Personality!!

Wherever I go, whatever I do people always seem to put me down, it shatters my confidence especially when I’m trying to build it up. For instance, when I talk to others at times they aren't interested.

I smile, I have a laugh. But that's restricted to only when I’m 'feeling' good. Perhaps I’m un-approachable, is it the way I look? The impression I have from others is that I’m unattractive, yet I don't feel this way. On the tube, on holiday, at work, it's all the same. Or could it be my personality?

Do I talk too fast that they don't understand me? I have noticed my conversations end up drying, it's happened at school, college even at university. Perhaps I need the 'wow' factor or do I have already possess that 'wow' factor but not the confidence? How do I get this confidence? Ah heck, perhaps I should have a few double vodka's that should bail me out.

Now where is this leading to? I'm starting my work experience at an IB next week and would like some tips on how best to get along with others. What makes a good personality?

Reply 1

=Keith=

Nothing "makes" a good personality, you "develop" personality as you progress in life.
Take a paper and write down what you want to be, your goals,aims and dreams. Then write down how you can get them and after that write the things which are restricting you from getting them. Then workout what you should do.
I blve no one can improve someone elses personality, its you whos responsible. In public, jus be urself and go smooth. Be confident and dont let anyone put you down... Go with the flow and try to improve urself day by day by noticing whats acceptable and whats not. Its going to take time so be patient

Reply 2

Chumbaniya

I don't think making deliberate attempts to change your personality so that people like you more would be very fruitful. It would probably look like you were trying too hard.

If anything, I'd imagine identifying anything you're not happy with about yourself, and just being aware of these things and how you can overcome them will help you to be more comfortable about yourself, and will thus improve how you appear to others.

Reply 3

sarahb

i think you just need to chill out, stop worrying about it all... be yourself! you can do no more. some will like you, some wont-thats life! if you chil out more and stop fretin about it, you wil naturaly become more approachable, more likeable even! the key is simple, just be yourself, and be happy and proud with who you are :smile: