read a different newspaper.
My mum is like that, although not so bad i don't think. But she is always making comments about black people and foreign people. She used to call them 'colored' but i just tell her off and i hate it so much. She is ALWAYS doing it, it's getting better now, but only because of the comments i make about what she says. I think you just need to be straight out with her, tell her you don't like it, that she's free to feel that way, as long as she doesn't express it around you, that they are just as good as us. Maybe it will help...maybe it won't...but it's worth a try.
True Love
Thread starter, what does your dad think? I'd love it if you traced your family lineage back and discovered you aren't actually pure white English descendents!
Failing that, ever tried just really sitting down and ask her why she thinks the way she thinks?
Thread starter, what does your dad think? I'd love it if you traced your family lineage back and discovered you aren't actually pure white English descendents!
Failing that, ever tried just really sitting down and ask her why she thinks the way she thinks?
My dad just doesnt say anything about it. He doesnt comment. But then again, his dad really is very racist and rude so he was brought up surrounded by comments like that. I think he sort of agrees with her.
And she thinks the way she thinks because of how she was brought up too. From the sounds of it, her parents had the same attitudes she has now.
And ironically, as someone mentioned, my mum does read the daily mail lol
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