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    so, I'm gonna be 18 soon, and i'm hopefully going to uni in September, but obviously, i'll be back to visit a lot and everything, and I'd quite like a double bed for my birthday.

    I've brought this up before with my parents, and they were like lolno that's loads of washing, but i do my own washing now and this isn't an issue. I brought it up recently, and they say the concern is the cost of the mattress, although this isn't really that valid, because i work, and would be able to pay for it if i saved up.

    So basically, my mum (ngl, that's who i need to persuade) doesn't like the idea, because she says doesn't understand why I want one. I'm not great at arguing, because I don't like it, so I cave really quickly, but I figured I might ask to see if anyone has any good arguments for (or against, i'll be open minded) it.
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    well why do you want one?

    I take it she thinks you want a double bed so there's space for two?

    To be honest I have a single at home and a double at uni, I like the double at uni cos my partner stays at mine 95% of the time but couldn't really care less about having one at home, I know lots of people do say it's nicer to have more space, and I suppose it is a bit more 'grown up'

    tbh if you're going to pay for it I dont think your mum can argue against you too much
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    (Original post by doodle_333)
    well why do you want one?

    I take it she thinks you want a double bed so there's space for two?

    To be honest I have a single at home and a double at uni, I like the double at uni cos my partner stays at mine 95% of the time but couldn't really care less about having one at home, I know lots of people do say it's nicer to have more space, and I suppose it is a bit more 'grown up'

    tbh if you're going to pay for it I dont think your mum can argue against you too much
    I do genuinely just want one for the lounging space. Also my cat. Cus otherwise she boots me off. (that's a terrible reason XD )

    that's probably right, and it doesn't help that I have just got a new boyfriend.

    I didn't know you could get doubles at uni? Are you in Halls?
    She can't do much about it if i pay for it, but my parents are the sort where (because i don't earn much) if i want something, and they don't think it's a bad idea, they'll chip in a bit, which would help a lot.

    Thanks for the response
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    (Original post by Grace_14)
    I do genuinely just want one for the lounging space. Also my cat. Cus otherwise she boots me off. (that's a terrible reason XD )

    that's probably right, and it doesn't help that I have just got a new boyfriend.

    I didn't know you could get doubles at uni? Are you in Halls?
    She can't do much about it if i pay for it, but my parents are the sort where (because i don't earn much) if i want something, and they don't think it's a bad idea, they'll chip in a bit, which would help a lot.

    Thanks for the response
    yeah plenty of people have doubles at uni although they're usually '3/4' sized beds, but big enough for two, I'm actually in private halls but plenty on campus get a double bed (although you usually pay for the privelege...)

    what I would advise you is to just be really straight with your parents (even if it's a bit uncomfortable) and ask if it's because of your boyfriend and just be honest with them about your intentions, tell them you wont expect any rules they may have about sleepovers to change etc, if you show them you can have a mature conversation they will be a lot more inclined to trust you
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    Thinking laterally, you could suggest to them they can use your room as a spare room for guests during university term time if your room has a double in it.
 
 
 
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