Should gf's come to 18th birthdays?

Well my 18th is later this month...(wont say the exacty date coz my girlfriend is hovering around these forums) and my girlfriend knew the date...

She went to work and then was offered overtime for my birthday. She obviously knew it was my birthday on that day, but she took the day anyway. I do admire that she told me straight away (granted it was over MSN :frown:

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And I understand that decision to be honest, and i am "fine" with it. Well to be honest im a bit down about it... because I really wanted there. Not much I can do about it now, but just wnated to get it off my cheast.

Also wanted to discuss whether I was reacting badly? Do you expect your partner to be there for "important" dates?

Reply 1

Sheen

11

well since she cant come, couldnt you two arrange a little get together another day for your birthday. you could make is special and stuff

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

I didn't turn up to my boyfriend's 18th, he was a bit upset but I think it doesn't really matter. Is she tight on money? She might just want to take that opportunity, but it doesn't mean that she doesn't care about you or whatever. Birthdays are all hyped up anyway. Hope you had a good time anyway.

Reply 3

Gio

3

Anonymous

I didn't turn up to my boyfriend's 18th, he was a bit upset but I think it doesn't really matter. Is she tight on money? She might just want to take that opportunity, but it doesn't mean that she doesn't care about you or whatever. Birthdays are all hyped up anyway. Hope you had a good time anyway.

or maybe it's a surprise *cough*

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Doubt its a suprise.

Oh and anon2: hasnt happened yet. Although I do agree birthdays are a bit hyped up... but it is 18th :P Cant do too much though as I have to leave the next day early to reading festival...:s

Reply 5

Harv616

9

She sounds like a bitch

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

BhArJ

She sounds like a bitch

B - Beautiful
I - Intelligent
T - Talented
C - Cute
H - Humorous

Yup that she is :wink:

Reply 7

Harv616

9

Anonymous

B - Beautiful
I - Intelligent
T - Talented
C - Cute
H - Humorous

Yup that she is :wink:

yeah.....she dosent care much tho does she

She picked a few hours of overtime (which she can get on other days anyway) over her boyfriends 18th birthday? yeah sounds like a great girl to me.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

BhArJ

yeah.....she dosent care much tho does she

She picked a few hours of overtime (which she can get on other days anyway) over her boyfriends 18th birthday? yeah sounds like a great girl to me.

Yeah i agree its not the nicest thing to do. And it does hurt a little, but not much I can do about it. Ill talk to her about it and hopefully she will change the overtime, but i cant really force her too...

Reply 9

crazy4dancin

She's being well tight, I would say that behaviour like that demonstrates that she doesn't care about you. May be you should talk to her about it. I think she should go to your 18th in fact, why wouldn't she want to?xx

Reply 10

True Love

Personally, if i were in your position, i'd be bummed too. It's natural; i'd be disappointed if my gf couldn't turn up to my 18th.

Did she give any reason why she took the job on your birthday anyway? Might clear up a few thigns and make you feel better? And hey, she might have one kick ass present for you to make up for her absence! :biggrin:

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

Basically she said she was working on my birthday but she hoped it was okay because she was seeing me for the next 4 days straight...

Reply 12

True Love

If that's the case, then why couldn't she reschedule and work on one of the "4 days straight" instead of your birthday?

It just sounds odd to me. To answer your questions, i believe girlfriends should be there for their bfs' birthdays, only if they had a really really good excuse.

Reply 13

mermania

16

i think you're overreacting.
no-one cares about birthdays anyway, they're just overhyped nonsense

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

OP

those 4 days straight are reading festival....

Reply 15

55909

1

somtimes things like that happen, can she see u before she starts work or after she finishes? I can see both side of the story, sometimes its so hard to get the over time when u need the cash , maybe its because it doesn't come often for her. Yea its you're birthday and it sucks she cant be there for it but why not try to come to a compromise why doesnt she stay at yours the night before so she can see u your birthday morning before she goes to work or meet her from work when she finishes and spend the rest of it together? im sure you'll work it all out fine and they'll be a valid reason for her actions :smile:

*~ Robs ~*

Reply 16

prettyblueeyes

13

I'd be seriously annoyed if my boyfriend did that to me and it meant I wouldn't get to see him on my birthday, especially my 18th.

Reply 17

True Love

Anonymous

those 4 days straight are reading festival....

Oh, making more sense. If that's the case, then yeah i think it's ok she misses your 18th. I mean 4 days away at Reading will be awesome with you and your girlfriend. You'll have so much fun!

And birthday's aren't overhyped nonsense. They're an excuse to party-hardy and celebrate with your friends. The landmark ages, 16, 18, 21 are the best ones too!

Reply 18

mermania

16

True Love

And birthday's aren't overhyped nonsense. They're an excuse to party-hardy and celebrate with your friends. The landmark ages, 16, 18, 21 are the best ones too!

why do people need an excuse to "party-hardy" though? If they want to do it they should just do it, not wait for some particular date to give them permission.

besides, I've been through two of the landmark ages and can't say I felt anything special or great about them.

Reply 19

Anonymous #3

Anonymous

Well my 18th is later this month...(wont say the exacty date coz my girlfriend is hovering around these forums) and my girlfriend knew the date...

Errrrm, you kinda just ruined that by saying it's the day before Reading :p:

I went to the 18th birthday of a guy I wasn't going out with, and who lived about 100 miles away, because I love him to bits and I knew he really wanted me to make it. We're going out now, but that still has nothing to do with it. I made the effort because I COULD, and because it made him happy... maybe she needs to work the extra hours to pay for your present?

Should gf's come to 18th birthdays?

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