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DurhamXI
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Basically i have been thinking about how much i have changed in a few years. A few years ago i was all about going to bars and clubs and trying to have sex with as many girls as possible. I was highly attracted to new and different girls all of the time and in general i was out of control. I was having sex with basically every girl that i could get, i had no standards when i was drunk and i have some regrets.

As i lived the "going out on the pull" lifestyle from 17-22, I have now totally lost any interest in new girls and i am much more relationship focused.
I am thinking, i am 22, soon to turn 23 next month. Is there something wrong with me? It is like when new girls are interested in me i just cannot be bothered anymore.
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"I have to be honest with myself too with this. I have to admit, I am a promiscuous guy. I am 22 and I really like women, I am not attracted to older women (30+, even late 20's), I like younger girls/women from 17-23.
And yes, I don't want to look for serious relationships, I am interested in fun and sex.

I am dreading getting older, when my looks will fade most probably in my late 30's I will not be able to casually date the girls I am attracted to anymore. I am 23 next month and I hate the idea of getting older.

I know you will probably think "You just have not met the right one yet" or "You will change", but I honestly don't think I will. It is not about 'growing up' but more the type of personality I have.

It is also not the fact that I cannot hold good relationships with women older and in the same age group. I can do that just fine, but for me it is not fulfilling. I just don't feel that same raw feeling of wanting to dominate the girl sexually (if that makes sense).

I won't lie, I will probably use escorts when I get into my mid 30's, when the younger girls are not interested anymore. But, you know, I just feel like time is slipping by and I always compulsively try to get with as many girls as possible (I know, it is promiscuous) because I know I won't be able to when i get older.


Is this really more unacceptable to society than other modern accepted forms of relationship arrangements?"
Your post are starting to make me think you're gay

don't be gay.


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Edit: I fear for you brah.
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Durham, you could have PM'd me you know I'm easy to talk to!
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(Original post by Yaboy419sDad)
Your post are starting to make me think you're gay

don't be gay.


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Edit: I fear for you brah.
I am in love with the catholic girl still but the relationship basically went down the sink yesterday. My thoughts may just be a bit irrational, but i don't care about other girls anymore and i realise how empty the whole "pulling new girls" scene is for me these days, i don't care anymore.
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(Original post by DurhamXI)
I am in love with the catholic girl still but the relationship basically went down the sink yesterday. My thoughts may just be a bit irrational, but i don't care about other girls anymore and i realise how empty the whole "pulling new girls" scene is for me these days, i don't care anymore.
yeh same.
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I've been like that since I was 16. . I've never seen the appeal in a ONS or going out on the pull tbh. I've been out with mates who have been, and once (post breakup with my ex of 3 years), I had a ONS. She was good looking and we got on at the club but I didn't feel very good about the whole thing the next day.

Nothing wrong with the way you feel mate. From what I've noticed, some of my mates are changing in this way too. Its a part of "growing up" I guess...there's nothing wrong with you at all.

FWB/relationship sex is far better anyway in my experience.
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Durham, you could have PM'd me you know I'm easy to talk to!
Don't worry, I have not completely lost my marbles. Just feel like i have changed and this girl has made me realise how much of a grown child i have been. I have lost her and it was my fault , but i know i have to grow up now basically.
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Don't worry, I have not completely lost my marbles. Just feel like i have changed and this girl has made me realise how much of a grown child i have been. I have lost her and it was my fault , but i know i have to grow up now basically.
Three weeks off TSR can do wonders to help mate.
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I've been like that since I was 16. . I've never seen the appeal in a ONS or going out on the pull tbh. I've been out with mates who have been, and once (post breakup with my ex of 3 years), I had a ONS. She was good looking and we got on at the club but I didn't feel very good about the whole thing the next day.

Nothing wrong with the way you feel mate. From what I've noticed, some of my mates are changing in this way too. Its a part of "growing up" I guess...there's nothing wrong with you at all.

FWB/relationship sex is far better anyway in my experience.
I don't really believe in FWB, they never work out well. As for ONS, aside from the ego boost, it's just empty.
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I don't really believe in FWB, they never work out well. As for ONS, aside from the ego boost, it's just empty.
Well my only one turned into a great relationship so in terms of the FWB principles that was a bit off course. Better than a random shag if you can make it work, though.

I agree on the ONS bit, its pretty pointless. I'd rather enjoy drinking and good banter with my mates on a night out than spending the entire night trying to find a girl to go home with, especially with beer goggles on .
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Don't worry, I have not completely lost my marbles. Just feel like i have changed and this girl has made me realise how much of a grown child i have been. I have lost her and it was my fault , but i know i have to grow up now basically.
Why don't you sit her down and speak to her, tell her what you're worried about. Trust me, communication is the key to a successful relationship no matter what you have done/or are currently doing. Did she tell you anything that seems to be bothering you? Or did she just get up and walk away?
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Why don't you sit her down and speak to her, tell her what you're worried about. Trust me, communication is the key to a successful relationship no matter what you have done/or are currently doing. Did she tell you anything that seems to be bothering you? Or did she just get up and walk away?

We both have commitment issues. I don't want to be the one that is hurt first (based on her history) so i ended things. I want to find someone loyal and who i can be loyal to.
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